I’m Right And You’re Wrong

July 20, 2017

How many times have you been a conversation were someone was insisting on being right? It seemed like they weren’t even listening to what you had to say. They were just addicted to wanting to be RIGHT! They just wanted to prove their point, position or claim. Every time that we get in this mind-set we actually release dopamine into our body and get a good high from it. We want to prove a point, get the right answers and look smart.

Now being smart is great, however if there is no emotional intelligence behind the smarts we are really not growing, learning and communicating well. We actually remain stuck, and actually are damaging our relationships in business and in our personal life. If you are a boss or in a leadership position, this is vital for the health of your company.

It is wanting to be in a position of power and control rather than cooperation. When we learn how to listen and just be open to another point of view, it will allow so much trust and open dialog. We shift to create the freedom to explore possibilities and look for solutions to problems rather than slam the door shut on any other view point.

So the next time you feel the urge to be RIGHT, rather than react, take a moment to respond in a different way.

Here are three suggestions to keep an open mind and respond rather than that knee jerk reaction:

1-Ask- How do you feel?

2- Ask- What do you think?

3-Ask-How can we work together to find an answer?

Would your rather be RIGHT or do the RIGHT thing?

Here is a short video explaining how our ego gets in the way of our success.

If you would like to find a healthier way to communicate let’s talk! Call me.

Monica

 



Your Higher Self has the Answers

December 1, 2015

higher selfYour higher self has the answer to all difficulties.How do you handle situations, conflicts and challenges that come up for you from time to time? Before I knew better, I would react from a place of powerlessness, however now I take a step back and ask my higher self what she would do. Every time I take the time to do this, I know I am coming from a place of empowerment and faith. It is a choice to look at the problem from a higher view. It is taking the time to  meditate on and releasing the problem to the universe. Calming the mind and asking yourself that ever important question. What would your higher self do in this situation? The answer will come. You are now coming from a place of empowerment that will guide you to say, do and be authentic. When you react from a place of fear, that will only create more of what you are trying to avoid. Your higher self has the answer. Trust it, have faith, and move forward with courage in knowing that what ever you are facing, you are on the high road.


Our Amazing Brain

November 24, 2015

our amazing brain

The most marvelous organ in our body is the brain. It is what makes you, you. This organ, that connects us to the world is the least understood part of us as well. This 3 pounds of gray matter creates an entire universe in your head! The same neuropath ways that gave the primitive man and woman the ability to hunt and gather are the same neuropath ways we use in our modern world. We just learned how to integrate the electro-chemical signals into cohesive structures to build patterns of recognition that evolved our minds into what it is today.

Our thoughts are live wired to create the reality we experience. We look for meaning and understanding in our lives through the electro-chemical signals that cross reference and hunt for patterns until the brain figures out how to decode the information that it is processing. It is an incredible feat of biological engineering and this all happens within fractions of a second.

From our nervous system, to our emotions, how we age, and all of our mental and bodily function are derived from our brain.

What does the future hold for our brain? As we move into the future we will develop our portal into higher realms of consciousness, merging our biology with technology. Anything is possible. Through our vast network of over 1,000,000,000,000 synaptic connections, our brains can produce an unlimited amount of thoughts. Something to think about!


Your Blueprint

February 25, 2014

blueprint

We have all been downloaded with a blueprint of who we are. The question is, is this blueprint who you really want to be? You are the architect of your life and if you are not thrilled with how the design of your life is shaping out to be, you can change it. The good news is you can alter the blueprint and create a whole new you. First, you must have an idea of who you want to be. Find some role models that will inspire you. Read autobiographies of people who have changed their blueprint, study, work with a life coach and set goals. Before you know it, you will have changed your blueprint and life gets so much better. Blueprints can be altered. Just make a new plan Stan.


Paradigm Shift

January 22, 2013

PARADIGM SHIFT“To ignore the power of paradigms to influence your judgment is to put yourself at significant risk when exploring the future. To able to shape your future you have to be ready and able to change your paradigms.”
Joel Barker

Did you know that paradigms could be controlling virtually every move you make? So what exactly is a paradigm?
A paradigm is a bundle of habits, work practices, attitudes, beliefs and expectations. You approach and react to the world around you , interpreting what you see and experience according to your shared understandings and culturally determined guidelines. A paradigm, in a sense, tells you that there is a game, what the game is, and how to play it successfully.  A paradigm shift then, is a change to a new game, or a new set of rules and when the rules change, the whole world will appear to be changing.

So do you have limiting beliefs that are holding you back from playing your best game?  If so, you must begin to change your paradigms. How do you do this? Through awareness or consciousness. When you begin to fully realize that thought causes all, you will be on your way to shift your paradigms.
It’s only a thought away.


Happy New Year

January 2, 2013

happy-new-year-2013--americaHappy New Year!! Well, it’s another year gone by and like most people, New Years resolutions are on peoples mind. The three big new years resolutions are earn more money, lose weight and to find that special someone if you aren’t in a relationship already (or aren’t happy in your present one.)
New Years can start new any day when you first decide what it is you really want, then commit to take action on it. Begin now to move forward without regard to what the results are presently and see, feel and believe that you can achieve what ever you desire.
Take some time to reflect on the past and write out a description of what you want for the future, look at it every day and really get emotionally charged when you read it.
Let the universe take care of the details, however take some steps every day to move forward on your vision and goals and by next year you will be living that New Years resolution!!
This is the year to make it happen, go for it!!


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