Going Down the Rabbit Hole

October 9, 2019

“If you don’t know where your going, you’ll wind up some where else.”

Yogi Berra

What is it that you really want? When I was a teenager, I didn’t have a purpose or direction in life. I didn’t have a focus that kept my attention. My father got sick when I was about 14 years old and passed over when I turned 17. He lived with cancer for a few years which was a very difficult time for my family. I completely rebelled and lost sight of anything and everything that I could have wanted for myself. I had no aspirations or goals. I was just drifting.

I was in  survival mode. As time passed and our family healed from our loss, I was able to begin looking at my future with new eyes. I started focusing on what I wanted in life and applied my gifts and talents to horticulture. I opened a plant business which I truly loved. My attention on learning everything I could about plants grew and grew (and so did my plants). As I evolved so did my passion to learn about nature, health, herbs and about people. This took me to the field I am in today, coaching. I love it!

 

 

You see, when you’re not sure where you want to go, any road will take you there. When you have clarity, you can navigate a path that will bring so much joy, satisfaction and happiness into your life. Having a purpose and sticking with it, is the answer to so many of your life’s questions. So, ask yourself, what do you really want? What are you willing to devote your life too? There is something inside of you that no one else can do just like you! If you want to go down the rabbit hole, make sure it is with a purpose, otherwise any road will take you to no where.

 

 


Dream Yourself Into Being

July 24, 2019

As soon as you pursue a dream, your life wakes up and everything has meaning.

Barbara Sher

Lately, I’ve been honing my skills into really shaping the life I want. I’ve been on a quest to step into a totally different reality. To do this I have to do what the mystics called, shape shifting. That is dreaming yourself into a state of being. So, of course the first question you have to ask yourself is who do you want to be, what will you be doing and why?

This is an ancient belief in all cultures. It is what the movie The Transformers are all about. But, before you can do something, you have to become that someone. If you want a new personal reality, you have to shift your personality. The more I talk to people the more transformation they want to make in their lives but they feel stuck, confused, stressed, full of anxiety or depressed. You will not be able to shape shift if your emotional state is in turmoil.

 

You must release any tension in your mind/body/spirit to allow for the freedom to travel the realms of different dimensions. To let yourself go and explore what is possible. Imagine the life you want. Set yourself free and morph into whatever shape comes through you. Kids do this naturally when they feel safe enough to play. How about you? Are you ready to shape shift? Do you need guidance to release the tension for you to get started? I’m here to support you as you learn how to mold into a whole new YOU!


Are You Going Through It Or Growing Through It?

July 3, 2019

Let’s face it, life can be darn hard at times. It can knock you down, turn you inside out and twist you around. I don’t know anyone who hasn’t achieved greatness without going through some sort of adversity.

The difference between those that succeeded and those that didn’t is the faith and courage to get back up and go at it again. Also, having someone in your corner. someone who sees your goodness and sees something that you can’t or don’t believe in yet. There were times that I wanted to give up on myself but something inside me kept me going. You can call it source energy, God, spirit, consciousness or infinite intelligence, but it’s real and it always available to tap into.

If you’re going through some tough times, you can grow through it. To reach mastery in anything, or to overcome anything ask your heart for guidance and then give it your all. Grow through it!  Nothing happens by accident. Learn from adversity and grow. You’ll amaze yourself who you can become!


Weathering the Storms In Life

June 12, 2019

A good seaman weathers the storms he can not avoid, and avoids the storms he can not weather. Perhaps the key is to identify the difference.

I recently attended a funeral of a man who literally drank himself to death. He was an alcoholic in the depths of his addiction. It truly is a disease. It was a man I did not know well, but was there to support a friend who was involved with him. Some of his siblings spoke about him which revealed a man in his younger years was an extremely gifted and talented sailor, surfer, athlete and dancer. He went to Julliard for ballet!  So what happened?  When does a life start to take a turn and head into stormy waters? How can you navigate out of it? Why didn’t he get help? What was it that he was avoiding? So many questions, but no answers.

It was as if his life was battling a constant storm that he couldn’t get out of.

You might be going through some storms of your own or have gone through some turbulent times. We all go through tough times in life. With support and guidance you can get through them and even avoid some of them. You always need a good skipper on hand to help you see things you can’t as you are steering your way through life! So, if your going through a storm in your life, ask for help, pray, meditate on it and know anything is possible to get through with faith and courage.

 


Risk Being Alive!

May 30, 2019

“Life should be a daring adventure or nothing at all.”

Helen Keller

I love watching movies. Old movies that is. I am fascinated with movies that were made in the 40’s and 50’s. I find that most of them were done so well. The script, acting, cinematography, and production were first class. I do like some of the movies made today but I don’t go out of my way to watch them, so when I’m on a plane, I get a chance to catch up on the new releases. On my way home from Australia last month, I got caught up. One of the movies I watched was a National Geographic Movie, Free Solo.  OMG, it was amazing. It made me think of what it means to be alive.  To live your life like you were on the edge of life or death, literally.

It made me think of what the meaning of life really is and what is it that holds us back from living it full out. I mean, I don’t have the calling to scale mountains like Alex Honnold, but I do know my purpose and have a desire to reach more people through coaching because I love my work and I know it works. It made me think of what I need to do to become better, more focused and give it my all.

If you have a desire inside you, really ask yourself, what are you willing to do, to give up and practice to become your best? To live fully and be alive! Go for it. Reach inside of yourself for the answers. Stir up that juice that is calling you to something greater. Go watch the movie, maybe it will inspire you as it did me. You have greatness in you. What is calling you? Go for it! Seek it and you shall find! Risk Being Alive!

 

 


Get Out Of The Way

August 9, 2018

If we open a quarrel between past and present, we shall find that we have lost our future.

Winston Churchill

The one person that is standing in your way of living your best life is YOU!

I can remember my self-sabotaging behaviors when I was younger. Boy if I only knew then what I know now. I was getting in my own way of success but didn’t see it. It’s not easy to see your blind spots. Until I started working with a coach I was continually shooting myself in the foot and blaming someone or something else for my setbacks.

Taking responsibility for my thoughts, feelings and actions requires disciple. To take an honest look at what I’ve been doing or not doing also takes courage.

What I’ve learned was to stop over analyzing. I must get in the zone and just be and do. I had to visualize myself as the person I wanted to be and then act the part. The minute the monkey mind started coming in my head, I was cooked.

The results are sneaky but can start to show up causing dis-ease, bad relationships, lack of money, loss of a job or any other place.

It takes continued focus and practice to learn how to stop the monkey mind from taking over.  That is why a coach is essential in helping you.

So, if you’re having a quarrel between your past and present, you too have lost your future. And without a future you’re not going anywhere.


You’re A Brainiac!

July 19, 2018

We are living in very uncertain times. Things are speeding up so rapidly that if we do not have the knowledge, tools, strategies and techniques to keep up with the pace of these changes we will be left behind groveling in a sea of mediocrity which will never get us to where we truly desire to be. So, the question is, how do we acquire the knowledge and mindset to take us further than we ever thought possible?

This is where coaching comes in. We must begin to do some introspective work to see who you really are. What are your habits, behaviors, beliefs and image about yourself? What is the conversation you are having with yourself? What are the conversation you are having with other people?

It takes .10th of a second for people to determine if they like you and want to engage in doing business with you and .07 seconds to sense they don’t trust you. That’s how fast and important it is for you to really be authentic and know yourself. If you are uncertain in anyway within yourself, people will pick up on this feeling before you even utter hello.

Not only must our intentions be clear, we must be aware of the impact we are having on others. If we only focus on our intention, we can often have a negative impact on others, triggering their fight, flight, freeze or appease impulse which is controlled by the Amygdala in the brain or the lower brain. We immediately will turn people off.

Being aware of your intentions and the impact you want to convey will communicate positive reactions in others, which will lead them to trust and like you. This triggers the Prefontal Cortex, known as the executive or decision making part of the brain.

We actually have seven brains.

1-The Primitive Brain or (reptilian brain- sensors threats)

2-Heart Brain- Our heart is much more than just a pump. (We either sync or not with others)

3-Limbic Brain (Stores memory and history of emotions)

4- Neocortex (Hardwired for language, storing information, basic thinking, reasoning and cognitive skills)

5- Prefrontal Cortex (The youngest part of the brain & often called the executive brain)

6- Gut-Brain – We truly are what we eat. (The gut brain is revolutionizing medicine’s understanding of the links between, mood, health and even the way we think. Scientists call this little brain the ecteric nervous system.)

7-Interstidium- A layer of skin under the epidermis. It communicates and gathers information.

Until we understand how we can link or body, mind and spirit into alignment, we will never truly be successful and live our best life. This knowledge is vital to your success, happiness, and health in these ever -changing times.

Coaching will revolutionize the way you see yourself and propel you to new heights in all areas of your life.

 


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