If you think you can you are right. If you think you can’t you are right too.
Is there something you want to change in your life? Do you want to be happier, healthier or wealthier? Have other people convinced you that you’re not good enough? Well it’s not true. You are enough! You are more then enough! If you knew how magnificent you truly are, you would amaze yourself.
When I really understood this, and believe me, I still sometimes forget. But when I truly stay aware of this truth, wow, the heavens open up. As it says in the Bible, the kingdom of heaven is within. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t get well, or do anything. Believe that you have the power to heal, to be, do or have what you can imagine. Just let go of the old beliefs that aren’t serving you and belief in you.
All you have to do is keep your image of who you want to be. Stay in that mind set and hang with people who believe in you too. Find your tribe. A good tribe that vibrates a high energy and supports you. Again, if you think you can you are right. If you think you can’t, you are right too.
When you are learning something new, do you get totally frustrated if you aren’t picking it up as easily as you would like? Learning a new skill requires effort, focus, concentration, repetition, desire and a host of other things that keep you engaged. It can be frustrating!
It is part of the learning curve. I’m going through this right now. I am involved in 3 online courses that has got me screaming sometimes. I have so much work to do. I feel like I’m back in school. Well I am kinda. I love to learn. I love to dig deep into subjects of the mind. It’s my addiction. I am fascinated by how the brain works so I’m studying neuroscience. It ain’t easy. I just want to throw all the books up in the air sometimes.
Thank God I know this is a part of the learning process. I know I will get really good at understanding how the brain works when I keep learning, studying and applying this material to my every day life.
So how about you? What would you like to learn? Maybe you would like to learn a new language. You might suck at speaking it for awhile but with practice you will get better and better.
How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, Practice, Practice…..
Don’t be ashamed of your story it will inspire others.
I can’t even count how many messes I got myself into through the course of my life. Actually I wrote a book about them all. How May I Serve. I have a pen name Karen Mathews. You can go to http://www.howmayiserve.net or http://www.monicabennett.net to find out about all the messy details. And girl is it juicy!!!!
Boy, I was a hot mess. But you know what I did? I turned my mess into a message! That’s rights, I turned it around, upside down, inside out, side ways and twisted it so much, that’s you won’t recognize me from who I am now. How about you? Are their some messes you want to clean up? Before you do, be honest with yourself, become aware of them and forgive yourself. Then find the support you need to turn your mess into a message. You just might inspire someone else to find the strength and confidence to know their not a f*ck up. When you know better you do better. At the time I knew nothing!!! I knew jack sh*t! I was an insecure, lost, frightened young girl. But I needed to smell the coffee or (I like to smell roses more) really quickly because I was cruising for a bruising.
So if you’re reading this and you’ve gotten yourself in some messes, this might be the sign you were looking for to get out of shame, blame and all those emotions that keep you in the dark. It’s okay. The more you bring light to your wounds the more you can heal.
“To get to the next level of greatness depends on the quality of the culture, which depends on the quality of relationships, which depends on the quality of conversations. Everything happens through conversations.”
Judith E. Glaser
Why is it that negative conversations and comments stay with us so much longer than a positive one? If we are in a fight or argument with our co-worker, boss, spouse, friend, or relative, we tend to hold on to those emotions much longer than when we are getting along and cooperating.
Well it has to do with how we are wired. Our brains release hormones and neuro-peptides such as adrenaline and cortisol when we are stressed, angry or feeling bad. These chemicals last for 26 hours or more in our blood stream.
When we are happy and feeling good, we release the chemical oxytocin. This is the love hormone, or what is called the tend and befriend hormone.
Unfortunately, oxytocin does not stay in our bodies very long, so it must be replenished often. The good news is that when we become aware of this, we can change the way we communicate with others to down regulate the stress hormones and up regulate the feel-good ones.
One of the best ways to do this is by looking into the eyes of the person you are talking to.
Being mindful of how our behaviors affect others is key to building trust and transforming a conversation from negative and stress producing one to a positive and cooperative one.
The bottom line is this, a defining question for your company is: What is the quality of the emotional relationships here?
By learning a few tools, strategies, and techniques you can change the dynamics of the environment where everyone feels good. And when everyone feels the love, productivity goes way up too.
Understanding the Neuroscience of Conversations and applying this wisdom inside companies transforms individuals, teams, and organizations and opens new pathways for mutual success.
One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was from a horse master. “Its not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.”
Stress, it is simply unavoidable, right? I mean it seems like every day there is something that can take you on a journey that disrupts your serenity. Just yesterday, I was working on a power point presentation for a client who needed to insert some videos into it. Now I don’t normally do this sort of thing, however, I thought I would help him out. Yikes, it took me on a road to oblivion, but, I did get it done. Then, I came home to find that my older daughter didn’t clean out the garage like she promised. At this point, I needed to take some deep breaths take a walk, and shake of the frustration of the day. Whew, some days are like this.
What takes you over the edge? I know when I get stressed, the best thing for me to do is to do something physical to release the tension in my body, because it becomes physiological. In other words, my bodies functions get compromised and it goes into survival mode, changing the way my organs & cells respond. It does this so fast that if I don’t change my energy, over time, this can become a repetitive pattern causing all sorts of negative reaction to occur.
So, take a walk, go to a yoga class, dance or take a bike ride. Find something that brings joy to your day.Change the energy before it gets locked into your physiology. Go from stressed to blessed, it feels so much better!
When your in a positive state of mind, thinking and feeling good things, you will begin to attract the people that will co-create with you. Amazing opportunities will show up, circumstances will change and conditions will improve. Form a mastermind group that will assist you in developing all your gift, talents and abilities.
Call to action: Do your best to aspire to things you desire. Stay in this vibration as long as you can every day and watch what happens. Love to hear your successes. Happy Vibes!