Practice the Pause

June 17, 2020

How hard is it to keep cool under pressure? For me it has been a practice. I would be okay with strangers and not react, but with people close to me, well that was much harder. That knee jerk reaction would just get the better of me. I would say things I later would regret. It also started to become a pattern. Every time my older daughter would do or say something that I thought wasn’t right, I would open my big mouth and put my two cents in. This would go on and on until I finally became aware of what about the dynamics of our relationship I was playing a part of.  I admit, I do not like the way she chooses to live her life but she is an adult and I must learn to pause. It ain’t easy!

Practicing this has made all the difference in myself and my relationship with her. Not that she has changed her habits or life style, but I have created a space for being present without judgement or resentment. She really is my greatest teacher. Teaching me patience, acceptance, non-judgement, love, compassion, peace and happiness. Who is your greatest teacher? Do you have  someone close to you that presses all those painful buttons in you? Once I looked deeper into our relationship I saw unhealed parts in me that she was reflecting back. Love can be messy. It can be painful. It can be raw and vulnerable. Practicing the pause, allows for healing to take place. It allows you to surrender to the moment and just sit in whatever is bubbling up in you without reacting. However uncomfortable it may feel in the moment, stay with the pause and it will eventually begin to dissolve into peace, and that peace will radiate out into others.

Listen deeply. breath deeply, and love deeply. It is here where you will release all those old patterns of hurt and suffering. The world is hurting right now. People are hurting. I have learned to pause, to be mindful of what I am doing and how I am being that either contributes to the suffering or contributes to happiness and peace. What are you contributing to?  Here’s a cute little video to bring some joy into your day!


The Winds of Change

June 3, 2020

We are certainly living in extraordinary times. You can even call them epoch times. There is a drama being played out in humanity that is changing so quickly that many people are getting caught in the strong currant of hate, fear, violence, anger, frustration and other negative emotions. Watching, listening and engaging in what the media is broadcasting can sweep you in that direction pretty easily. I choose not to do this. Oh yes, I can’t help getting the coverage of what’s going on and have watched the video of the horrible and disturbing act that killed George Floyd. I was deeply saddened by this act.

Just when the world was showing signs of hope and glimmers of healing from the pandemic an even more powerful and sinister virus has gripped us. The one of hate and prejudice. This virus can destroy not only your body but your soul. It will eat you up and destroy everything in its path. I can understand the pain and suffering that this unjust act has surfaced. I can understand the rage it has brought up. We all have darkness inside us. We all have a shadow. We just don’t like to become acquainted with our most deep and dark inner most fears. We will do anything to push them away.  But there is no more running, there is no more hiding and there is no more distracting ourselves. We must become intimate with our fears, insecurities and vulnerabilities.

It is here that you will find your light. It is going through the dark night of the soul you will emerge the hero of your own story. When you’re able to transmute your anger into compassion, you will know that you’re out of the woods. When this happens you will discover there is another story unfolding that you might miss if you get distracted from the winds of change. This story is much more fascinating, glorious and beautiful. It’s the story of now!  That’s right, the one right in front of you. There’s so much going on here. Can we keep our focus on this loving presence? Distracting is addictive behavior. It tempts you, it induces you, entices you, it coaxes you, it woos you, and convinces you to look away from the truth. Why not put your attention and energy on opening your hearts. Be the change you want to see in the world. No need to feed the fire, it’s been burning since the worlds been turning.

Peace out!


Keep the Pause

May 28, 2020

I have never felt so connected to the earth than I have at this time. I have always been a tree hugger hippie that loves to walk barefoot in the grass. I have always had a deep connection with nature and can spend hours in quiet solitude just being in the midst of her beauty. I knew that the environment was crying out for help sending SOS signals for a very long time.

 

Something had to give. Our world has been in a state of crisis for a long time. Everything was out of balance. Now finally, there is a pause. Now we are awakening to what we knew had to stop. We can not go on the way we have and think that everything is going back to normal. We, as a collective whole have to change or we shall perish. This earth is both fragile and resilient, as people, but there comes a point of no return.

We must learn to reconnect with nature, to find a balance that is symbiotic and interdependent. A way that will benefit our needs and give back to the endless supply of her bounty that wants to provide and give. We can not continue to take and take without giving back. We reap what we sow, and if we aren’t sowing healthy seeds we will leave the soil barren and destitute. The seeds of thought, the seeds of crops, the seeds of love are all connected. It all starts with healthy and right minded thinking. To nurture and care for our bodies, our minds, our thoughts, our emotions, our words, our actions, our spirit, each other, our communities and our world.

This is a pause. A time to reflect, to slow down and feel. To find compassion for all living beings. To observe nature and rediscover the magnificence of life.  Look deep into the eyes of another and you will see the reflection of yourself. Look deeper and you will see the universe in yourself. Look even deeper and you will see the connection and see the oneness. Now is the time like no other. It is time to reconnect and find balance to heal the earth and ourselves.

 


We Are All Connected

April 9, 2020

We are all connected, to each other, biologically. To the earth, chemically. To the rest of the universe anatomically… Not only are we in the universe, the universe is in us.

 

 

This realization is becoming more evident then ever before. Every day I wake up asking for guidance. I ask how may I be of service to humanity? The more time I have to reflect on this understanding the more liberated I feel.  We are social, emotional, energetic and spiritual beings. Knowing that we are connected is the most reassuring part of being human. We all want to be loved….

The more you know yourself the more you will know others. The more you know others the more compassion you will have. During these times of uncertainty ask yourself, what am I afraid of? What are the thoughts and feelings that are coming up for me at this time? I know a few friends who within the last week have transcended. There is sadness and empathy that I am experiencing. It’s a difficult time for so many.

 

How do we rise above and seek comfort during these times? By realizing that we are all connected. That there is a cosmic web that binds everything and everyone together. There is no separation. Every thought we think, to every act we take, is all affecting the whole. The more you can lift your vibration, the higher the frequency you will project  The higher the frequency you project the more connected you will feel.

The more connected you feel, the more love will radiate to and through you. The more love you exude, the more light will prevail. The more light that is emanating on the earth, the less darkness and fear can effect you.

 Breath this in! We are all in this together. 

Blessings & love,

Monica

 


Navigating Uncertainty With Faith and Courage

April 1, 2020

 

 

We are living in extraordinary times. The world we all thought we knew has been rearranged, turned upside down, right side out and shaken to the core. Although some would like things to just return to normal, we have to realize that there is no normal ever again. Things are forever changed.

Things weren’t working for a very long time and until this virus came along, we were busy distracting ourselves with things that took our attention away from what really mattered. Now we must come face to face with our fears, insecurities, habits, behaviors and lifestyles. There’s nowhere to hide and no where to go to avoid the feelings that will come up for you.

Trying to hold on to what was will only bring more suffering and pain. Embracing change and creating new systems that supports, encourages and empowers cooperation and compassion will emerge as we navigate through these times.

Now is the time to take extra good care of your health. To eat natural foods from the earth rather than processed foods. It is the time to pay attention to your thoughts and keep focused on what’s good. To be grateful for that we do have. Gratitude connects us to feelings that uplifting and supports our immune system. fear will weaken it.

Trust that you have the power to know that happiness is a choice, no matter what is going on. Trust that you will be calm and positive in spite of what the media is broadcasting to the public. Turn off the news and go within. This is the time to meditate, take a walk-in nature, journal, dance, paint, study or do what ever lifts your spirits. Discover you purpose and ignite it with passion.

These are the days of miracles and wonder. We’re all in this together. We are all connected.

God Bless,

Monica

 

 


The Answers Are Under Our Feet!

March 4, 2020

“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”

Buckminster Fuller

There is a crisis on earth today. We are living in what is called the 6th major mass extinction. It is estimated that between 0.01 and 0.1% of all species will become extinct each year. That means between 200 and 2,000 extinctions occur every year. That is an alarming rate! If we keep going the way we’re going, our quality of life will become unsustainable. Our entire system will collapse. People are becoming more despondent and feeling hopeless. Because of this, people feel disconnected and broken. So how can we begin to make a change and reconstruct a new foundation build on the values of cooperation, consciousness and compassion?

Maybe the answers are right under our noses or feet and we just must begin to look and notice! I have always loved and respected nature, so when I heard of the movie; Fantastic Fungi-How Mushrooms Can Heal, Shift Consciousness and Save the Planet, I went to see it.  I was completely transformed. You see mycelium is the vegetative part of the fungus or the mass branching threads that connect and communicate with all of nature. Fungi’s incredible ability to heal environments that have suffered from catastrophic change might be explained by the epigenetic qualities of their network-like design. It is a network, our brain is a network, and our computer information-sharing systems are networks. Networks are valuable because of their resilience to change, their ability to adapt to change, and their ability to experience change.

Somehow our networks have become separated. Our families, our communities, our cultures, our world have felt the tuck of competition rather than communion. Can we reconnect the synapses that have become separated between nature and consciousness? Can we learn from the mycelium that knows how to share, be generous, support, and communicate with each other that is right under our feet?  Learning how to communicate with one another in a compassionate way will reestablish our connection with nature by creating a network of intelligent solutions. The whole is greater than its parts. To heal ourselves and the earth, we must begin to realize who we are and where we came from. We are all one. Healthy conversations build strong networks, strong networks connect and support one another. All life began and will end with fungi. The quality of our lives will be determined by how well we are able to communicate with each other. Let’s build a new model designed after one that has been around from the beginning of time. Love, the ultimate connector. It is the mycelium network that holds everything together.

 


Happy Holidays

December 18, 2019

 

 

Happy Holidays

What the world needs now is more kindness, compassion and peace.

Wishing everyone a most joyous, peaceful and loving Holiday.

 

Prayer of St Francis

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood, as to understand;
to be loved, as to love;
for it is in giving that we receive,
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
and it is in dying that we are born to Eternal Life.

Amen.


What You Appreciate, Appreciates

November 20, 2019

There are so many things that can throw you off balance and make you feel bad, angry, resentful, bitter, disappointed or sad. For many years I would focus on what was wrong in my life rather than appreciate what was right. I was living in a vortex of negativity which gave me more stuff that wasn’t working in my life. Are you living in this vortex? Until I finally woke up and realized that my life was a train wreck!

When I began to switch it around and began focusing on what I appreciated, my life start to appreciate in so many wonderful ways. It truly is amazing how this practice can change your outlook on life! Now, every morning I write down what I am grateful for and share my appreciation to whoever I met. The energy of love, appreciation, gratitude, kindness and compassion has completely transformed my life. I am calm,peaceful and patient most of the time.

Even when things don’t go the way you thought they should, you can feel appreciation. When you live with gratitude in your heart and treat others with respect and love, something magical happens. Your energy changes and attracts more good things. If you practice this for 30 days, you will see a major shift in your life. Then practice it for the rest of your life! I know how my life turned around and I know yours will too.


But I Meant Well.

October 24, 2019

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

English proverb

How many times have you heard someone say, but I meant well. As a parent, you always want the best for your children and family right? If you own a business, you always want to make the best decisions for your employees, right? In government, the elected officials always want to do their best for the people, right? In corporations, they want to do and be their best for their stake holders and provide quality products and or service, right?

 

I could go on and on listing ways that we all start out with good intentions, however if you do not fully understand what the impact will be, your intentions will backfire and turn into something that is corrupt, hurtful, harmful, and even dangerous. Your intentions must be grounded in spiritual law and sound wisdom. Every intention must be a conscious choose for the greater good of all. The world is in a state of turmoil and upheaval because of intentions based on greed, and the believe that you and I are separate. Families try to protect themselves or make choices based on

 

ignorance. This can be very harmful, even though your intentions weren’t meant to be. Our intentions must be based in love. They must be for the greater good. Things are in chaos due to the lack of understanding, consciousness, compassion and believing that nature is outside of us.

True good intentions, are paved with a holistic approach. It is the golden rule. What we do to one, we do to all. Your intentions are powerful. Your impact is even more powerful. Find kindness, strength, love, compassion, beauty, and virtues of grace in your heart to open yourself to goodness.

 

Good intentions come from the heart, not from the head.

Being of service and keeping yourself humble will be sure fire way to guard against good intentions turning toward hell. Keep the journey onward and upward.

 

 


Give A Hand Give A Life

June 5, 2019

“Alone we can do so little, but together we can do so much.”

                                                                     Helen Keller

Last August, I got a call from my ex-husband. We communicate once in awhile, usually over something having to do with our grown kids. We have been divorced for over 25 years. It was a friendly parting. In other words we split on good terms. Well, he called me because he needed some help. He was going through some tough financial times and asked if I had any work that he could do in exchange for living quarters for a few months.

Being a master carpenter that he is, I did need a new front porch deck since the old one was rotting. So, I agreed. Now it is June and the deck is finally finished. He did an amazing job.

Why I am posting this is because, we all go through some tough times and need a little help from our friends at times. I’m not suggesting that you invite someone into your home who is abusive or harmful, but we can offer a helping hand to those in need. It goes a long way. I was able to find him some work through a mutual friend and now he is able to get back on his feet.

Don’t get me wrong. It wasn’t easy for me to share my space with him all the time. Sometimes it was damn hard! But I opened my heart to someone in need and I’m so happy I did. If you want more compassion in the world today, you must be the change you want to see. It isn’t always convenient but it is a practice. Where can you open your heart to help someone? We can do so much with a little help from our friends.


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