Another Fine Mess

March 6, 2019

Don’t be ashamed of your story it will inspire others.

I can’t even count how many messes I got myself into through the course of my life. Actually I wrote a book about them all. How May I Serve. I have a pen name Karen Mathews. You can go to or to find out about all the messy details. And girl is it juicy!!!!

Boy, I was a hot mess. But you know what I did? I turned my mess into a message! That’s rights, I turned it around, upside down, inside out, side ways and twisted it so much, that’s you won’t recognize me from who I am now. How about you? Are their some messes you want to clean up? Before you do, be honest with yourself, become aware of them and forgive yourself. Then find the support you need to turn your mess into a message. You just might inspire someone else to find the strength and confidence to know their not a f*ck up. When you know better you do better. At the time I knew nothing!!! I knew jack sh*t!  I was an insecure, lost, frightened young girl. But I needed to smell the coffee or (I like to smell roses more) really quickly because I was cruising for a bruising.

So if you’re reading this and you’ve gotten yourself in some messes, this might be the sign you were looking for to get out of shame, blame and all those emotions that keep you in the dark. It’s okay. The more you bring light to your wounds the more you can heal.

Ask for help! Reach out! You’re not alone.

What’s Eating You?

March 22, 2016

eating while negativeAre you eating fast food while doing things on your computer, driving, reading the newspaper or any other task that are robbing you of the shear joy of the meal. Or are you engaged in an argument at breakfast lunch or dinner? Or maybe your just thinking negative thoughts while your eating. Well if you are, you are also digesting toxins from the negative energy that you are picking up from your thoughts, feelings and actions. This can result in a host of dis-eases that will eventually lead to chronic physical conditions. Food is meant to be enjoyed. It is a sacred ritual that so many have forgotten to celebrate. I remember when I was a young girl in Bavaria, my grandmother would lay out a feast at her farm house and we would all get together and eat in a joyous atmosphere. It seems like we are all so busy and just grab something quick, eat quick and gobble down our meal. It is like were speed eating. Good food is nourishment for our body and the more we can slow down and actually digest this fact the more we will replenish our well being. So, for your next meal, may I suggest that you bless your food, put down the newspaper, shut off the TV, computer or phone, and be grateful for your food. Not only will the food be nourishing your body, the higher vibration will nourish your soul.

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Are You Living in Flatlands?

August 25, 2015
“If I’m not living on the edge,
I’m taking up way to much room.”
– my Coach and Mentor

If you only see what you know, how do we ever see what we don’t know? There are so many mysteries and wonders about our world, which we yet still do not know. There are also still many dreams within us that still haven’t been realized.

At one time people thought the earth was flat and that we would fall off it, if we travelled to its edge.  Of course, now we know this is not true.  But are we still living in a sort of flat land? What I mean is, we put limits on ourselves on what we believe we can do or can’t do. How do we venture out of the box we have put ourselves in? Well, you have to become it to know it. We have to step out of our boxes with a leap of faith and courage to explore the possibilities of who we can become.

At one time people thought that it was impossible to run a mile in less than 4 minutes. Then in 1954 Roger Bannister shattered that belief. Since then it has been broken many times. What is it that you really want to do, but afraid to? A few years back I always wanted to go to the Amazon jungle in Peru and be guided by a Shaman. My friends and family thought that I was crazy to venture out alone to a place I have never been to. But it was a calling I had to fulfill and I am so happy that I listened to my intuition and did it!  I grew by leaps and bounds! (The details of that adventure are for another time.) Helen Keller once said “Life should be a glorious adventure or nothing at all.”

I believe you always need someone to assist you in stepping outside of your comfort zone to explore the possibilities of what you can become. An empowerment coach becomes your best advocate and encourages you to realize that whatever it is you desire you can become it. So step out of your flatlands and discover a brave new world.

Isn’t it interesting that what we are most afraid of thrills us the most?
So step out of your flatlands…
Watch this short clip about 
stepping out of flatlands…

Invest In Yourself

October 23, 2012

The best investment you can make is in yourself. I have spent tens of thousands of dollars in my education as a life coach, books, tapes, DVD’s, seminars, coaches etc, and it was worth every cent. I love to learn. I love to grow and evolve into more of who I am. Why don’t you invest in yourself?
If you want to be the best at what you do, you must invest in yourself.
The return is 10 fold, and  will keep you on the cutting edge of your field.
Never stop learning and growing. This is a life time investment. I continue to invest in myself.  I just finished a class in NY on integration of dance to my coaching practice. I learned so much about my body and the connection with my mind and spirit. How wonderful I feel that I get to share this knowledge and experience with others. That’s what it is all about. To be able to help others improve theirs lives through education.
I will never stop investing in myself. So I invite you, to open your life, to the possibilities that await you, when you invest in yourself.

The Third Eye

January 7, 2011

Third Eye – Pineal Gland
The pineal gland was the last endocrine gland to have its function discovered. Its location deep in the brain seemed to
indicate its importance. This combination led to its being a “mystery” gland with myth, superstition and even metaphysical
theories surrounding its perceived function.
The Pineal gland is occasionally associated with the sixth Chakra (also called Ajna or the third eye Chakra in yoga). It is
believed by some to be a dormant organ that can be awakened to enable “telepathic” communication.
In the physical body the eye views objects upside down. It sends the image of what it observes to the brain which
interprets the image and makes it appear right side-up to us.
But the human body has another physical eye whose function has long been recognized by humanity. It is called the
‘Third Eye’ which in reality is the Pineal Gland. It is long thought to have mystical powers. Many consider it the Spiritual
Third Eye, our Inner Vision
It is located in the geometric center of the brain. This correlates to the location of the Great Pyramid in the center of the
physical planet.
The Pineal Gland is about the size of a pea, and is in the center of the brain in a tiny cave behind and above the pituitary
gland which lies a little behind the root of the nose. It is located directly behind the eyes, attached to the third ventricle.
The true function of this mysterious gland has long been contemplated by philosophers and Spiritual Adepts. Ancient
Greeks believed the Pineal gland to be our connection to the Realms of Thought.
Rene Descartes called it the Seat of the Soul, believing it is unique in the anatomy of the human brain in being a
structure not duplicated on the right and left sides. This observation is not true, however; under a microscope one finds
the Pineal gland is divided into two fine hemispheres.
This gland is activated by Light, and it controls the various biorhythms of the body. It works in harmony with the
hypothalamus gland which directs the body’s thirst, hunger, sexual desire and the biological clock that determines our
aging process.
When the Pineal gland awakens one feels a pressure at the base of the brain. This pressure will often be experienced
when connecting to higher frequency. A head injury can also activate the Third Eye – Pineal Gland.
While the physiological function of the pineal gland has been unknown until recent times, mystical traditions and esoteric
schools have long known this area in the middle of the brain to be the connecting link between the physical and spiritual
worlds. Considered the most powerful and highest source of ethereal energy available to humans, the Pineal gland has
always been important in initiating supernatural powers. Development of psychic talents has been closely associated with
this organ of higher vision.
There is a pathway from the retinas to the hypothalamus called the retinohypothalamic tract. It brings information about
light and dark cycles to a region of the hypothalamus called the suprachiasmatic nucleus(SCN). From the SCN, nerve
impulses travel via the pineal nerve (sympathetic nervous system) to the pineal gland. These impulses inhibit the
production of melatonin. When these impulses stop (at night, when light no longer stimulates the hypothalamus), pineal
inhibition ceases and melatonin is released. The pineal gland is therefore a photosensitive organ and an important
timekeeper for the human body.
Retinal research done with hamsters demonstrates another center for melatonin production. Located in the retina, this
center implies that the eyes have their own built in circadian timepiece. This retinal system is distinct from the brains
body clock in the suprachiasmatic nucleus (SCN). Biologists found that they could throw the retinal rhythms out of sync
with other circadian cycles. They also found that they could set and reset the retinal clock even when the SCN was
The retinal clock produces (stimulates the production of?) melatonin. Researchers are now looking for the exact location
(s) of this clock in the human eye (and expect to find it). No one yet knows what the separate clock is for or how it relates
to the SCN.
In some lower vertebrates the Epiphysis Cerebri – Pineal Gland – has a well-developed eye-like structure; in others
though not organized as an eye, if functions as a light receptor. In lower vertebrates, the pineal gland has an eye like
structure and it functions as a light receptor and is considered by some to be the evolutionary forerunner of the modern eye.
The gland weighs little more than 0.1 gram. The gland is large in children and begins to shrink with the onset of puberty.
It appears to play a major role in sexual development, hibernation in animals, metabolism, and seasonal breeding. In
humans it affects circadian rhythms, sleep patterns (melatonin levels increase at night), and is implicated in seasonal
affective disorder. The abundant melatonin levels in children is believed to inhibit sexual development. When puberty
arrives, melatonin production is reduced.
The pineal gland secretes melanin during times of relaxation and visualization. As we are created by electromagnetic
energy – and react to EM energy stimuli around us – so does the pineal gland.
When activated, the pineal gland becomes the line of communication with the higher planes. The crown chakra reaches
down until its vortex touches the pineal gland. Prana, or pure energy, is received through this energy center in the head.
With Practice the vibration level of the astral body is raised, allowing it to separate from the physical.
To activate the ‘third eye’ and perceive higher dimensions, the pineal gland and the pituitary body must vibrate in unison,
which is achieved through meditation and/or relaxation. When a correct relationship is established between personality,
operating through the pituitary body, and the soul, operating through the pineal gland, a magnetic field is created. The
negative and positive forces interact and become strong enough to create the ‘light in the head.’ With this ‘light in the
head’ activated, astral projectors can withdraw themselves from the body, carrying the light with them.
Astral travel, and other occult abilities, are closely associated with the development of the ‘light in the head’. After
physical relaxation, concentration upon the pineal gland is achieved by staring at a point in the middle of the forehead.
Without straining the muscles of the eye, this will activate the pineal gland and the ‘third eye’. Beginning with the
withdrawal of the senses and the physical consciousness, the consciousness is centered in the region of the pineal
gland. The perceptive faculty and the point of realization are centralized in the area between the middle of the forehead
and the pineal gland. The trick is to visualize, very intently, the subtle body escaping through the trap door of the brain. A
popping sound may occur at the time separation of the astral body in the area of the pineal gland.
Visualization exercises are the first step in directing the energies in our inner systems to activate the ‘third eye’. The
magnetic field is created around the pineal gland, by focusing the mind on the midway point between the pineal gland
and the pituitary body. The creative imagination visualizes something, and the thought energy of the mind gives life and
direction to this form.
‘Third eye’ development, imagination, and visualization are important ingredients in many methods to separate from the
physical form. Intuition is also achieved through ‘third eye’ development. Knowledge and memory of the astral plane are
not registered in full waking consciousness until the intuition becomes strong enough. Flashes of intuition come with
increasing consistency as the ‘third eye’ as activated to a greater degree, through practice.
The pineal gland corresponds with divine thought after being touched by the vibrating light of Kundalini. Kundalini starts
its ascent towards the head center after responding to the vibrations from the ‘light in the head.’ The light is located at the
top of the sutratma, or ‘soul thread’, which passes down from the highest plane of our being into the physical vehicle.
The ‘third eye,’ or ‘eye of Siva,’ the organ of spiritual vision, is intimately related to karma, as we become more spiritual
in the natural course of evolution.
As human beings continue to evolve further out of matter, on the journey from spirit to matter back to spirit, the pineal
gland will continue to rise from its state of age-long dormancy, bringing back to humanity astral capacities and spiritual
At certain brainwave frequencies, a sense of ego boundary vanishes. In the theta state, we are resting deeply and still
conscious, at the threshold of drifting away from or back into conscious awareness. As the brain enters deeper states,
our consciousness is less concerned with the physical state, our ‘third eye’ is active, and separation becomes natural.
Many native traditions and mystical practices refer to the ability of ‘seeing,’ or being aware of energy fields at higher
levels. This abstract awareness is much more subjective and does not involve the normal level of mundane
consciousness, which is mostly concerned with self-identity. This ‘seeing’ refers to the sight of the ‘third eye’.
Consciousness is raised from an emotional nature into an illumined awareness when the pineal gland is lifted from
dormancy. If the pineal gland is not yet fully developed, it will be in the course of evolution. When our sense of ego and
personality are set aside and we keep our mental energy intact, we can become conscious of the non-physical, our inner
self, the subconscious, through different practices to activate the ‘light in the head.’

Awaken Your Intuition

January 4, 2010

We are spiritual beings having a human experience. We came from some place and are going to return somewhere. Amazingly, our DNA is a shaped like a spiral stairway reaching for the heavens. The more we can stay connected to that spiritual part of ourselves the more understanding, awareness, and consciousness will flow to and through us guiding our lives. One of the ways to keep the channel open is through the intellectual faculty of intuition.  I’ve heard it said that if prayer is when we talk to God, intuition is when God talks to us. It’s that quiet whisper echoing in the core of our soul, always letting us know what is best for our well being.

Most people have either not been taught how to properly use this facility or have ignored their feelings when intuition has been trying to speak to us. It has therefore been laying dormant, just waiting to be turned on, when ever we are ready and willing to listen.  The doorway to begin to open up your intuitive abilities, is through imagination. Ask for guidance and envision a soul image, like an angel, or a fairy, even an owl, or (what ever feels good), to assist you.

Then sit in silence and relax the mind. Our mental chatter often gets in the way of a clear connection, just like static on a radio channel. Once the flow of energy is calm and focused, the signal will be clear to receive the guidance from your soul. Begin to pay attention to your feelings; they are your compass, directing you along your journey to a more fulfilling life. Always remember, you are a spiritual being, and that to reclaim your connection, if it has been severed, takes practice, just like a muscle that has not been used becomes atrophied. Soon you will begin to awaken to your true self.