I Am Because We Are

September 20, 2018

In Africa there is a concept known as ‘ubuntu’ – the profound sense that we are human only through the humanity of others; that if we are to accomplish anything in this world it will in equal measure be due to the work and achievement of others.

Nelson Mandela

“One day, a western anthropologist went to Africa to study the social behavior of an indigenous tribe. He proposed a game to the children and they willingly agreed to be part of it. He put a basket filled with fruits underneath a tree and told the children that whoever would reach the basket first would win the whole basket and could eat the fruits all by him- or herself.

 He lined them all up and raised his hand to give the start signal. Ready. Set. Go!
The children took each other’s hands and started running together. They all reached the basket at the same time. Then they sat down in a big circle and enjoyed the fruits together, laughing and smiling all the time.
The anthropologist could not believe what he saw and he asked them why they had waited for each other as one could have taken the whole basket all for him- or herself.
The children shook their heads and replied, “Ubuntu, how can one of us be happy if all the others are sad?”

 

What if we all lived our lives with this in mind? What if you opened your heart and mind to embracing the human in humanity? Our world will change when we realize that we are all a part of each other. We live in a holographic universe. There is no separation between you and I.

Call to action: Do one thing today that benefits someone else. If you could do one thing that uplifts another person, not only will you feel so good, you will be paying an act of kindness forward…….. Spread the love!

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Every Day Is Extra

September 13, 2018

 

Life is short, and if we enjoy every day, then we will be happy no matter what happens or what changes along the way.

Gretchen Bleiler

Former Senator John Kerry’s memoir was recently released entitled “Every Day is Extra”. In it he writes about the struggles he had during his life and how he was able to forge ahead with a positive attitude, courage and faith. He faced many setbacks, family illnesses, crisis and tough decisions.

Let’s face it, life can be tough at times. Not every day is going to be a great day. Sometimes you may have days, months or even years of challenging times. Maybe you are being faced with a family member diagnosed with a serious illness, addiction or crisis. Maybe we ourselves are confronting a personal battle. I know what its like. Both my parents were Holocaust survivors and I have a daughter with addiction issues. It ain’t always easy.

However, if you wake up every day and realize that every day is extra, that every moment is another chance to create and do something better than the day before, you will be able to navigate uncertainties with faith and courage.

 

Look, no one gets out alive. Your time here is limited and you will be confronted with tough days. The storms, droughts, and other unexpected mishaps will come. But with an attitude of gratitude, knowing that every day is extra, you can turn any rainy day into a a day of appreciation and goodness.

What can you do to appreciate every moment?


Lift Your Attitude

September 6, 2018

I’ve come to realize that my attitude will dictate every result I get in my life. I’m sure you heard this message too growing up.  Things like; if you had better attitude, you could get better grades in school, or, with an attitude like that you can go to your room, right?  The only thing is no one ever told us how to get a better attitude. What is attitude anyway?  Well the dictionary describes it as;

1-A position of the body or manner of carrying oneself, indicative of mood or condition.

2-A state of mind or feeling about some matter.

3-A way of behaving; disposition.

In other words, my thoughts, feelings, and actions must all be aligned in a positive way, for me to be perceived and received as authentic. When this happens, I will radiate with confidence.

To do this, I have to be willing and able to honestly look at the results I am presently getting in my life. I know that at the center of my being is love, truth and a life that is connected to a higher intelligence. I also know I have gotten mixed messages about myself and the world as I was growing up.  These negative messages have formed my behaviors and beliefs.  Even though they didn’t feel good, I grew up not realizing how these limiting beliefs affected my attitude and everything in my life.

Now I know that I can change my perception about those beliefs. I choose to align with my higher self and develop an attitude of gratitude. Once I begin to make that shift, my whole world will reflect these results back to me, as a mirror reflects an image. Choosing to take responsibility for your attitude will improve the quality of your relationships which will bring unimaginable abundance into your life. Learn how you can tap into your truth and form a positive attitude.


What If?

August 30, 2018

 

“Everything will be okay in the end. If it’s not okay, it’s not the end.”
― John Lennon
I love this quote! So many times people worry over things we have absolutely no control over. We get so caught up with the negative “what ifs”? What if everything turns out horrible? What if we lose? What if it doesn’t turn out the way I planned? I’m sure you can think of other what ifs. But what if things turn out great? What if you could view life as a glorious adventure?


This reminds me of a folk story that brings things into perspective.
There once was a farmer who lived with his wife and only son in the country. They owned one horse that helped them till the soil and plant their crops.
One day the horse just decided to run away. All the neighbors found out and said, “Oh I’m so sorry for you. Now you are going to have to work so much harder.” The farmer kept his cool and said, “we’ll see.”
After a week the horse came back with a Mare. All the neighbors said, “Oh you are so lucky, now you have two horses to help work your land.” The farmer just said, “we’ll see.”
Now, their only son wanted to tame the new horse, however he got thrown off of her and broke his leg. Again the neighbors said, “Oh you poor thing, your only son that helps with so much can’t help you work.” The farmer just said, “we’ll see.”
A war broke out in the country and all the young men had to go to battle. However the farmers son could not go because of his broken leg. The neighbors said “Oh, how lucky you are, your only son gets spared from having to go to war.” The farmer again said, “we’ll see.”
So you see, the story of life has its good times, it’s bad times. Life has its ups and downs. There are highs and lows as well. How we face those times makes all the difference. Life is like a rollercoaster. You can enjoy the thrill of the ride or feel like you just want to get off.

Joe Biden, the former Vice President has a new released book entitled, “Promise Me Dad”, a year of hope, hardship and purpose.
He exemplifies what it means to have courage and faith. You too can set your own sail and find your purpose by choosing how you respond to life’s circumstances.
Look for ways to be of service. Go the extra mile, and make it a point to lift someone else up by giving a compliment. It goes farther than you can imagine.

Check out my article in Wisdomfeed!

https://www.wisdomfeed.com/unshakable-spirit-woman-empowering-women/

 


Go Into The Unknown

August 23, 2018

If you would create something, you must be something.

Johann Wolfgang Goethe

In a world that seems to be moving faster and faster into automation, how are we going to survive? AI (Artificial Intelligence) is here. More and more people’s jobs are being replaced by a machine. Which is a good thing if you can see it that way. We really aren’t designed to do medial tasks. We are creators and meant to create. The only problem is most people are in survival mode and lost their abilities to stir up their creative juices. If we feel threatened we are only concerned with surviving. Everything we do will be centered around protecting our lives and  that leaves no room for creativity. Being creative is liberating. It is free expression and allowing yourself to go into the unknown with a feeling of wonder, joy and excitement. It is turning on your mind to possibilities. That is what we are here to do.

To build, or play music, dance, write, invent, discover or anything that releases your gifts. so if you’re one of the people who lost their job to AI, see if you can turn being upset into being grateful. Because there is where you will find your passion to create.  It is in you!

Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known.

Carl Sagan


Filling Your Retirement Free Time with Fun New Skills

August 16, 2018

 

Learn These Life-Enhancing List Skills Online

 

When you are punching in from nine to five, you yearn for free time. But then by the time retirement rolls around, you’re so used to adhering to a strict schedule, seeing your day ahead of you so wide open can make you ask yourself “OK… now what?”

 

The answer to that question is a resounding “Whatever you want!” However, if what you want is to sit around and watch cable news all day, maybe you should reconsider.

 

The secret to filling your free time in retirement is to do the things that help stimulate your mind while also being fun. It’s important to continue learning in later life to help improve cognitive function and keep your brain sharp. To make it easier–and affordable on a fixed budget– look for activities and lessons you can do for a minimal fee– or even free!– online.

 

Here are some great ideas to help inspire you to fill your free time while sharpening your mind and tapping into your natural creativity.

 

Plant a new garden

 

During the spring and summer months, it’s hard to resist the urge to go outside to get a few minutes of sunshine. While you bask in the sun, you can consider learning how to enhance to look of your home’s exterior with beautiful landscaping. Planting a floral or vegetable garden easy to learn and satisfying as you gather the right tools to improve the health of your soil. Over time, your garden will flourish and become a conversation piece with your neighbors and other passersby.

 

Improve Your Skills in the Kitchen

 

When it comes to culinary skills, there is always more to learn.

 

Learning how to cook has so many benefits. You get to know exactly what’s going in your food which is especially helpful for retirees with restricted diets that help manage medical conditions. It saves you money and cuts down on the amount of calories, fat, salt, and artificial ingredients you consume. It’s also a great way to express your affection and friendship– nothing says “I love you” quite like a homemade meal.

 

There are so many new skills and techniques you can pick on with online cooking lessons:

 

  • Make a roux
  • Sous vide
  • French cut (or julienne) produce
  • Bake a tiered cake
  • Brown butter
  • And more!

 

Learn to Play an Instrument

 

Maybe you played a bit when you were younger but could use a refresher course to get back in the swing of things. Or maybe you want to try to play an instrument you always wanted to learn and you just now have time for it. Whatever your experience, there are online music lessons out there ready for you.

 

Playing an instrument in your senior years does so much more than fill your home with music. It gives your mind a workout and helps improve mental health as you build self-esteem. Playing music makes you more social and helps facilitate new relationships. Plus, it’s a great form of self-expression as you choose an instrument that you want to learn. Playing a woodwind instrument has the added benefits of strengthened breathing and improved posture. Check online for affordable woodwind options.

 

Turn Your Free Time into a Work of Art

 

If learning how to paint in retirement is good enough for ex-presidents, it’s certainly good enough for you! Art is a perfect activity to pursue in retirement because you don’t have to be rushed and you can do it anywhere– whether traveling abroad or simply sketching in the comfort of your own home.

 

You can pick your favorite medium or try something out new altogether. Taking art lessons online helps you gain some basic skills that you can then carry over into your own original works. Your friends and family will be dazzled by the masterpieces you create.

 

When you finally enter retirement, your days are full of free time. Don’t spend your golden years wasting away in front of the television. Instead, pick up new skills and learn something in order to keep your brain sharp. Cooking lessons are a great way to eat healthier and teach you to make dishes your friends and family will love. Learning an instrument fills your home with music while improving your mental health. Finally, art lessons are perfect for seniors as you can go at your own pace while expressing yourself creatively.

 

Julie Morris, is a Life and Career Coach, and a guest blogger. Her E-mail is: at julie_morris@juliemorris.org and website: juliemorris.org


Get Out Of The Way

August 9, 2018

If we open a quarrel between past and present, we shall find that we have lost our future.

Winston Churchill

The one person that is standing in your way of living your best life is YOU!

I can remember my self-sabotaging behaviors when I was younger. Boy if I only knew then what I know now. I was getting in my own way of success but didn’t see it. It’s not easy to see your blind spots. Until I started working with a coach I was continually shooting myself in the foot and blaming someone or something else for my setbacks.

Taking responsibility for my thoughts, feelings and actions requires disciple. To take an honest look at what I’ve been doing or not doing also takes courage.

What I’ve learned was to stop over analyzing. I must get in the zone and just be and do. I had to visualize myself as the person I wanted to be and then act the part. The minute the monkey mind started coming in my head, I was cooked.

The results are sneaky but can start to show up causing dis-ease, bad relationships, lack of money, loss of a job or any other place.

It takes continued focus and practice to learn how to stop the monkey mind from taking over.  That is why a coach is essential in helping you.

So, if you’re having a quarrel between your past and present, you too have lost your future. And without a future you’re not going anywhere.


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