Welcome to the Rat Race

September 12, 2019

“Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75”

Benjamin Franklin

 

Do you wake up in the morning saying “Good God Morning” or “Good Morning GOD”?

Same exact words, completely different energy!

Do you ever wake up with a pit in your stomach, shuffle off to the bathroom to take a shower, feeling tired and down? You don’t want to go to work, and are already complaining about your job.  You get dressed only to find your clothes are way too tight and don’t fit and feel right on. You say some negative things in your head about your body, wanting to lose weight.   Then you go into the kitchen to make yourself some breakfast while absorbing all the negativity from the newspaper you are reading, and you wonder how you got that agita (indigestion).  You then head on out to work and complain about the traffic or mass transit being late and overcrowded. All these things are just building and building up inside of you.

Now you’re at work and you hear other people complaining about their kids, their wife, husband, mother in-law or who ever…

You look at your phone messages and notice that your phone bill is overdue which stirs up all kinds of anxiety inside you.  This sends you on a spiral of negative thoughts like, there never seems to be enough money at the end of the month. Why can’t I keep track of my money and my bills? Why can’t I ever get a break?

Finally, you get home from work, still feeling tired and don’t have the energy to cook something healthy, so you order a pizza, even though you know you’re going to regret it later. The phone rings and it’s from a friend who starts talking about the same problems that he talks about every day. Before you know it, you’ve spend over an hour listening to his kvetching ( the Yiddish word for complaining) .

By now it is late and you get ready for bed. You put on the TV to watch the news and fall asleep with all the negative news blaring into your subconscious mind, reinforcing the doom and gloom.

This goes on day after day, week after week, month after month.  Before you know it, years have gone by. Your body has gotten more out of shape. You have all sorts of aches and pains, and you’re stuck in the same job complaining about the same things!

Welcome to the rat race! This is no way to live! Stop, get off and start doing what makes you happy.  This is your life we are talking about. live it fully! Through understanding some laws of nature you can jump off the wheel and discover yourself!

2020 is quickly approaching. It is the year of clarity and vision (20/20 vision). It will be the best decision you ever made.

 

 

 


Your Wake Up Call!

July 31, 2019

Some people need a wake up call to wake up! Why is it that so many people wait for a crisis to occur before they finally wake up? What is it about having to hit rock bottom to finally make a change? No one really likes to change but it’s the only really constant in life.

Procrastination only means that you do not respect and like yourself enough to do the things that will give you a life of a higher value. You might be afraid of the fear of failure, which is really the fear of being criticized, so you don’t begin and put it off. Day after day, you want to start but that fear subconsciously keeps you paralyzed.  You make up all kinds of excuses why you can’t. Then before you know it, years go by and boom, some sort of crisis hits. It could be a financial, health, or relationship catastrophe.

At first the universe gives you a little nodge letting you know to start taking some action. Then, if you ignore it, you might get a louder alarm trying to wake you up. But if you continue to hit the snooze button, a crisis will interrupt your life. So, why wait? Action conquers fear. Don’t delay, start today!  Need support? It’s advisable to hire a coach. who is your accountability partner and protagonist to guide you on your journey. I have a 30 day program that will jump start your life! Now is your time!


How May I Serve

April 10, 2019

“Ask not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country.”

John Kennedy

I wrote a book entitled How May I Serve, memoirs of a spiritual waitress. (Pen name Karen Mathews) Being of service gives my soul and spirit the greatest joy. I feel so uplifted when I am helping another person or a group of people. When they are uplifted we all rise. I believe we all want to do this. When we find our purpose and ignite it with passion we will thrive together.

What can you do to uplift someone? How can you be of service? It starts with small acts of kindness. That’s all it takes. Hold the door open for someone. Put a quarter in someones meter that is about to expire. Volunteer your time, donate some money. The more you give the more you get. That’s the law. Happy Giving!


I’d Like to Get to Know You

February 27, 2019

“To get to the next level of greatness depends on the quality of the culture, which depends on the quality of relationships, which depends on the quality of conversations. Everything happens through conversations.”

 Judith E. Glaser

Why is it that negative conversations and comments stay with us so much longer than a positive one? If we are in a fight or argument with our co-worker, boss, spouse, friend, or relative, we tend to hold on to those emotions much longer than when we are getting along and cooperating.

Well it has to do with how we are wired. Our brains release hormones and neuro-peptides such as adrenaline and cortisol when we are stressed, angry or feeling bad. These chemicals last for 26 hours or more in our blood stream.

When we are happy and feeling good, we release the chemical oxytocin. This is the love hormone, or what is called the tend and befriend hormone.

Unfortunately, oxytocin does not stay in our bodies very long, so it must be replenished often. The good news is that when we become aware of this, we can change the way we communicate with others to down regulate the stress hormones and up regulate the feel-good ones.

One of the best ways to do this is by looking into the eyes of the person you are talking to.

Being mindful of how our behaviors affect others is key to building trust and transforming a conversation from negative and stress producing one to a positive and cooperative one.

The bottom line is this, a defining question for your company is: What is the quality of the emotional relationships here?

By learning a few tools, strategies, and techniques you can change the dynamics of the environment where everyone feels good. And when everyone feels the love, productivity goes way up too.

Understanding the Neuroscience of Conversations and applying this wisdom inside companies transforms individuals, teams, and organizations and opens new pathways for mutual success.

Are you ready to transform your company?

 


Enough is Enough!

October 18, 2018

 

When we clear the physical clutter from our lives, we literally make way for inspiration and ‘good, orderly direction’ to enter.

Julia Cameron

How much is enough?  Is more really better? If you are continually seeking  more money and things, how can you enjoy what you already have? These are the questions you must  ask yourself if you want to be truly wealthy.  Always wanting more is actually a scarcity mind set.  There is enough for everyone if you could shift your thinking and believing.

Coming from a scarcity mind set is why there is so much waste, addiction and greed in the world. We are running on empty! Enough is enough! In order to be really rich, you must create your own prosperity road map. You must align with the natural laws of wealth. You must become friends with money and establish a wealthy life style.

It really all comes down to feeling good enough. If you feel worthy and really embody this feeling, you will amplify your earning power and activate your wealth building skills in a healthy way!

If you’re feeling like there is something holding you back from true abundance and riches, I would love to help you change that belief.


You’re A Brainiac!

July 19, 2018

We are living in very uncertain times. Things are speeding up so rapidly that if we do not have the knowledge, tools, strategies and techniques to keep up with the pace of these changes we will be left behind groveling in a sea of mediocrity which will never get us to where we truly desire to be. So, the question is, how do we acquire the knowledge and mindset to take us further than we ever thought possible?

This is where coaching comes in. We must begin to do some introspective work to see who you really are. What are your habits, behaviors, beliefs and image about yourself? What is the conversation you are having with yourself? What are the conversation you are having with other people?

It takes .10th of a second for people to determine if they like you and want to engage in doing business with you and .07 seconds to sense they don’t trust you. That’s how fast and important it is for you to really be authentic and know yourself. If you are uncertain in anyway within yourself, people will pick up on this feeling before you even utter hello.

Not only must our intentions be clear, we must be aware of the impact we are having on others. If we only focus on our intention, we can often have a negative impact on others, triggering their fight, flight, freeze or appease impulse which is controlled by the Amygdala in the brain or the lower brain. We immediately will turn people off.

Being aware of your intentions and the impact you want to convey will communicate positive reactions in others, which will lead them to trust and like you. This triggers the Prefontal Cortex, known as the executive or decision making part of the brain.

We actually have seven brains.

1-The Primitive Brain or (reptilian brain- sensors threats)

2-Heart Brain- Our heart is much more than just a pump. (We either sync or not with others)

3-Limbic Brain (Stores memory and history of emotions)

4- Neocortex (Hardwired for language, storing information, basic thinking, reasoning and cognitive skills)

5- Prefrontal Cortex (The youngest part of the brain & often called the executive brain)

6- Gut-Brain – We truly are what we eat. (The gut brain is revolutionizing medicine’s understanding of the links between, mood, health and even the way we think. Scientists call this little brain the ecteric nervous system.)

7-Interstidium- A layer of skin under the epidermis. It communicates and gathers information.

Until we understand how we can link or body, mind and spirit into alignment, we will never truly be successful and live our best life. This knowledge is vital to your success, happiness, and health in these ever -changing times.

Coaching will revolutionize the way you see yourself and propel you to new heights in all areas of your life.

 


Roles Before Souls

April 12, 2018

Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams: who looks inside, awakes.                                                                                                                                          Carl Jung

When was the last time you felt young, free and really alive? You know that child like feeling of endless energy and boundless enthusiasm. What happens to our joy and playful spirit as we age? When we are kids our souls are full of innocence. We were able to connect to our inner light and allow it shine until it got dulled, darkened and dampened by the pressures of life. Our roles got in the way and we forgot that we are souls.

The culture we live in supports our addiction to the outside world and does not promote soul searching. I know that I started looking inward when there was a crisis in my life. I realized that nothing in this world would fill the hole I had in my soul. The only way was inward. There I discovered, uncovered and recovered my connection to spirit and embraced the truth of who I am, a beautiful soul! All addiction, trauma, anxiety, depression and dis-ease is a disconnect from your soul. To reclaim it, takes time, commitment and a daily practice to spiritual principles.

Isn’t it time you reconnect to your soul?  Allow me to shine some light on your path.


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