What Would You Do?

January 15, 2020

Speak up, because the day you don’t speak up for the things that matter to you is the day your freedom truly ends.

What would you do if you witnessed something that you knew was unethical, immoral, corrupt or unjust? It’s a big question. What would you do if you worked for a company that you knew was participating in shady affairs or was discriminating someone? Would you stay for the security of a pay check or would you speak up and risk being fired? My grandmother told me a story of when she was a young woman living in Munich during the war. She was catholic but against the Third Reich. The typical greeting was to extend and raise up your arm and say heil hitler. She didn’t do that, but spit on the ground instead. By the sheer grace of G-d she wasn’t killed. My great grandmother hid many people in her home who would have been taken off to a concentration camp too.

I often ask myself this question. I don’t thing I could live with myself if I didn’t speak up against injustice. If you keep silent  and turn away from speaking up about something you know isn’t moral, then we all suffer the consequences in the long run. It’s not a popular thing to do. It takes tremendous self confidence and conviction to speak up against a system that has been getting away with corruption.

Whether it’s something big, like going against a company like Monsanto that produces the carcinogenic product roundup or someone being harassed who doesn’t have the means to defend themselves in your place of employment, speaking up is the ethical thing to do.  If you want your children to live in a harmonious, honest and free culture, use your voice to speak up. It’s that important.


High Anxiety

November 14, 2019

The Holidays are quickly approaching and that means people become more stressed than any other time of year. People put so much pressure on themselves to get everything done. Being around family can trigger certain behaviors that you would rather avoid.  It seems like everyone is so stressed out these days. Anxiety is the # 1 condition that children are now plagued with. The research is showing that here on Long Island NY, where I live that Xanax is the highest prescribed medication than anywhere else in the country! Why are people so stressed? And a bigger question is why are children becoming so stressed out?

There are three types of stress that people experience.

  • Physical Stress: Injuries to the body, such as broken bones, torn ligaments, wounds or any other trauma that can inflict the body.
  • Chemical Stress: Food poisoning, hang overs, chemical sensitivities, electro-magnetic interference from Wi fi, environmental toxins, viruses and other such reactions.
  • Emotional Stress: Single parenting, working two jobs, divorce, type A personality, work overload, traffic jams, deadlines, unexpected bills, caring for elderly parents and the list can go on and on….

All of these will affect the mind and body in a negative way.

When you are having a difficult time quieting your mind, your body will give you signs that your out of balance. IBS (Irritable bowl syndrome), headaches, rashes, aches and pains and a myriad of other symptoms can appear as well as disturbed sleep, depression and so on. 95% of all illnesses are stress related.

Taking Xanax and other such medication has become a crutch and an addiction. Anxiety can be treated in natural ways by developing a healthy lifestyle.

Here are Seven tools that can help ease the stress and anxiety.

1-Breath: Take a few deep guttural breaths in and out when you feel like your head is spinning and your thoughts are racing. It will calm the neuro-pathways in your brain and relax your body.

2-Movement: Take a walk, dance, yoga, qigong, swim or anything to change the energy in your body. Your body always keeps score. Emotions are energy in motion, so change the energy and change the emotion.

3-Diet: Unfortunately, our food change has become corrupted. The more live natural and organic foods you can eat, the better. Eliminate sugar, processed foods, wheat, meat and dairy as much as possible. It has a direct correlation to anxiety in stress. A healthy microbiome is #1 defense against illness and disease.

4-Meditate: Quieting the mind chatter and focusing on a mantra is a wonderful practice to stay in the present moment and eliminate distraction.

5-Nature: Connect with the outdoors. Take a walk in a wooded area or by the ocean. You are a part of nature and so many people have disconnected themselves from the natural world. Touch the soil with your feet and feel the energy from Mother Earth. It is healing.

6-Purpose: Discover what you love to do and do it every day. What are your gifts, abilities and talents? By focusing on your purpose, you will find that your mind will be absorbed in something greater than your worries.

7-Laugh: Laughter is good medicine. You can heal so many ills through laughter. It is good for the mind/body and soul.

Also reach out and talk to a professional, such as a coach, therapist, or specialist that can help and support you. Having someone who is compassionate and understanding to talk to is vital to heal the wounds, trauma and anxiety that you have bottled up inside yourself.

Let’s change the course of direction for our children and ourselves by utilizing these natural ways to alleviate stress and anxiety rather than numb and medicate.

Let’s become a more compassionate, grateful, loving, caring, understanding, creative and imaginative world. It all starts with YOU!


I Lost My Passport!

November 6, 2019

Focus on the outcome not the obstacle.

Last week I was in Germany celebrating my Mom’s 90th Birthday. It was a great celebration and it was a total surprise to her. People came from all corners of the globe. However, it could have turned out to be a bummer for me since I lost my pocketbook with my passport, wallet, money, credit cards, license and all my identification. I left it on the platform train station seat in Frankfurt. I already boarded the train to Munich when I discovered it missing. Yikes!

How on earth I did that, I really couldn’t say. What I do know is that I had to stay focused and sharp if I wanted to get it back. So, I got off at the next station, took a local train back to Frankfurt and after several attempts to locate it, I went to the information booth and someone had found it and brought it there. OMG, I was so relieved. All my things were still in it!

Although I was stressed and anxious, I kept my mind on my bag and saw it in my minds eye back in my possession. Not for a second would I entertain the thought of not getting it back. Focus on the outcome, not the obstacle..

It is so important to keep your mind sharp and focused on the task ahead. When you’re under stress the best thing you can do is take deep breaths in and out, and keep your thoughts focused on the best possible outcome.

Also, the lesson I learned was I am going use a shoulder wrap to keep my passport and important things in, and stay focused and breath! There’s always a lesson to learn!


But I Meant Well.

October 24, 2019

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

English proverb

How many times have you heard someone say, but I meant well. As a parent, you always want the best for your children and family right? If you own a business, you always want to make the best decisions for your employees, right? In government, the elected officials always want to do their best for the people, right? In corporations, they want to do and be their best for their stake holders and provide quality products and or service, right?

 

I could go on and on listing ways that we all start out with good intentions, however if you do not fully understand what the impact will be, your intentions will backfire and turn into something that is corrupt, hurtful, harmful, and even dangerous. Your intentions must be grounded in spiritual law and sound wisdom. Every intention must be a conscious choose for the greater good of all. The world is in a state of turmoil and upheaval because of intentions based on greed, and the believe that you and I are separate. Families try to protect themselves or make choices based on

 

ignorance. This can be very harmful, even though your intentions weren’t meant to be. Our intentions must be based in love. They must be for the greater good. Things are in chaos due to the lack of understanding, consciousness, compassion and believing that nature is outside of us.

True good intentions, are paved with a holistic approach. It is the golden rule. What we do to one, we do to all. Your intentions are powerful. Your impact is even more powerful. Find kindness, strength, love, compassion, beauty, and virtues of grace in your heart to open yourself to goodness.

 

Good intentions come from the heart, not from the head.

Being of service and keeping yourself humble will be sure fire way to guard against good intentions turning toward hell. Keep the journey onward and upward.

 

 


Stand Up, Speak Up, Step Up

October 17, 2019

“If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything.”

Malcolm X

 

How important are your rights, your values, your morals, your freedom and how you live? You and I have choices as to how we want to live and what matters to us. If you do not put your morals, values and integrity first, anything will sway you to comprise them. That is how important it is to stand by beliefs that just and righteous. This is way different than wanting to be right, this is being open minded and standing up when everyone else is following the crowd.

Ed Stack, the owner of Dick’s Sporting Goods, did just that. He wrote a book It’s How We Play The Game, Build a Business That Takes a Stand. Make a Difference. He did something extraordinary, he stopped selling guns of all kinds. He decided that after all the mass shootings, he couldn’t ethically stand by and watch this continue. It cost his company a whopping quarter of a billion dollars. Let me say that again, a quarter of a billion dollars! He put lives before people. Now that’s integrity!

He is an example of what one person can do to make a huge impact and difference in the future of our country and world. Who will be next to take a stand for change in the multi billion dollar conglomerate giants? Let’s face it there are lots of changes that desperately need to take place to create a more peaceful, healthy and sound world. By each and every one of us, to take a stand for something that touches our hearts, can be the spring board for larger companies to change their policies. Whether  it’s animal rights, child welfare, climate change, healthy food choices or anything that needs reform. Stand up, speak up and step up. Now more than ever, we need your voice to be heard.


Going Down the Rabbit Hole

October 9, 2019

“If you don’t know where your going, you’ll wind up some where else.”

Yogi Berra

What is it that you really want? When I was a teenager, I didn’t have a purpose or direction in life. I didn’t have a focus that kept my attention. My father got sick when I was about 14 years old and passed over when I turned 17. He lived with cancer for a few years which was a very difficult time for my family. I completely rebelled and lost sight of anything and everything that I could have wanted for myself. I had no aspirations or goals. I was just drifting.

I was in  survival mode. As time passed and our family healed from our loss, I was able to begin looking at my future with new eyes. I started focusing on what I wanted in life and applied my gifts and talents to horticulture. I opened a plant business which I truly loved. My attention on learning everything I could about plants grew and grew (and so did my plants). As I evolved so did my passion to learn about nature, health, herbs and about people. This took me to the field I am in today, coaching. I love it!

 

 

You see, when you’re not sure where you want to go, any road will take you there. When you have clarity, you can navigate a path that will bring so much joy, satisfaction and happiness into your life. Having a purpose and sticking with it, is the answer to so many of your life’s questions. So, ask yourself, what do you really want? What are you willing to devote your life too? There is something inside of you that no one else can do just like you! If you want to go down the rabbit hole, make sure it is with a purpose, otherwise any road will take you to no where.

 

 


Change Is Coming

October 3, 2019

 

“Mother Earth is giving birth to a co-creative humanity. There’s not a majority anywhere, because old leadership does not have the authority to guide us.”

Barbara Marx Hubbard

I don’t believe anyone is not feeling some sort of struggle, pain, change, conflict or suffering in their lives or someone close to them. The world is going through a massive evolutionary time.

When you are against someone or thing there is no room for growth, collaboration, co-creation or advancement. You stay stuck in a mind set that is destructive rather than constructive. This pulls things apart rather than brings things together. There is a sense of separation, difference or competition. There can be no winners, everyone losses in this arena. This has been the model of health care, politics, business and relationships that has dominate our world for a millennium but is now collapsing. We can no longer sustain a world this is only concerned with oneself. This is an “I”-Centric focused way of being. The culture of a home, business, organization and world is literally dying because of this way of being.

When we become conscious of the fact that everything is connected and what we do to others, we do to ourselves, we can then begin to embrace a “WE”-Centric way of being.  I mean, even if you look at the word, WE it is full of I’s.

Being kinder, compassionate, understanding and creative is all about sharing and staying open to our differences. Diversity is essential for business growth and expansion. Different points of views and ways of looking at things is a must for the creative process.

Learning how to communicate in a way that unites is the key to creating a culture of cooperation. We are social being. We need each other to survive. Everything you say, think, do and feel effects everything else whether you can visibly see the impact or not. There is an evolution happening. You can choose to do this through revolution or through finding a peaceful solution. We can thrive if we choose to co-create together.

 

 


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