September 14, 2017
We all know the story of the Empires new clothes, right? Were he paraded down his village with no clothes on and no one wanted to confront him and tell him that he was stark naked. It took the innocence of a young boy to yell this out, that broke the trance. How do you handle confrontation? For most people this can be very difficult. If there is a problem that needs to be addressed, avoiding it will only make the matter worse. So what is the best way to handle it? Having a clear sense of how to do this will create a win-win situation or a win-loss outcome. Confrontation is not about I’m right and you’re wrong. It is about being direct, clear, honest and sincere. When you align your tone of voice, words and intention to communication what you feel in a healthy way, the message gets received in a non-aggressive manner.
It is important to confront the behavior or an action that is unfavorable. If not, nothing changes and it will get worse. Healthy confrontation takes emotional stability and responsibility. In order for our world to change in a positive direction we need people to speak up and confront the issues that are allowing so much destructive behavior to go on.
So the next time you want to lash out or ignore the situation, find the courage within yourself to be the one who confronts the problem in a healthy way so it can get resolved.
Need help in learning a healthy dialog to communicate, let’s talk!
Here are 10 Guidelines for Positive Confrontation!
July 20, 2017
How many times have you been a conversation were someone was insisting on being right? It seemed like they weren’t even listening to what you had to say. They were just addicted to wanting to be RIGHT! They just wanted to prove their point, position or claim. Every time that we get in this mind-set we actually release dopamine into our body and get a good high from it. We want to prove a point, get the right answers and look smart.
Now being smart is great, however if there is no emotional intelligence behind the smarts we are really not growing, learning and communicating well. We actually remain stuck, and actually are damaging our relationships in business and in our personal life. If you are a boss or in a leadership position, this is vital for the health of your company.
It is wanting to be in a position of power and control rather than cooperation. When we learn how to listen and just be open to another point of view, it will allow so much trust and open dialog. We shift to create the freedom to explore possibilities and look for solutions to problems rather than slam the door shut on any other view point.
So the next time you feel the urge to be RIGHT, rather than react, take a moment to respond in a different way.
Here are three suggestions to keep an open mind and respond rather than that knee jerk reaction:
1-Ask- How do you feel?
2- Ask- What do you think?
3-Ask-How can we work together to find an answer?
Would your rather be RIGHT or do the RIGHT thing?
Here is a short video explaining how our ego gets in the way of our success.
If you would like to find a healthier way to communicate let’s talk! Call me.
June 7, 2017
If Your Happy and You Know it, Clap Your Hands!
Silly? Not so. Do you know that there is a direct link between how we feel and cancer?
Determining your risk of cancer has a lot to do with your emotional state of mind.
I remember reading a book many moons ago entitled ” You Can’t Afford A Negative Thought” (I don’t remember the author).
Negative thoughts produce, cortisol, adrenaline, and other potentially harmful hormones.
More and more neuroscience is discovering how true this statement is.
How we communicate in business and in our personal lives are also effecting our chemistry. The hormone oxytocine is the tend and befriend hormone. It is a feel good hormone. It is a fabulous hormone to release into your bloodstream to attract new clients and establish warm and engaging relationships.It is the charismatic hormone and people will be naturally drawn to you.
Wouldn’t you want to learn how to at download this hormone at will?
We can learn to access this hormone at will through understanding a few simple techniques.
You must understand the great laws of nature to begin to use them in your favor.
The 1st law of nature is that everything is energy. EVERYTHING!!!
The 2nd law, is thoughts move energy.
The 3rd law is we are always working with the law of attraction or the law of repulsion.
PROFESSIONAL SALESPEOPLE ARE EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATORS.
One of the greatest problems in sales is communication, or the lack of it. To effectively lead a prospect, it is necessary to remember that you are communicating on three different levels of life, simultaneously.
To become a professional salesperson, effective communication is essential.
You cannot function in a truly dynamic, creative manner by yourself; you need a COACH or a team of COACHES trained in understanding these laws.
When it becomes a habit to help your prospects get what they want in life, the Law will see that your customers will be the medium through which your good will be delivered to you. That is the LAW.
“The law of cause and effect is the law of laws.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Anyone who would like to learn more on how to become an effective communicator and download some oxytocin, please reach out. I love to communicate
July 5, 2016
“Programming creates belief, beliefs create attitudes; attitudes create feelings; feelings determine actions; actions create results.” Erasing and rewriting your own program with specific commands is thus the most permanent, logical, and precise way to change your life. I know there are many modalities that can change the programming that we have been downloaded with through our childhood, however I have found the most effective and lasting is self talk. This is more than just positive affirmations. Self talk is a technique that will literally reprogram your mind, Hearing yourself talk out loud, internally or play back from a recording you make with your own voice is a simple yet powerful method that will increase your self-esteem to new heights!
The answers we seek are all inside of ourselves and when we tap into the conversations we are having with ourselves we begin to open the door way to understand the dialog that is going on between our ears. We all talk to ourselves whether we think we do or don’t. The difference is, if you are communicating in the language that is most effective for your subconscious mind to understand.
Isn’t it time to for You to cancel and clear the old programs with New empowering ones? I have a tried and true system that shows you how!
Call me today and find out how you can achieve goal after goal!
February 4, 2014
Do your actions speak louder than your words? Are you communicating something through your words, but saying something different through your actions and body language? People will pick up your vibes through your actions more than your words. You are broadcasting who you are all the time. If your words and body language are not congruent, people will not hear what you are saying. You can tell so much about someone through their body language. It tells us the truth about yourself. You can not hide the real you. Keep your words and actions in sync to attract exactly what you desire. Take action that matches your words. Not only will you feel better, you will look better too. There will be a calmness about you that people will pick up on, and be able to hear you loud and clear!