October 12, 2017
Ego, we all have one. Our egos are the attachment to our self-image. When we are aware of our ego, we will have a healthy balance of self-esteem and self worth. If we believe we are superior to others we will act in ways that will express this identity through gaining power and authority over others. If we believe we are inferior or unworthy we will have an ego that shows us that this is true too.
Either way, these are false images. Being aware of our ego and not attaching to the self-image of who we think we are is how we can go beyond self limiting beliefs about ourselves.
I know that when I was a teenager, I never felt confident in myself. I felt I wasn’t good enough. It was a trying time for me. My father got sick when I was 15 years old and then passed away 2 years later. During these years it was very difficult for me to see past my ego that identified with not being loved and feelings of unworthiness.
It was a heavy burden to carry. After seeking help and counseling, I became aware that this wasn’t the truth. I was able to see beyond my ego and transform these limiting beliefs that keep me a prisoner of my own thinking.
When you feel your ego trying to edge in and get the better of you, stop and talk to yourself. Take a deep breath and become aware of what is going on. Maybe you need to speak up or maybe you need to meditate on something to gain clarity. Turn off the noise outside of you and inside of you. Listen to the quite voice within. The ego is loud and boastful, your authentic spirit is gentle, loving and kind.
Need more help? Reach out and listen to your inner voice that is always guiding you.
July 20, 2017
How many times have you been a conversation were someone was insisting on being right? It seemed like they weren’t even listening to what you had to say. They were just addicted to wanting to be RIGHT! They just wanted to prove their point, position or claim. Every time that we get in this mind-set we actually release dopamine into our body and get a good high from it. We want to prove a point, get the right answers and look smart.
Now being smart is great, however if there is no emotional intelligence behind the smarts we are really not growing, learning and communicating well. We actually remain stuck, and actually are damaging our relationships in business and in our personal life. If you are a boss or in a leadership position, this is vital for the health of your company.
It is wanting to be in a position of power and control rather than cooperation. When we learn how to listen and just be open to another point of view, it will allow so much trust and open dialog. We shift to create the freedom to explore possibilities and look for solutions to problems rather than slam the door shut on any other view point.
So the next time you feel the urge to be RIGHT, rather than react, take a moment to respond in a different way.
Here are three suggestions to keep an open mind and respond rather than that knee jerk reaction:
1-Ask- How do you feel?
2- Ask- What do you think?
3-Ask-How can we work together to find an answer?
Would your rather be RIGHT or do the RIGHT thing?
Here is a short video explaining how our ego gets in the way of our success.
If you would like to find a healthier way to communicate let’s talk! Call me.
February 1, 2017
“You have to count on living every single day in a way you believe will make you feel good about your life…”
How many times to we compromise our happiness for someone else? We give our energy away to make other people happy or do things that zaps our precious life. Then at the end of the day we are feeling exhausted, angry or depressed.
That was my modus operandi for many years until I became aware that I was responsible for my own happiness and joy. I was actually teaching people how to treat me. I was a people pleaser.
We all have so much energy, and if you are giving it away to easily, like money you will be broke. You will become down and out and wonder why your feeling so awful.
True happiness and joy come from honoring your values and what makes you feel good. Be good to yourself. If you give yourself away to easily not only do you feel bad but your no good for anyone else either!
Take a few minutes every day and connect with yourself. Breathe! Do something everyday that makes you feel good! Take a walk, listen to something inspirational or what ever that thing is that lifts you up and feels good.
Think of how much more valuable you will be when your bank account is full of happiness !
Need help to reclaim your energy and happiness bank account? Call Monica today 516-297-0672
December 1, 2015
Your higher self has the answer to all difficulties.How do you handle situations, conflicts and challenges that come up for you from time to time? Before I knew better, I would react from a place of powerlessness, however now I take a step back and ask my higher self what she would do. Every time I take the time to do this, I know I am coming from a place of empowerment and faith. It is a choice to look at the problem from a higher view. It is taking the time to meditate on and releasing the problem to the universe. Calming the mind and asking yourself that ever important question. What would your higher self do in this situation? The answer will come. You are now coming from a place of empowerment that will guide you to say, do and be authentic. When you react from a place of fear, that will only create more of what you are trying to avoid. Your higher self has the answer. Trust it, have faith, and move forward with courage in knowing that what ever you are facing, you are on the high road.
November 24, 2015
The most marvelous organ in our body is the brain. It is what makes you, you. This organ, that connects us to the world is the least understood part of us as well. This 3 pounds of gray matter creates an entire universe in your head! The same neuropath ways that gave the primitive man and woman the ability to hunt and gather are the same neuropath ways we use in our modern world. We just learned how to integrate the electro-chemical signals into cohesive structures to build patterns of recognition that evolved our minds into what it is today.
Our thoughts are live wired to create the reality we experience. We look for meaning and understanding in our lives through the electro-chemical signals that cross reference and hunt for patterns until the brain figures out how to decode the information that it is processing. It is an incredible feat of biological engineering and this all happens within fractions of a second.
From our nervous system, to our emotions, how we age, and all of our mental and bodily function are derived from our brain.
What does the future hold for our brain? As we move into the future we will develop our portal into higher realms of consciousness, merging our biology with technology. Anything is possible. Through our vast network of over 1,000,000,000,000 synaptic connections, our brains can produce an unlimited amount of thoughts. Something to think about!
February 25, 2014
We have all been downloaded with a blueprint of who we are. The question is, is this blueprint who you really want to be? You are the architect of your life and if you are not thrilled with how the design of your life is shaping out to be, you can change it. The good news is you can alter the blueprint and create a whole new you. First, you must have an idea of who you want to be. Find some role models that will inspire you. Read autobiographies of people who have changed their blueprint, study, work with a life coach and set goals. Before you know it, you will have changed your blueprint and life gets so much better. Blueprints can be altered. Just make a new plan Stan.
January 22, 2013
“To ignore the power of paradigms to influence your judgment is to put yourself at significant risk when exploring the future. To able to shape your future you have to be ready and able to change your paradigms.”
Did you know that paradigms could be controlling virtually every move you make? So what exactly is a paradigm?
A paradigm is a bundle of habits, work practices, attitudes, beliefs and expectations. You approach and react to the world around you , interpreting what you see and experience according to your shared understandings and culturally determined guidelines. A paradigm, in a sense, tells you that there is a game, what the game is, and how to play it successfully. A paradigm shift then, is a change to a new game, or a new set of rules and when the rules change, the whole world will appear to be changing.
So do you have limiting beliefs that are holding you back from playing your best game? If so, you must begin to change your paradigms. How do you do this? Through awareness or consciousness. When you begin to fully realize that thought causes all, you will be on your way to shift your paradigms.
It’s only a thought away.