How May I Serve

April 10, 2019

“Ask not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country.”

John Kennedy

I wrote a book entitled How May I Serve, memoirs of a spiritual waitress. (Pen name Karen Mathews) Being of service gives my soul and spirit the greatest joy. I feel so uplifted when I am helping another person or a group of people. When they are uplifted we all rise. I believe we all want to do this. When we find our purpose and ignite it with passion we will thrive together.

What can you do to uplift someone? How can you be of service? It starts with small acts of kindness. That’s all it takes. Hold the door open for someone. Put a quarter in someones meter that is about to expire. Volunteer your time, donate some money. The more you give the more you get. That’s the law. Happy Giving!

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Fast and Furious

April 3, 2019

If you want to go fast -go alone. If you want to go far-go together.

African Proverb

We seem to have a culture today based on “it’s all about me”. What’s in it for me! But that is not how we are going to get out of the mess that we created over millions of years of evolution. Lets face it, the world is in chaos! Going it alone is a recipe for more disaster.

You might go fast and furious but eventually you are just going to burn out and  fall flat on your face.  The only way we are going to evolve is to work together. To cooperate and to co-create. This is a time in history were we need to join hands and help each other. To lift each other up and come together, rather than tear each other down and compete. That old mind-set is what  got us in to this mess from the beginning. We lost our way, and we are afraid to ask for directions.


If we begin to work and play together we can reach  highest you never even dreamed of alone. There is no I in team. This is a collective process. Where two or more are gathered anything is possible. Are you in?

 


I’m Having A Heart On

March 28, 2019

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart.

 

My heart is busting open with love, joy, gratitude, abundance, happiness and all good things. I’m literally having a heart on! That’s when Oxytocin (the love hormone) stimulates the production on nitric oxide which actually pumps more blood into the heart area engorging it. Once you have coherence in your heart and mind you will feel complete. When you feel complete you don’t want or need anything and everything can then come to you! It is the coolest feeling ever!!!


When my heart is open I just want to share this feeling with everyone! All I want is for others to feel this good. People are more stressed out then ever. There is so much change happening in the world that people are getting so overwhelmed.  Anxiety and depression is a pandemic these days. If you could only learn a few tools, techniques and strategies to connect on a heart level, you too can have a heart on.  All it takes is to let go of all the things that doesn’t bring you joy and start focusing on the things that do. The more you do this the more you activate your heart center and send energy there. If you need support, reach out. You will be so happy you did!


Look Within

March 20, 2019

If you think you can you are right. If you think you can’t you are right too.

Henry Ford

Is there something you want to change in your life? Do you want to be happier, healthier or wealthier? Have other people convinced you that you’re not good enough? Well it’s not true. You are enough! You are more then enough! If you knew how magnificent you truly are, you would amaze yourself.

When I really understood this, and believe me, I  still sometimes forget. But when I truly stay aware of this truth, wow, the heavens open up. As it says in the Bible, the kingdom of heaven is within. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t get well, or do anything. Believe that you have the power to heal, to be, do or have what you can imagine. Just let go of the old beliefs that aren’t serving you and belief in you.

All you have to do is keep your image of who you want to be. Stay in that mind set and hang with people who believe in you too. Find your tribe. A good tribe that vibrates a high energy and supports you. Again, if you think you can you are right. If you think you can’t, you are right too.


I’m So Frustrated

March 13, 2019

When you are learning something new, do you get totally frustrated if you aren’t picking it up as easily as you would like? Learning a new skill requires effort, focus, concentration, repetition, desire and a host of other things that keep you engaged. It can be frustrating!

It is part of the learning curve. I’m going through this right now. I am involved in 3 online courses that has got me screaming sometimes. I have so much work to do. I feel like I’m back in school. Well I am kinda. I love to learn. I love to dig deep into subjects of the mind. It’s my addiction. I am fascinated by how the brain works so I’m studying neuroscience. It ain’t easy. I just want to throw all the books up in the air sometimes.

 

Thank God I know this is a part of the learning process. I know I will get really good at understanding how the brain works when I keep learning, studying and applying this material to my every day life.

So how about you? What would you like to learn? Maybe you would like to learn a new language. You might suck at speaking it for awhile but with practice you will get better and better.

How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, Practice, Practice…..


Another Fine Mess

March 6, 2019

Don’t be ashamed of your story it will inspire others.

I can’t even count how many messes I got myself into through the course of my life. Actually I wrote a book about them all. How May I Serve. I have a pen name Karen Mathews. You can go to http://www.howmayiserve.net or http://www.monicabennett.net to find out about all the messy details. And girl is it juicy!!!!

Boy, I was a hot mess. But you know what I did? I turned my mess into a message! That’s rights, I turned it around, upside down, inside out, side ways and twisted it so much, that’s you won’t recognize me from who I am now. How about you? Are their some messes you want to clean up? Before you do, be honest with yourself, become aware of them and forgive yourself. Then find the support you need to turn your mess into a message. You just might inspire someone else to find the strength and confidence to know their not a f*ck up. When you know better you do better. At the time I knew nothing!!! I knew jack sh*t!  I was an insecure, lost, frightened young girl. But I needed to smell the coffee or (I like to smell roses more) really quickly because I was cruising for a bruising.

So if you’re reading this and you’ve gotten yourself in some messes, this might be the sign you were looking for to get out of shame, blame and all those emotions that keep you in the dark. It’s okay. The more you bring light to your wounds the more you can heal.

Ask for help! Reach out! You’re not alone.


I’d Like to Get to Know You

February 27, 2019

“To get to the next level of greatness depends on the quality of the culture, which depends on the quality of relationships, which depends on the quality of conversations. Everything happens through conversations.”

 Judith E. Glaser

Why is it that negative conversations and comments stay with us so much longer than a positive one? If we are in a fight or argument with our co-worker, boss, spouse, friend, or relative, we tend to hold on to those emotions much longer than when we are getting along and cooperating.

Well it has to do with how we are wired. Our brains release hormones and neuro-peptides such as adrenaline and cortisol when we are stressed, angry or feeling bad. These chemicals last for 26 hours or more in our blood stream.

When we are happy and feeling good, we release the chemical oxytocin. This is the love hormone, or what is called the tend and befriend hormone.

Unfortunately, oxytocin does not stay in our bodies very long, so it must be replenished often. The good news is that when we become aware of this, we can change the way we communicate with others to down regulate the stress hormones and up regulate the feel-good ones.

One of the best ways to do this is by looking into the eyes of the person you are talking to.

Being mindful of how our behaviors affect others is key to building trust and transforming a conversation from negative and stress producing one to a positive and cooperative one.

The bottom line is this, a defining question for your company is: What is the quality of the emotional relationships here?

By learning a few tools, strategies, and techniques you can change the dynamics of the environment where everyone feels good. And when everyone feels the love, productivity goes way up too.

Understanding the Neuroscience of Conversations and applying this wisdom inside companies transforms individuals, teams, and organizations and opens new pathways for mutual success.

Are you ready to transform your company?

 


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