The Answers Are Under Our Feet!

March 4, 2020

“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”

Buckminster Fuller

There is a crisis on earth today. We are living in what is called the 6th major mass extinction. It is estimated that between 0.01 and 0.1% of all species will become extinct each year. That means between 200 and 2,000 extinctions occur every year. That is an alarming rate! If we keep going the way we’re going, our quality of life will become unsustainable. Our entire system will collapse. People are becoming more despondent and feeling hopeless. Because of this, people feel disconnected and broken. So how can we begin to make a change and reconstruct a new foundation build on the values of cooperation, consciousness and compassion?

Maybe the answers are right under our noses or feet and we just must begin to look and notice! I have always loved and respected nature, so when I heard of the movie; Fantastic Fungi-How Mushrooms Can Heal, Shift Consciousness and Save the Planet, I went to see it.  I was completely transformed. You see mycelium is the vegetative part of the fungus or the mass branching threads that connect and communicate with all of nature. Fungi’s incredible ability to heal environments that have suffered from catastrophic change might be explained by the epigenetic qualities of their network-like design. It is a network, our brain is a network, and our computer information-sharing systems are networks. Networks are valuable because of their resilience to change, their ability to adapt to change, and their ability to experience change.

Somehow our networks have become separated. Our families, our communities, our cultures, our world have felt the tuck of competition rather than communion. Can we reconnect the synapses that have become separated between nature and consciousness? Can we learn from the mycelium that knows how to share, be generous, support, and communicate with each other that is right under our feet?  Learning how to communicate with one another in a compassionate way will reestablish our connection with nature by creating a network of intelligent solutions. The whole is greater than its parts. To heal ourselves and the earth, we must begin to realize who we are and where we came from. We are all one. Healthy conversations build strong networks, strong networks connect and support one another. All life began and will end with fungi. The quality of our lives will be determined by how well we are able to communicate with each other. Let’s build a new model designed after one that has been around from the beginning of time. Love, the ultimate connector. It is the mycelium network that holds everything together.

 


Change Is Coming

October 3, 2019

 

“Mother Earth is giving birth to a co-creative humanity. There’s not a majority anywhere, because old leadership does not have the authority to guide us.”

Barbara Marx Hubbard

I don’t believe anyone is not feeling some sort of struggle, pain, change, conflict or suffering in their lives or someone close to them. The world is going through a massive evolutionary time.

When you are against someone or thing there is no room for growth, collaboration, co-creation or advancement. You stay stuck in a mind set that is destructive rather than constructive. This pulls things apart rather than brings things together. There is a sense of separation, difference or competition. There can be no winners, everyone losses in this arena. This has been the model of health care, politics, business and relationships that has dominate our world for a millennium but is now collapsing. We can no longer sustain a world this is only concerned with oneself. This is an “I”-Centric focused way of being. The culture of a home, business, organization and world is literally dying because of this way of being.

When we become conscious of the fact that everything is connected and what we do to others, we do to ourselves, we can then begin to embrace a “WE”-Centric way of being.  I mean, even if you look at the word, WE it is full of I’s.

Being kinder, compassionate, understanding and creative is all about sharing and staying open to our differences. Diversity is essential for business growth and expansion. Different points of views and ways of looking at things is a must for the creative process.

Learning how to communicate in a way that unites is the key to creating a culture of cooperation. We are social being. We need each other to survive. Everything you say, think, do and feel effects everything else whether you can visibly see the impact or not. There is an evolution happening. You can choose to do this through revolution or through finding a peaceful solution. We can thrive if we choose to co-create together.

 

 


Words Create Worlds

September 5, 2019

 

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”

Albert Einstein

If there is one constant in life it is change. This is good news because if you aren’t happy with any part of your life, you can change it. In order to change your personal reality, you must change your personality. In order to change your personality, you must change the conversation you are having with yourself. We live in a river of change and everything is connected. Our six hundred trillion cells are self-regulating themselves every second of every day.  You are not the same person you were yesterday. When your cells are in harmonious communication with each other you experience homeostasis. When they’re not you experience some sort of emotional and or physical pain. This all stems from resistance to change.

It takes courage to change. To transform our words, thinking, habits and  patterns takes a conscious awareness. But if we don’t, we become rigid, and if we become too rigid, we will collapse. Staying open to change is staying open to possibilities. When we can communicate with ourselves and each other in a healthy way, we can create the life we truly want. Our words have incredible energy behind them. They resonate in our bodies and send out a ripple vibration into the world. Words create worlds. Use them wisely.

 


Too Much Stress!

August 7, 2019

This was a sad weekend. After hearing the horrific news about the shooting in El Paso, I also got a few calls from friends who were feeling anxiety as well as a client who is struggling from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

It seemed where ever I turned someone was experiencing some sort of distress. It is estimated that 1/3 of the children today suffer from some sort of anxiety disorder. That means that they have a hard time regulating their emotions. What is driving their behaviors?

I can remember when I was around 9 years old and in the 4th grade, I forgot my homework and the teacher made me go sit in the back of a 3rd grade class to teach me a lesson. Well needless to say I was humiliated, stressed and felt completely horrible. I balled my eyes out and was afraid to tell my parents about this, so I just kept it to myself. I became fearful of many things after that. These are some of the things that can cause anxiety in children.

Children will develop all sorts of disorders from events where they don’t feel safe and protected. Besides the children today are more disconnected from nature. The internet and social media can create social isolation from bullying. Lack of exercise and movement as well as the diets and environmental factors  are also causing psychological disturbances within children. Parents are stressed out too,having to juggle so many things on their plate.  And children as well as adults are being bombarded with way to much stimulation.

So what can you do? Go outside, connect with nature, play, communicate in a loving way. Shut off the TV or computer, put down your phones and move, dance or do some form of physical activity. Eat more fruits and vegetables and get rid of the proceeded foods. Engage in more social activities.

There are many natural approaches to anxiety rather than medication. I know I found them, and I know you can too.


Fill In the Blanks

May 14, 2019

Texting has become a great way of communicating. However if there is a gap between the exchange it can also leave you feeling insecure. When this happens, you might fill in the blanks with made up stories. We have gotten so used to instant responses in everything we do. If it takes a second too long we are scrolling, deleting or on to something else.

We can google anything and get the answer immediately. So, when it comes to texting as a way of communicating there might be some blanks that keep you guessing. What does this actually mean? What is she trying to say? Or, if you don’t get an answer back right away, your brain might start to make up a story that their mad at you, and the last text she send sounded cold or any number of things that your emotional brain can stir up.

Relationships are all about having open and honest communication. If your filling in the gaps, than it is best to talk in person to clarify the misunderstanding. Texting is a great way to feel connected but it can also be a double edge sword.

Communication is the key to any great relationship. Make sure your words are texting that!

 


What Are You Feeling?

November 29, 2018

 

 

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. …

We have the ability to connect with anybody, anywhere at any time, however we seem to be losing the ability to communicate.  People are feeling more isolated then ever before. Loneliness is a feeling of despair, powerlessness, abandonment, shame, depression and many other emotions that keep you locked into believing your not enough.

 

To compensate these feelings of loneliness, you might entertain yourself by getting hooked and absorbed into your cell phone.   Everyone seems to be doing it. We can keep our heads down and get sucked into the vacuum of a screen that projects what ever fantasy, illusion or fictitious image that draws us into its void.

Don’t get me wrong, it is a fabulous way to connect if we use it wisely. Communication is about coming together, to commune. To look into someone eyes and connect on a visceral level. To talk and share your words and feelings so you can share experiences, information, discoveries and explore, create, expand, learn and grow. We can not do this alone. We do this by communication. We must begin to bridge the gap and come together rather than pull away.

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Cry Baby Cry

October 25, 2018

 

When you hold back your tears, you only amplify the emotions your body is trying to release through crying.

Source Unknown

 

I just recently came back home from visiting my daughter out in Seattle Washington. What a beautiful part of the country! We went camping in her tiny RV home Big Foot.

We explored Olympic National Park and the coastal region. It was pure bliss to be engulfed by nature. After we settled back to our vacation home overlooking Mount Rainier. The view was absolutely spectacular.

Every morning I woke up to the howling of wolves that were at a wildlife preserve near by and this majestic mountain. I witnessed an eagle soar down to catch a fish and an otter who graced us with her presence now and again. It was truly magical. I had tears of joy being present to all natures bounty.

However, I also had tears of sorrow, hurt and emotional pain over an encounter my daughter and I had. Some old feelings and wounds were brought up that really felt awful. We both felt the separation and disconnect from our different interpretation of an event.  My eyes filled with tears over this.  Crying is a healthy release of emotions. It releases stress and actually makes you feel better afterwards.  My baby girl is so strong, independent and and a beautiful free spirit. After expressing my hurt to her and letting her know what I was feeling, both our hearts expanded. The love poured open and tears of joy now gushed out.

You see, when you are open and honest with your feelings and able to communicate how you feel in a healthy way, you will uplift the pain and emotional bondage that keeps you blocked from the love you have to give and the love that is there for you to receive.

So if you feel like crying, let it out!

 


From Depression to Expression

August 2, 2018

Depression begins with disappointment. When disappointment festers in our soul, it leads to depression.

Joyce Meyer

I was talking with a client the other day whose life was always  filled with much joy, prosperity and purpose.  He is two years away from retiring, from a job which he has always loved until recently. Now, somehow he has become disconnected and his fears are over taking him. Like many people who feel depressed, he is going through the motions without the passion and purpose in life. It is a tough place to be. It is debilitating.

I know, in my younger years I too felt alone, anxiety, sad and disconnected. I understand the grip of pain that latches on to your soul. This darkness grabs you and doesn’t want to let go. I put on a happy face but underneath I was a totally mess.

What I did was turn my mess into a message. That is what my client is now doing as well. It doesn’t happen over night. Our society has become so dysfunctional that it kind of reinforces depression, suppression, and oppression.  Addiction is now considered a pandemic. Everyone has their heads down looking in their phones. No one is communicating face to face any more. The word communicate comes from the word commune, to come together. To commune with nature, to commune with our spirit, to commune with divine intelligence and even commune with our bodies in a healthy way. Through neuroscience we know that the brain can rewire itself. We know that the brain has plasticity. Which means that with the proper help, understanding and support we can reconnect to our true self and divine energy to lift ourselves out of a state of depression to an expression of joy!

Finding your joy and releasing your pain is the greatest gift you can give to yourself and to the world. When we do, we are actually creating a more peaceful place for all humanity. That is how big this really is! Here’s to you’re happy self.


You’re A Brainiac!

July 19, 2018

We are living in very uncertain times. Things are speeding up so rapidly that if we do not have the knowledge, tools, strategies and techniques to keep up with the pace of these changes we will be left behind groveling in a sea of mediocrity which will never get us to where we truly desire to be. So, the question is, how do we acquire the knowledge and mindset to take us further than we ever thought possible?

This is where coaching comes in. We must begin to do some introspective work to see who you really are. What are your habits, behaviors, beliefs and image about yourself? What is the conversation you are having with yourself? What are the conversation you are having with other people?

It takes .10th of a second for people to determine if they like you and want to engage in doing business with you and .07 seconds to sense they don’t trust you. That’s how fast and important it is for you to really be authentic and know yourself. If you are uncertain in anyway within yourself, people will pick up on this feeling before you even utter hello.

Not only must our intentions be clear, we must be aware of the impact we are having on others. If we only focus on our intention, we can often have a negative impact on others, triggering their fight, flight, freeze or appease impulse which is controlled by the Amygdala in the brain or the lower brain. We immediately will turn people off.

Being aware of your intentions and the impact you want to convey will communicate positive reactions in others, which will lead them to trust and like you. This triggers the Prefontal Cortex, known as the executive or decision making part of the brain.

We actually have seven brains.

1-The Primitive Brain or (reptilian brain- sensors threats)

2-Heart Brain- Our heart is much more than just a pump. (We either sync or not with others)

3-Limbic Brain (Stores memory and history of emotions)

4- Neocortex (Hardwired for language, storing information, basic thinking, reasoning and cognitive skills)

5- Prefrontal Cortex (The youngest part of the brain & often called the executive brain)

6- Gut-Brain – We truly are what we eat. (The gut brain is revolutionizing medicine’s understanding of the links between, mood, health and even the way we think. Scientists call this little brain the ecteric nervous system.)

7-Interstidium- A layer of skin under the epidermis. It communicates and gathers information.

Until we understand how we can link or body, mind and spirit into alignment, we will never truly be successful and live our best life. This knowledge is vital to your success, happiness, and health in these ever -changing times.

Coaching will revolutionize the way you see yourself and propel you to new heights in all areas of your life.

 


It’s My Way Or The High Way

September 14, 2017

We all know the story of the Empires new clothes, right? Were he paraded down his village with no clothes on and no one wanted to confront him and tell him that he was stark naked. It took the innocence of a young boy to yell this out, that broke the trance. How do you handle confrontation? For most people this can be very difficult. If there is a problem that needs to be addressed, avoiding it will only make the matter worse. So what is the best way to handle it? Having a clear sense of how to do this will create a win-win situation or a win-loss outcome. Confrontation is not about I’m right and you’re wrong. It is about being direct, clear, honest and sincere. When you align your tone of voice, words and intention to communication what you feel in a healthy way, the message gets received in a non-aggressive manner.

 


It is important to confront the behavior or an action that is unfavorable. If not, nothing changes and it will get worse. Healthy confrontation takes emotional stability and responsibility. In order for our world to change in a positive direction we need people to speak up and confront the issues that are allowing so much destructive behavior to go on.

So the next time you want to lash out or ignore the situation, find the courage within yourself to be the one who confronts the problem in a healthy way so it can get resolved.

Need help in learning a healthy dialog to communicate, let’s talk!

Here are 10 Guidelines for Positive Confrontation!

 


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