Let’s Play!

January 22, 2020

” Every time I sit down to play, I learn something new.”

Erroll Garner

The word play, has such a light and fun vibe when you say the word. As apposed to the word work, which has a much more serious connotation behind its energy. Children love to play and are able to take the simplest of objects, use their imaginations and make it into something totally different.  Then we go to school and the playing stops.

 


What happens? Playing is essential to learning. If you are in an environment where there is stress, tension, pressure or any sort of feeling that isn’t relaxed your ability to learn is lessened.  Neuro-science has shown that when your brain senses that it isn’t safe you can not be in a creative mind-set. It is actually in a survival one. Once you don’t feel safe, there is no trust, and where there is no trust, you shut down.

Playing is essential to learning. As adults, we go to work. We don’t say we go to play. Why do we say we play an instrument, or we play sports, rather than work a violin, or work at baseball?  What if you started playing more? What if you started having more fun? What if you started using your imagination and played with ideas to create something new?

The more we bring back the arts in school, in our places of work and in our homes, the more we can learn, and the more we learn, the more fun we have, and the more fun we have the more peaceful we become. Who’s ready to play?


Happy New Year!

January 1, 2020

 

Happy New Year!

What an exciting time to be alive. Never has humanity witnessed so much change. We truly are on the cutting edge of a quantum leap in evolution. However, for you to thrive in 2020, you must have a clear vision on what you want to create and amplitude that picture with an elevated emotion.

The best way to do this, is to write down what it is you want to create and meditate on it in a relaxed state. Choose words and pictures that have a vibrational match to your vision and abracadabra watch what happens.

The words you speak and write are very powerful. It’s like magic. If you want to create something wonderful for 2020, be mindful of the words you use and the emotion behind them. You are literally creating as you speak. What do you want to bring into your life? Good health, happiness, joy, prosperity, friendship, love and all good things are all possible. Keeping your focus on what you desire and giving energy to positive words, thoughts, feelings and actions will manifest your desires.

Every year, I have a single word that I use as my guiding light. This year it is FOCUS. For me this signifies concentration on my purpose and life’s work. It will allow me to be more present in everything I do and everyone I am with. To give my full attention on being in the now. What is your word? What word describes what you want to create for 2020?

That one word can open worlds you never knew existed if you follow your heart and allow it to guide you. Maybe it’s love, abundance, joy, passion or whatever you choose, but live every day with that word being the center point in which you dedicate everything you do. So, as the world turns another year into the future, you too can turn your attention and focus on your best year. Together, each and everyone of us can create a more peaceful, loving and healthier world if we focus on manifesting it and create it through our words. Use them wisely.

All the very best,

Monica


Welcome to the Rat Race

September 12, 2019

“Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75”

Benjamin Franklin

 

Do you wake up in the morning saying “Good God Morning” or “Good Morning GOD”?

Same exact words, completely different energy!

Do you ever wake up with a pit in your stomach, shuffle off to the bathroom to take a shower, feeling tired and down? You don’t want to go to work, and are already complaining about your job.  You get dressed only to find your clothes are way too tight and don’t fit and feel right on. You say some negative things in your head about your body, wanting to lose weight.   Then you go into the kitchen to make yourself some breakfast while absorbing all the negativity from the newspaper you are reading, and you wonder how you got that agita (indigestion).  You then head on out to work and complain about the traffic or mass transit being late and overcrowded. All these things are just building and building up inside of you.

Now you’re at work and you hear other people complaining about their kids, their wife, husband, mother in-law or who ever…

You look at your phone messages and notice that your phone bill is overdue which stirs up all kinds of anxiety inside you.  This sends you on a spiral of negative thoughts like, there never seems to be enough money at the end of the month. Why can’t I keep track of my money and my bills? Why can’t I ever get a break?

Finally, you get home from work, still feeling tired and don’t have the energy to cook something healthy, so you order a pizza, even though you know you’re going to regret it later. The phone rings and it’s from a friend who starts talking about the same problems that he talks about every day. Before you know it, you’ve spend over an hour listening to his kvetching ( the Yiddish word for complaining) .

By now it is late and you get ready for bed. You put on the TV to watch the news and fall asleep with all the negative news blaring into your subconscious mind, reinforcing the doom and gloom.

This goes on day after day, week after week, month after month.  Before you know it, years have gone by. Your body has gotten more out of shape. You have all sorts of aches and pains, and you’re stuck in the same job complaining about the same things!

Welcome to the rat race! This is no way to live! Stop, get off and start doing what makes you happy.  This is your life we are talking about. live it fully! Through understanding some laws of nature you can jump off the wheel and discover yourself!

2020 is quickly approaching. It is the year of clarity and vision (20/20 vision). It will be the best decision you ever made.

 

 

 


Your Wake Up Call!

July 31, 2019

Some people need a wake up call to wake up! Why is it that so many people wait for a crisis to occur before they finally wake up? What is it about having to hit rock bottom to finally make a change? No one really likes to change but it’s the only really constant in life.

Procrastination only means that you do not respect and like yourself enough to do the things that will give you a life of a higher value. You might be afraid of the fear of failure, which is really the fear of being criticized, so you don’t begin and put it off. Day after day, you want to start but that fear subconsciously keeps you paralyzed.  You make up all kinds of excuses why you can’t. Then before you know it, years go by and boom, some sort of crisis hits. It could be a financial, health, or relationship catastrophe.

At first the universe gives you a little nodge letting you know to start taking some action. Then, if you ignore it, you might get a louder alarm trying to wake you up. But if you continue to hit the snooze button, a crisis will interrupt your life. So, why wait? Action conquers fear. Don’t delay, start today!  Need support? It’s advisable to hire a coach. who is your accountability partner and protagonist to guide you on your journey. I have a 30 day program that will jump start your life! Now is your time!


How May I Serve

April 10, 2019

“Ask not what your country can do for you but what you can do for your country.”

John Kennedy

I wrote a book entitled How May I Serve, memoirs of a spiritual waitress. (Pen name Karen Mathews) Being of service gives my soul and spirit the greatest joy. I feel so uplifted when I am helping another person or a group of people. When they are uplifted we all rise. I believe we all want to do this. When we find our purpose and ignite it with passion we will thrive together.

What can you do to uplift someone? How can you be of service? It starts with small acts of kindness. That’s all it takes. Hold the door open for someone. Put a quarter in someones meter that is about to expire. Volunteer your time, donate some money. The more you give the more you get. That’s the law. Happy Giving!


I’d Like to Get to Know You

February 27, 2019

“To get to the next level of greatness depends on the quality of the culture, which depends on the quality of relationships, which depends on the quality of conversations. Everything happens through conversations.”

 Judith E. Glaser

Why is it that negative conversations and comments stay with us so much longer than a positive one? If we are in a fight or argument with our co-worker, boss, spouse, friend, or relative, we tend to hold on to those emotions much longer than when we are getting along and cooperating.

Well it has to do with how we are wired. Our brains release hormones and neuro-peptides such as adrenaline and cortisol when we are stressed, angry or feeling bad. These chemicals last for 26 hours or more in our blood stream.

When we are happy and feeling good, we release the chemical oxytocin. This is the love hormone, or what is called the tend and befriend hormone.

Unfortunately, oxytocin does not stay in our bodies very long, so it must be replenished often. The good news is that when we become aware of this, we can change the way we communicate with others to down regulate the stress hormones and up regulate the feel-good ones.

One of the best ways to do this is by looking into the eyes of the person you are talking to.

Being mindful of how our behaviors affect others is key to building trust and transforming a conversation from negative and stress producing one to a positive and cooperative one.

The bottom line is this, a defining question for your company is: What is the quality of the emotional relationships here?

By learning a few tools, strategies, and techniques you can change the dynamics of the environment where everyone feels good. And when everyone feels the love, productivity goes way up too.

Understanding the Neuroscience of Conversations and applying this wisdom inside companies transforms individuals, teams, and organizations and opens new pathways for mutual success.

Are you ready to transform your company?

 


Enough is Enough!

October 18, 2018

 

When we clear the physical clutter from our lives, we literally make way for inspiration and ‘good, orderly direction’ to enter.

Julia Cameron

How much is enough?  Is more really better? If you are continually seeking  more money and things, how can you enjoy what you already have? These are the questions you must  ask yourself if you want to be truly wealthy.  Always wanting more is actually a scarcity mind set.  There is enough for everyone if you could shift your thinking and believing.

Coming from a scarcity mind set is why there is so much waste, addiction and greed in the world. We are running on empty! Enough is enough! In order to be really rich, you must create your own prosperity road map. You must align with the natural laws of wealth. You must become friends with money and establish a wealthy life style.

It really all comes down to feeling good enough. If you feel worthy and really embody this feeling, you will amplify your earning power and activate your wealth building skills in a healthy way!

If you’re feeling like there is something holding you back from true abundance and riches, I would love to help you change that belief.


You’re A Brainiac!

July 19, 2018

We are living in very uncertain times. Things are speeding up so rapidly that if we do not have the knowledge, tools, strategies and techniques to keep up with the pace of these changes we will be left behind groveling in a sea of mediocrity which will never get us to where we truly desire to be. So, the question is, how do we acquire the knowledge and mindset to take us further than we ever thought possible?

This is where coaching comes in. We must begin to do some introspective work to see who you really are. What are your habits, behaviors, beliefs and image about yourself? What is the conversation you are having with yourself? What are the conversation you are having with other people?

It takes .10th of a second for people to determine if they like you and want to engage in doing business with you and .07 seconds to sense they don’t trust you. That’s how fast and important it is for you to really be authentic and know yourself. If you are uncertain in anyway within yourself, people will pick up on this feeling before you even utter hello.

Not only must our intentions be clear, we must be aware of the impact we are having on others. If we only focus on our intention, we can often have a negative impact on others, triggering their fight, flight, freeze or appease impulse which is controlled by the Amygdala in the brain or the lower brain. We immediately will turn people off.

Being aware of your intentions and the impact you want to convey will communicate positive reactions in others, which will lead them to trust and like you. This triggers the Prefontal Cortex, known as the executive or decision making part of the brain.

We actually have seven brains.

1-The Primitive Brain or (reptilian brain- sensors threats)

2-Heart Brain- Our heart is much more than just a pump. (We either sync or not with others)

3-Limbic Brain (Stores memory and history of emotions)

4- Neocortex (Hardwired for language, storing information, basic thinking, reasoning and cognitive skills)

5- Prefrontal Cortex (The youngest part of the brain & often called the executive brain)

6- Gut-Brain – We truly are what we eat. (The gut brain is revolutionizing medicine’s understanding of the links between, mood, health and even the way we think. Scientists call this little brain the ecteric nervous system.)

7-Interstidium- A layer of skin under the epidermis. It communicates and gathers information.

Until we understand how we can link or body, mind and spirit into alignment, we will never truly be successful and live our best life. This knowledge is vital to your success, happiness, and health in these ever -changing times.

Coaching will revolutionize the way you see yourself and propel you to new heights in all areas of your life.

 


Roles Before Souls

April 12, 2018

Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams: who looks inside, awakes.                                                                                                                                          Carl Jung

When was the last time you felt young, free and really alive? You know that child like feeling of endless energy and boundless enthusiasm. What happens to our joy and playful spirit as we age? When we are kids our souls are full of innocence. We were able to connect to our inner light and allow it shine until it got dulled, darkened and dampened by the pressures of life. Our roles got in the way and we forgot that we are souls.

The culture we live in supports our addiction to the outside world and does not promote soul searching. I know that I started looking inward when there was a crisis in my life. I realized that nothing in this world would fill the hole I had in my soul. The only way was inward. There I discovered, uncovered and recovered my connection to spirit and embraced the truth of who I am, a beautiful soul! All addiction, trauma, anxiety, depression and dis-ease is a disconnect from your soul. To reclaim it, takes time, commitment and a daily practice to spiritual principles.

Isn’t it time you reconnect to your soul?  Allow me to shine some light on your path.


Got Faith

February 8, 2018

Faith is to believe what you do not see; the reward of this faith is to see what you believe! Faith is also (finding answers in the heart). Are there problems in your life that appear to be insurmountable?  If this is so let go and let God!

There is a power that permeates, penetrates and fills the interspaces of the cosmos, and everything you see around you is an expression of that power.  The power operates in a very precise manner, which is generally called law.  In other words, everything comes from source, and that source power always flows and works to and through you.  Through faith and law, everything you can imagine will manifest into the physical realm.

We live in a metaphysical world.  Everything is created twice, once in the mental or thought realm, and then in the physical.  What picture are you forming in your mind?  Is it doom and gloom, or health and wealth?  You see, what ever picture you are holding, by law, has to manifest.

James Allen the literary mystic of the early 20th century said, “Mind is the master power that molds and makes, and man is mind, and the more he shapes the tool of thought, will bring forth a thousand joys or a thousand ills.  He thinks in secret and it comes to pass, environment is but his looking glass.”

 

Hold your image high and allow spirit to fill your being.  Whatever you accomplish in your lifetime, will be in direct proportion to your passion and persistence of your faith. Expect abundance in all areas of your life, and allow passion and faith to guide you.

Need some guidance to get your faith started? Let’s have a conversation.