Let’s Get Real

June 19, 2019

Honesty doesn’t always pay but dishonesty always costs

What is it about not being honest with ourselves or with others that people think they can hid and get away with? I tried to lie as a kid when I thought I would get punished, but I always got caught. Some how I never was able to get away with lying.

 

 

But what I’m talking about is not being real with ourselves. Being brutally honest with what works or what’s not working in our lives and making a change. I can remember staying in a relationship longer than I wanted to because I did’t want to hurt the other person. I compromised by values and rationalized (which I refer to as rational lies) to myself. Gosh, it was such an awful feeling that effected my health. I had headaches all the time!

Honest is the best policy. At the end of the day, being truthful and getting something off your chest to reveal what is in your heart and mind is so liberating. As a coach, I see this pattern so often. You get stressed and feel anxiety because you don’t want to change, even if you’re unhappy. You would rather numb the pain, hide the pain, shove it under the rug, stuff it, avoid it, lie about it, minimize it, blame others or anything to not having to deal with it. There is always a price to pay.

Let’s face it, it can be uncomfortable to reveal what you’ve been trying to hide. We are as sick as our secrets. So let the truth set you free, and get real like Pinocchio.


Weathering the Storms In Life

June 12, 2019

A good seaman weathers the storms he can not avoid, and avoids the storms he can not weather. Perhaps the key is to identify the difference.

I recently attended a funeral of a man who literally drank himself to death. He was an alcoholic in the depths of his addiction. It truly is a disease. It was a man I did not know well, but was there to support a friend who was involved with him. Some of his siblings spoke about him which revealed a man in his younger years was an extremely gifted and talented sailor, surfer, athlete and dancer. He went to Julliard for ballet!  So what happened?  When does a life start to take a turn and head into stormy waters? How can you navigate out of it? Why didn’t he get help? What was it that he was avoiding? So many questions, but no answers.

It was as if his life was battling a constant storm that he couldn’t get out of.

You might be going through some storms of your own or have gone through some turbulent times. We all go through tough times in life. With support and guidance you can get through them and even avoid some of them. You always need a good skipper on hand to help you see things you can’t as you are steering your way through life! So, if your going through a storm in your life, ask for help, pray, meditate on it and know anything is possible to get through with faith and courage.

 


I’m So Frustrated

March 13, 2019

When you are learning something new, do you get totally frustrated if you aren’t picking it up as easily as you would like? Learning a new skill requires effort, focus, concentration, repetition, desire and a host of other things that keep you engaged. It can be frustrating!

It is part of the learning curve. I’m going through this right now. I am involved in 3 online courses that has got me screaming sometimes. I have so much work to do. I feel like I’m back in school. Well I am kinda. I love to learn. I love to dig deep into subjects of the mind. It’s my addiction. I am fascinated by how the brain works so I’m studying neuroscience. It ain’t easy. I just want to throw all the books up in the air sometimes.

 

Thank God I know this is a part of the learning process. I know I will get really good at understanding how the brain works when I keep learning, studying and applying this material to my every day life.

So how about you? What would you like to learn? Maybe you would like to learn a new language. You might suck at speaking it for awhile but with practice you will get better and better.

How do you get to Carnegie Hall? Practice, Practice, Practice…..


Stinken Thinken

November 1, 2018

You are only as sick as your secrets. I want to be a part of a conversation that breaks down shame. Life happens. It’s about what you do with it. That’s were the grace lies.

Sean Corn  Yogi & Humanitarian

I was brought up in a time where you kept things within the family. You know, those family secrets. My parents were first generation American, they were both Holocaust survivors.  When they came here after the war, they worked really hard to make a living and raise a family. I can’t even image all the things they went through and witnessed. They had many secrets. They didn’t want to talk about all the horrible things they experienced and I can understand why. However, by them keeping secrets about their life, caused me to continue this cycle which resulted in a lot of shame and guilt that kept me emotionally captive. This is where addiction can hide its ugly self. Until I became aware that the secrets were not protecting me but keeping me a prisoner in my own life did I decide to liberate myself from them.

If you are caught up with the mind-set of what will the neighbors think, or if your afraid to shine, be different, stand out, be real, be authentic, be original, be vulnerable, Just be YOU!  There is goodness in you. You are worthy! You matter! You are amazing! You are loving and you are loved!

Share your beautiful self with others. Remember if you didn’t have a shadow, there would be no light.


Enough is Enough!

October 18, 2018

 

When we clear the physical clutter from our lives, we literally make way for inspiration and ‘good, orderly direction’ to enter.

Julia Cameron

How much is enough?  Is more really better? If you are continually seeking  more money and things, how can you enjoy what you already have? These are the questions you must  ask yourself if you want to be truly wealthy.  Always wanting more is actually a scarcity mind set.  There is enough for everyone if you could shift your thinking and believing.

Coming from a scarcity mind set is why there is so much waste, addiction and greed in the world. We are running on empty! Enough is enough! In order to be really rich, you must create your own prosperity road map. You must align with the natural laws of wealth. You must become friends with money and establish a wealthy life style.

It really all comes down to feeling good enough. If you feel worthy and really embody this feeling, you will amplify your earning power and activate your wealth building skills in a healthy way!

If you’re feeling like there is something holding you back from true abundance and riches, I would love to help you change that belief.


Every Day Is Extra

September 13, 2018

 

Life is short, and if we enjoy every day, then we will be happy no matter what happens or what changes along the way.

Gretchen Bleiler

Former Senator John Kerry’s memoir was recently released entitled “Every Day is Extra”. In it he writes about the struggles he had during his life and how he was able to forge ahead with a positive attitude, courage and faith. He faced many setbacks, family illnesses, crisis and tough decisions.

Let’s face it, life can be tough at times. Not every day is going to be a great day. Sometimes you may have days, months or even years of challenging times. Maybe you are being faced with a family member diagnosed with a serious illness, addiction or crisis. Maybe we ourselves are confronting a personal battle. I know what its like. Both my parents were Holocaust survivors and I have a daughter with addiction issues. It ain’t always easy.

However, if you wake up every day and realize that every day is extra, that every moment is another chance to create and do something better than the day before, you will be able to navigate uncertainties with faith and courage.

 

Look, no one gets out alive. Your time here is limited and you will be confronted with tough days. The storms, droughts, and other unexpected mishaps will come. But with an attitude of gratitude, knowing that every day is extra, you can turn any rainy day into a a day of appreciation and goodness.

What can you do to appreciate every moment?


From Depression to Expression

August 2, 2018

Depression begins with disappointment. When disappointment festers in our soul, it leads to depression.

Joyce Meyer

I was talking with a client the other day whose life was always  filled with much joy, prosperity and purpose.  He is two years away from retiring, from a job which he has always loved until recently. Now, somehow he has become disconnected and his fears are over taking him. Like many people who feel depressed, he is going through the motions without the passion and purpose in life. It is a tough place to be. It is debilitating.

I know, in my younger years I too felt alone, anxiety, sad and disconnected. I understand the grip of pain that latches on to your soul. This darkness grabs you and doesn’t want to let go. I put on a happy face but underneath I was a totally mess.

What I did was turn my mess into a message. That is what my client is now doing as well. It doesn’t happen over night. Our society has become so dysfunctional that it kind of reinforces depression, suppression, and oppression.  Addiction is now considered a pandemic. Everyone has their heads down looking in their phones. No one is communicating face to face any more. The word communicate comes from the word commune, to come together. To commune with nature, to commune with our spirit, to commune with divine intelligence and even commune with our bodies in a healthy way. Through neuroscience we know that the brain can rewire itself. We know that the brain has plasticity. Which means that with the proper help, understanding and support we can reconnect to our true self and divine energy to lift ourselves out of a state of depression to an expression of joy!

Finding your joy and releasing your pain is the greatest gift you can give to yourself and to the world. When we do, we are actually creating a more peaceful place for all humanity. That is how big this really is! Here’s to you’re happy self.


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