June 19, 2019
Honesty doesn’t always pay but dishonesty always costs
What is it about not being honest with ourselves or with others that people think they can hid and get away with? I tried to lie as a kid when I thought I would get punished, but I always got caught. Some how I never was able to get away with lying.
But what I’m talking about is not being real with ourselves. Being brutally honest with what works or what’s not working in our lives and making a change. I can remember staying in a relationship longer than I wanted to because I did’t want to hurt the other person. I compromised by values and rationalized (which I refer to as rational lies) to myself. Gosh, it was such an awful feeling that effected my health. I had headaches all the time!
Honest is the best policy. At the end of the day, being truthful and getting something off your chest to reveal what is in your heart and mind is so liberating. As a coach, I see this pattern so often. You get stressed and feel anxiety because you don’t want to change, even if you’re unhappy. You would rather numb the pain, hide the pain, shove it under the rug, stuff it, avoid it, lie about it, minimize it, blame others or anything to not having to deal with it. There is always a price to pay.
Let’s face it, it can be uncomfortable to reveal what you’ve been trying to hide. We are as sick as our secrets. So let the truth set you free, and get real like Pinocchio.
May 1, 2019
Did you ever feel like you have too much on your plate! That you have so much going on that you just don’t know how you’re going to get it all done?
I was on vacation for 10 days and when I returned home, it seems like I can’t catch up to all the things that are on my to do list. Yikes! That feeling of being overwhelmed can creep right into my brain and disturb my peace of mind.
Thank God I meditate, take great care of my health, eat well, dance, walk, breath, read inspirational books, stay connected to positive people and journal. If I didn’t do these practices every day, I would loss it. Really, there is way too much to keep up with. A day at a time or a minute at a time, sometimes. I know if I try to force things to happen, I’m working too hard. That is why staying connected to a higher consciousness, call it God, infinite intelligence or what you want is oh so vital.
It took many years to feel this peace but once you establish the habit, wow, it is my savior.
So, if you feel overwhelmed with too many things on your plate. Pause, take a few deep breaths and relax. Then, surrender it all. Let it all go. It will all get done. And if it doesn’t tomorrow is another day. Find your joy in every moment! It’s there if you look for it!
March 28, 2019
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart.
My heart is busting open with love, joy, gratitude, abundance, happiness and all good things. I’m literally having a heart on! That’s when Oxytocin (the love hormone) stimulates the production on nitric oxide which actually pumps more blood into the heart area engorging it. Once you have coherence in your heart and mind you will feel complete. When you feel complete you don’t want or need anything and everything can then come to you! It is the coolest feeling ever!!!
When my heart is open I just want to share this feeling with everyone! All I want is for others to feel this good. People are more stressed out then ever. There is so much change happening in the world that people are getting so overwhelmed. Anxiety and depression is a pandemic these days. If you could only learn a few tools, techniques and strategies to connect on a heart level, you too can have a heart on. All it takes is to let go of all the things that doesn’t bring you joy and start focusing on the things that do. The more you do this the more you activate your heart center and send energy there. If you need support, reach out. You will be so happy you did!
November 15, 2018
The heart is the perfection of the whole organism. Therefore, the principles of the power of perception and the soul’s ability to nourish itself must lie in the heart.
Aristotle, philosopher, and scientist, 384-322 BC
Stress, anxiety, frustration, overwhelm and dis-ease are at an all time high. Life is moving so fast and change is happening so rapidly that if you don’t have the tools, strategies and techniques to navigate through all the uncertainty you will wind up feeling totally out of balance. Your heart is more than an amazing pump circulating blood throughout your body. We have discovered that it is a brain that sends signals to your head letting you know when you are out of alignment by increasing your heart beat, raising your blood pressure and downloading stress hormones that flood your body producing all kinds of negative feelings, thoughts and toxins.
90-95% of all illnesses are stress related. That’s HUGE!!! Really, I can feel when I am getting out of my natural rhythm of joy and happiness. I’m sure you can too. Allow your heart to open. Take some deep slow breaths and slow down. Focus on someone you love and you will begin to sense your heart and mind getting into a coherent state. Practice this often. The more you do the more joy and health you will bring into your life.
October 13, 2015
Do you get overwhelmed by all the people, places and things in your life? Many people are relying more and more on medication, alcohol, and illegal substances to calm their nerves and ease their mind. However, all of these external things are a quick fix to the problem and bandage to the real cause of what’s really going on. A Panic attack, is a feeling in your mind and body that overtakes your ability to function in a healthy way. It is as if your mind is being taking over by bandits. There’s mutiny in your mind, and you are wrestling with the enemy;yourself. The chatter, confusion, and sheer panic that is expressed in your body can feel like every nerve is on fire. So, how do you stop the madness? You must first understand that your conscious and subconscious mind are at odds. Next, you have to become aware of the negative emotions that have been stored in your subconscious mind and release them through practice, meditation, and techniques to calm and center the mind. There is help. In today’s busy world, you can find the peace within to withstand any storm that might be ragging outside of you. Once you find this stillness, this center of pure consciousness, you will transmute panic into faith and courage. It is possible and you can change your thoughts, feelings, and actions to live a peaceful life.