Living a Life of Balance: Dean’s Story of Overcoming Addiction

October 19, 2017

Hello reader,

Here is a story from a contributing blogger. Their information is at the bottom if you wanted to learn more.

 

“The light within is a quiet source of truth and guidance. The key is to be still and know. If I am quiet for just a moment and listen and wait, the inner wisdom reveals the next indicated step.” – Robert, Addiction Survivor

Addiction is one of the greatest struggles someone could ever face. Not only does it wreak havoc on our bodies, but it turns our own minds against us by fooling us into thinking we can’t survive without the very substances that are destroying us. The silver lining is that there is always help available to those who are lost in their addictions, but there’s a catch: you must want to get better in order to heal.

 

Dean’s inspiring story demonstrates just how important this mindset is — and proves that there is always light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how long the journey there may be.

 

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After moving from one end of the world to another when he was only seven, Dean did whatever he could not to feel like an outsider. Unfortunately, this often led him to make some destructive decisions.

 

“I was always trying to find a way to fit in,” he remembered. “Around the time I was 12 or 13, I started drinking alcohol and smoking weed. I spent years of my life as a pothead.”

 

He was hit hard when his parents decided to get divorced, and he started using even more dangerous drugs in order to cope.

 

“My friends started taking Roxycontin, Oxycontin,” he said. “I remember the very first time that I tried it. I wish I could go back to that first day and tell myself what was going to happen to me if I took that pill. I had no prior knowledge about opiates and didn’t realize how addictive they were. I became addicted really quickly.”

 

After six months, though, Dean realized he was on a dangerous path, and he sought treatment. Unfortunately, he didn’t yet have the mindset he needed in order to face his addiction issues.

 

He admitted, “At that time, I really didn’t believe I was an addict. I relapsed pretty quickly after that experience.”

 

He reached out for help again and re-entered treatment with a fresh perspective — but even that didn’t last.

 

“My second time in rehab was a three-month inpatient rehab. It was really intense. I had almost two years of sobriety after that: I was following the steps and had a sponsor — but I didn’t follow through.”

 

When he hit another difficult period, his addicted brain once again took over the part of his mind that knew he needed to take better care of himself.

 

“Around 12 months into my sobriety, my parents were going through another divorce,” he said. “Around my 18-month milestone, I stopped using the program I built for myself. I started telling myself, ‘I’m not a real addict. I can beat this.’ So, I started drinking and smoking weed again with the help of an unhealthy relationship I had with a girl. Within a few months, I was doing heroin again, too.”

 

Despite his struggles, Dean persisted — he knew he had to get help, and no matter how many times he fell, he realized he had to keep trying. He reached out to several different facilities, but his past experiences with rehab taught him that he needed something a little more unique, something that would treat his addiction with a holistic, rather than simply medical, approach.

 

That’s when he learned about adventure therapy, and found a place that offered this unique treatment and could start treating him immediately. Using a blend of individual and group therapy as well as activities like hiking and ziplining, he finally learned the skills he now knows he was missing all along.

 

“I learned balance,” he said. “I obviously had been in programs before, but at [this rehab center], I learned that a balance of my mind, body and spirit was the key to unlock my brain. I know the 12 steps and the rooms of AA and NA — I know the song and dance to acquire ‘clean time.’ But I was working 12-, 16-, 18-hour shifts — often times 14 days in a row without a day off. My mind, body and spirit were unbalanced, which pushed me into a depression, and that let me slip back into my addiction after almost having two years clean. [This facility] opened my eyes to what life can be like in balance.”

 

Dean feels that it all came down to changing his mindset.

 

“I learned that I was putting up a lot of roadblocks in my life: things like, ‘I can’t do this,’ ‘I’m not good enough,’ ‘I’m not smart enough.’”

 

Now, he puts what he learned into practice every day.

 

“I stick to my balanced program: mind, body and spirit,” he explained. “I keep those three things in mind and I do what I need to do to fulfill those needs. I go to meetings, I go to the gym, I talk to other people in the program, I connect with other alumni on Facebook.”

 

If you or someone you know is struggling, don’t be afraid to get help. As Dean proved, there is no shame in falling a few times as long as you get back up each time. Sometimes, it’s as simple as having a changed mindset, a renewed perspective — and a genuine willingness to get back on the right path.

Constance Ray started Recoverywell.org with the goal of creating a safe place for people to share how addiction has affected them, whether they are combating it themselves or watching someone they care about work to overcome it. The goal is to share stories of hope from survivors who know that the fight against addiction is one worth having, because no matter how it affects you, life can get better.

Constance Ray

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Get Lost!

September 28, 2017

“Life should be a glorious adventure or nothing at all.” Helen Keller

Recently I found myself getting lost upstate will hiking alone in the woods. I lost my sense of direction and wasn’t sure were I was and how I was going to find my way back out. I didn’t have my handy dandy cell phone with the navigation to help me. I was lost! After gaining my composure I sat down to try to orient myself. So many questions about my life came up for me. After about three hours, other hikers came walking by. They lead the way out.

getting lostAfter I got back to my camp site, I thought about how I found myself by getting lost. I realized that not knowing can be a great way to discover hidden emotions, strengths and fears that would have never come up if I didn’t get lost.  After calming my mind, I realized so many things about who I am and how I respond to circumstances that I never would have known about myself if I didn’t get lost.

My younger daughter, just traveled alone cross country in your tiny home and had the most glorious adventure. Some of the pictures from the places she explored where absolutely incredible! Ever day was a new discovery. A journey into the unknown. You can follow her adventures on Instagram (ramblinanne).

getting lost 2So what is something you can do to discover a new path? How can you get lost to find yourself? Step outside of your comfort zone to discover yourself. Get lost! It will be the best thing you did for yourself in a long time.

Need some help in discovering yourself or stepping out of your comfort zone? Let’s talk.


Can You Help Me?

September 7, 2017

Let There Be Light! Everything that thrives is fed by light. If you lift up a rock, and there was a seed under it, you will see that it sprouted but it is a colorless and a stunted seedling searching for the light.  Within a few hours of warmth and  filtered light, you will see that it straightened itself and  color began coursing through its veins.

We too need to have the weight of a burden lifted from our shoulders in order to thrive. We need to be in an environment that is encouraging  and supportive to restore health and happiness.

With all that is going on the world today, you can be a beacon of light? How can you be of service?

Blessings,

Monica


Don’t Look Up!

August 24, 2017

Actually do look up, however with protective glasses! Were you able to witness the solar eclipse on August 21st?

What a fabulous time to be alive! With all that is going on in the world that divides us, this brings us all together.  With all the turmoil, tension, stress and distraction, the commonality of our humanity unites us. We are reminded of how vulnerable, precious and fragile we really are. We get a chance to look up in awe and wonder. A day to  get our heads out from under our iphones to gaze up at the stars.

It connects us to our primal ancestry and the future evolution of mankind.   Years ago, we were frightened when this phenomena occurred. We thought all kinds of superstitious things were causing it.  We didn’t have the awareness that we do now. Through understanding we now know that this rare event is mathematically calculated through the rotation of the earth and the moon. We can predict eclipses to a fraction of a second! The moon is 400 times smaller then the sun and 400 times the distance to the sun. Coincidence? I don’t think so.

 

When we look up with gratitude and awe at the order of the universe we connect to the infinite possibilities that is empowering our lives.

Reach for the stars in your life. Look up, wonder, question and explore. If you only land on the moon be grateful for the quest!  Here’s to your extraordinary life!


A One, Two Punch!

July 13, 2017

 

hard on oneself

I think one of the biggest challenges people go through is that their too hard on themselves. We beat ourselves up with guilt, shame and other negative emotions. Why do we do this to ourselves? It is because over the years, people have spilled their negative energy on you, their attitudes, their beliefs, their unhealthy self -esteem. Where did they get it? The same way you have been getting it. People have spilled it on them. And on on it goes until you STOP being to hard on yourself.

I should have done it better! I should have passed that test! I shouldn’t have ate that box of chocolates! Some times we screw up, it’s OK! The more we go through this cycle the longer we stay in.

When we learn to love ourselves and embrace our strengths and our weaknesses, we can stop knocking ourselves down and raise up.

We are spiritual beings having this human experience. Being human is to enjoy and celebrate life. To celebrate You! Celebrate being here now! Celebrate all the good things that you’ve done and are continuing to accomplish. Celebrate your lessons in life. Celebrate the little things.

You do not have to try harder, be better, be perfect, or anything other than being YOU!

Your good enough and a child of God! You are a gift, so celebrate that!

Enjoy this video and get inspired to Celebrate Life!


Be A Light

May 26, 2017

be a light

 

Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate only love can do that.

Martin Luther King

After the attack in Manchester England, another veil of innocence has been revealed. Darkness, sadness and fear tries to creep into our hearts and mind if we allow these senseless acts of violence to penetrate or consciousness. Be the light in spite of what ever and how ever the illusion of hopelessness appears. We are living in times of great turmoil and everything is bubbling up for our healing. All that is inside of us that does not serve us is rising up and out. It is time to take constant vigil of our thoughts, feelings and action. To express them in a healthy way. To invite the shadow side of our subconscious  mind to have a voice and nurture it with compassion and love. To take on the virtues of the divine. To be a light! To shine no matter what. Light and love will prevail. When we confront the darkness with our light, the darkness will give way. The sun always rises the next day.

Need help staying positive? Call me, 516-297-0672


March 31, 2017

Get your head out of the gutter and into the soil!

Here are 3 reasons why gardening is super healthy for your mind, body and spirit!

1- Higher Self-Esteem

Even a single session helps you feel productive and purposeful!

2- Improves Focus

Doing a single task like weeding or digging is meditative, which can give your brain practice in focusing!

3-Stronger Immunity

More and more research shows that children who garden (play in dirt) develop healthier immune systems. Experts suspect grown-ups get an immune boost, too!

Need advice or help with your garden, self-esteem, focus or immune system? Call Monica today. 516-297-0672


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