How many times have you been a conversation were someone was insisting on being right? It seemed like they weren’t even listening to what you had to say. They were just addicted to wanting to be RIGHT! They just wanted to prove their point, position or claim. Every time that we get in this mind-set we actually release dopamine into our body and get a good high from it. We want to prove a point, get the right answers and look smart.
Now being smart is great, however if there is no emotional intelligence behind the smarts we are really not growing, learning and communicating well. We actually remain stuck, and actually are damaging our relationships in business and in our personal life. If you are a boss or in a leadership position, this is vital for the health of your company.
It is wanting to be in a position of power and control rather than cooperation. When we learn how to listen and just be open to another point of view, it will allow so much trust and open dialog. We shift to create the freedom to explore possibilities and look for solutions to problems rather than slam the door shut on any other view point.
So the next time you feel the urge to be RIGHT, rather than react, take a moment to respond in a different way.
Here are three suggestions to keep an open mind and respond rather than that knee jerk reaction:
1-Ask- How do you feel?
2- Ask- What do you think?
3-Ask-How can we work together to find an answer?
Would your rather be RIGHT or do the RIGHT thing?
Here is a short video explaining how our ego gets in the way of our success.
If you would like to find a healthier way to communicate let’s talk! Call me.