A One, Two Punch!

July 13, 2017

 

hard on oneself

I think one of the biggest challenges people go through is that their too hard on themselves. We beat ourselves up with guilt, shame and other negative emotions. Why do we do this to ourselves? It is because over the years, people have spilled their negative energy on you, their attitudes, their beliefs, their unhealthy self -esteem. Where did they get it? The same way you have been getting it. People have spilled it on them. And on on it goes until you STOP being to hard on yourself.

I should have done it better! I should have passed that test! I shouldn’t have ate that box of chocolates! Some times we screw up, it’s OK! The more we go through this cycle the longer we stay in.

When we learn to love ourselves and embrace our strengths and our weaknesses, we can stop knocking ourselves down and raise up.

We are spiritual beings having this human experience. Being human is to enjoy and celebrate life. To celebrate You! Celebrate being here now! Celebrate all the good things that you’ve done and are continuing to accomplish. Celebrate your lessons in life. Celebrate the little things.

You do not have to try harder, be better, be perfect, or anything other than being YOU!

Your good enough and a child of God! You are a gift, so celebrate that!

Enjoy this video and get inspired to Celebrate Life!

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Use It or Loss It!

June 29, 2017

Success is the result of behavior, which is determined by attitudes, which are formed by conditioning, which takes place through spaced repetition.

Actually, it all starts with the thoughts we think, which will lead to the same choices. The same choices always create the same behaviors, and the same behaviors will always create the same experiences and the same experiences will always create the same emotions and those emotions will drive the same thoughts. Whew! So how do we change?

Through spaced repetition. 

Repetitive learning is the only vehicle to modify conditioning, which alters the attitude that controls behavior, which produces results we want.

Years ago when I wanted to change my negative thinking and behaviors, I would listen to audio tapes in my car when I was driving, watch motivational videos, read inspirational books, keep a gratitude journal, say affirmations, go to seminars, associate with positive people to change and most importantly, hire a coach! You know what? I still do the same things years later.

You must continue to change every day because if you don’t use it, you lose it.

Need help in changing Your behaviors? Let’s talk.


Give Your Best

November 16, 2016

give-your-bestThere is a subtle shift in pushing yourself to be the  best in the world and allowing yourself to being your best for the world. This is not an easy shift. Because when we concentrate on being the best in the world, it is easy to get caught up with all the trappings that are associated with giving your talents and abilities, such as money and recognition.

In contrast, when our efforts are devoted to being the best for the world, we approach our tasks with an attitude of service and grace. Our perception widens, as we are not thinking only of ourselves. Instead, we focus on using our talents and energy as best we can.

It is an inward shift and you will always be giving more with an attitude of gratitude.  It is an energetic connection with the infinite source of abundance and you, providing service to the world.

I was honored and privileged to be among the most luminary minds the last two days that are shifting the consciousness of the planet and being the best for the world!

Instead of asking what’s in it for me? Ask, How may I serve?

If you desire to be a part of this shift and awaking to spread awareness, call me and let’s have a conversation on how you too can be of service?

Pay it forward!


Your Program is Not Working For You!

July 5, 2016

“Programming creates belief, beliefs create attitudes; attitudes create feelings; feelings determine actions; actions create results.” Erasing and rewriting your own program with specific commands is thus the most permanent, logical, and precise way to change your life. I know there are many modalities that can change the programming that we have been downloaded with through our childhood, however I have found the most effective and lasting is self talk. This is more than just positive affirmations. Self talk is a technique that will literally reprogram your mind, Hearing yourself talk out loud, internally or play back from a recording you make with your own voice is a simple yet powerful method that will increase your self-esteem to new heights!

The answers we seek are all inside of ourselves and when we tap into the conversations we are having with ourselves we begin to open the door way to understand the dialog that is going on between our ears. We all talk to ourselves whether we think we do or don’t. The difference is, if you are communicating in the language that is most effective for your subconscious mind to understand.

Isn’t it time to for You to cancel and clear the old programs with New empowering ones? I have a tried and true system that shows you how!

Call me today and find out how you can achieve goal after goal!

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What’s On Your Mind

February 3, 2015

Well it’s February 3rd, and the temperatures are in the single digits outside. Ice and snow are covering just about everything here on Long Island. It’s difficult to walk and to do any outside activity except shovel, and it doesn’t look like it’s going to warm up anytime soon. Most of all activities that took place yesterday evening were cancelled due to the weather. Brrrrrrr!!!!

Indoors, it’s warm and cozy. I have heated floors, a beautiful new kitchen, and all the comforts of a modern home. However, I have three little dogs, three cats, and a bird. Yes, I love animals. What I don’t love, is cleaning up after them! Since its been so frigid outside, the cats don’ t want to go out and the dogs can’t walk because it hurts their paws. So I have wee wee pads all over and litter boxes that need to be cleaned a few times a day. They are also having accidents in different places. I am a neat freak, and this is freaking me out! I get completely unhinged when I think about it. Then, I remembered Victor Frankls’ book, Mans Search for Meaning. What a powerful story he shares with humanity. The main message in the book is “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms, to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Wow, that put things for me, in perspective real fast. Yes, I’m not over joyed about cleaning up after my animals, but, I can choose to see it in a different way. I can choose to appreciate my pets, be grateful for my home, be thankful that I am able to care for them, and  focus on what is good rather than whats not. So, what’s on your mind? What are you focusing on? If it’s not to your liking, change your thoughts. It’s freedom that noone can ever take away from you!victor Frankl


Choose Your Way

August 12, 2014

good attitude“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing, the last of human freedoms, to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”   Victor Frankl

Yesterday, I was driving home from Connecticut, with a piece of furniture I found on craigs list. It barely fit into my minivan. I mean if it was a fraction of an inch bigger, it would not have gone in. (Getting it out, is another story) I was squished up against the steering wheel while driving home, since I needed every bit of space for it. Needless to say, I was very uncomfortable. On top of that, I got stuck in traffic that came to a screeching halt for over an hour! It took three and a half hours to get home. It took every ounce of conscious deliberate thought to focus my mind on positive things, rather than to feel the frustration, claustrophobia, and discomfort that was actually taking place. I concentrated my thoughts on my goals and dreams instead. The time allowed me to choose my own way.  I know that what I focus on will expand, so I choose to use my freedom of thought, to think good thoughts. I am so grateful to have the wisdom to know that at anytime, if I do not like the circumstance I am in, I can change it by choosing my own way.


Disappointments

May 6, 2014

disappointmentHave you ever felt disappointed? Maybe you were expecting something to be different from how it actually showed up for you? I know that in my life, I have learned that disappointment is only something that was not meant to be. I have turned disappointment into knowing that something better is waiting for me.

Last week, I had a free ticket to a conference I really wanted to attend. However, there were hundreds of other people who also wanted to attend this conference. There was no guarantee that I would get a seat. After waiting for 1/2 an hour on a mile long line, I decided to head home. I could have felt disappointed but I knew that other things were pressing that needed my attention. So I was grateful for the ability to choose a different attitude. So next time, when the feeling of disappointment gushes into your being, take a deep breath in the knowing that you are being prepared for something better.  There is an appointment that is waiting for you when you let go of the disappointment!


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