A Force for Good

August 5, 2020

Together, you can redeem the soul of our nation.

Though I am gone, I urge you to answer the highest calling of your heart and stand up for what you truly believe.

These were some of the last words said by John Lewis, the civil rights leader who died on July 17, 2020.

Powerful words, indeed. His life was dedicated to fighting injustice and promoting compassion, peace, forgiveness, understanding and love.

John Lewis did not just udder powerful words, he lived them, and he backed them up with action. This is a man that came from humble beginnings in a culture of prejudice and ignorance. He could have become an anger man that was part of the problem rather than the solution, but he stood on the shoulders of other great men and women like Rosa Parks, Martin Luther King, E.D Nixon and others that inspired him to stand up, speak up and be a force for good. He believed in non-violence and never give up on anyone. He was taught to love everyone, that hate was too heavy a burden to bear. He brought attention to those things that were unjust and risked his life for his cause and purpose.

 

This required great disciple. You see, it is easy to hate, to be angry, to be resentful and bitter when your family and generations before did not have the freedoms we take for granted. As he stated, “I urge you to answer the calling of your heart and stand up for what you truly believe.” He did not say the callings of his mind, he said the callings of his heart.

Disciple is teaching people to use their hearts and not their hot heads. There is a tremendous dedication to teach people how to reframe, refocus and redirect their emotions for good.

John Lewis stood for the rights of all people. He was a force for good!

More than ever today we need more people like him. People of substance to stand up, speak up and be of service to humanity, non-violently. Our world is in pain from beliefs of the past that no longer serve us. We must go forward by coming together. To find a common ground that will unite us, not divide us. Find a way out of no way. Look for possibilities. Engage in conversations to agree to disagree, so we can learn from one another. Communication is key and we can do this relatively quickly. Be a force for good. Thank you, John Lewis. You made the world a better place. You inspire me to do better and be better.

The longest journey is from the head to the heart! It is well worth the journey!

Please take the time to listen to the video and read his last words.

Thank you,

Monica

 

 

John Lewis: Together, You Can Redeem the Soul of Our Nation
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/30/opinion/john-lewis-civil-rights-america.html?referringSource=articleShare

The Answers Are Under Our Feet!

March 4, 2020

“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”

Buckminster Fuller

There is a crisis on earth today. We are living in what is called the 6th major mass extinction. It is estimated that between 0.01 and 0.1% of all species will become extinct each year. That means between 200 and 2,000 extinctions occur every year. That is an alarming rate! If we keep going the way we’re going, our quality of life will become unsustainable. Our entire system will collapse. People are becoming more despondent and feeling hopeless. Because of this, people feel disconnected and broken. So how can we begin to make a change and reconstruct a new foundation build on the values of cooperation, consciousness and compassion?

Maybe the answers are right under our noses or feet and we just must begin to look and notice! I have always loved and respected nature, so when I heard of the movie; Fantastic Fungi-How Mushrooms Can Heal, Shift Consciousness and Save the Planet, I went to see it.  I was completely transformed. You see mycelium is the vegetative part of the fungus or the mass branching threads that connect and communicate with all of nature. Fungi’s incredible ability to heal environments that have suffered from catastrophic change might be explained by the epigenetic qualities of their network-like design. It is a network, our brain is a network, and our computer information-sharing systems are networks. Networks are valuable because of their resilience to change, their ability to adapt to change, and their ability to experience change.

Somehow our networks have become separated. Our families, our communities, our cultures, our world have felt the tuck of competition rather than communion. Can we reconnect the synapses that have become separated between nature and consciousness? Can we learn from the mycelium that knows how to share, be generous, support, and communicate with each other that is right under our feet?  Learning how to communicate with one another in a compassionate way will reestablish our connection with nature by creating a network of intelligent solutions. The whole is greater than its parts. To heal ourselves and the earth, we must begin to realize who we are and where we came from. We are all one. Healthy conversations build strong networks, strong networks connect and support one another. All life began and will end with fungi. The quality of our lives will be determined by how well we are able to communicate with each other. Let’s build a new model designed after one that has been around from the beginning of time. Love, the ultimate connector. It is the mycelium network that holds everything together.

 


Words Create Worlds

September 5, 2019

 

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”

Albert Einstein

If there is one constant in life it is change. This is good news because if you aren’t happy with any part of your life, you can change it. In order to change your personal reality, you must change your personality. In order to change your personality, you must change the conversation you are having with yourself. We live in a river of change and everything is connected. Our six hundred trillion cells are self-regulating themselves every second of every day.  You are not the same person you were yesterday. When your cells are in harmonious communication with each other you experience homeostasis. When they’re not you experience some sort of emotional and or physical pain. This all stems from resistance to change.

It takes courage to change. To transform our words, thinking, habits and  patterns takes a conscious awareness. But if we don’t, we become rigid, and if we become too rigid, we will collapse. Staying open to change is staying open to possibilities. When we can communicate with ourselves and each other in a healthy way, we can create the life we truly want. Our words have incredible energy behind them. They resonate in our bodies and send out a ripple vibration into the world. Words create worlds. Use them wisely.

 


I’d Like to Get to Know You

February 27, 2019

“To get to the next level of greatness depends on the quality of the culture, which depends on the quality of relationships, which depends on the quality of conversations. Everything happens through conversations.”

 Judith E. Glaser

Why is it that negative conversations and comments stay with us so much longer than a positive one? If we are in a fight or argument with our co-worker, boss, spouse, friend, or relative, we tend to hold on to those emotions much longer than when we are getting along and cooperating.

Well it has to do with how we are wired. Our brains release hormones and neuro-peptides such as adrenaline and cortisol when we are stressed, angry or feeling bad. These chemicals last for 26 hours or more in our blood stream.

When we are happy and feeling good, we release the chemical oxytocin. This is the love hormone, or what is called the tend and befriend hormone.

Unfortunately, oxytocin does not stay in our bodies very long, so it must be replenished often. The good news is that when we become aware of this, we can change the way we communicate with others to down regulate the stress hormones and up regulate the feel-good ones.

One of the best ways to do this is by looking into the eyes of the person you are talking to.

Being mindful of how our behaviors affect others is key to building trust and transforming a conversation from negative and stress producing one to a positive and cooperative one.

The bottom line is this, a defining question for your company is: What is the quality of the emotional relationships here?

By learning a few tools, strategies, and techniques you can change the dynamics of the environment where everyone feels good. And when everyone feels the love, productivity goes way up too.

Understanding the Neuroscience of Conversations and applying this wisdom inside companies transforms individuals, teams, and organizations and opens new pathways for mutual success.

Are you ready to transform your company?

 


Stinken Thinken

November 1, 2018

You are only as sick as your secrets. I want to be a part of a conversation that breaks down shame. Life happens. It’s about what you do with it. That’s were the grace lies.

Sean Corn  Yogi & Humanitarian

I was brought up in a time where you kept things within the family. You know, those family secrets. My parents were first generation American, they were both Holocaust survivors.  When they came here after the war, they worked really hard to make a living and raise a family. I can’t even image all the things they went through and witnessed. They had many secrets. They didn’t want to talk about all the horrible things they experienced and I can understand why. However, by them keeping secrets about their life, caused me to continue this cycle which resulted in a lot of shame and guilt that kept me emotionally captive. This is where addiction can hide its ugly self. Until I became aware that the secrets were not protecting me but keeping me a prisoner in my own life did I decide to liberate myself from them.

If you are caught up with the mind-set of what will the neighbors think, or if your afraid to shine, be different, stand out, be real, be authentic, be original, be vulnerable, Just be YOU!  There is goodness in you. You are worthy! You matter! You are amazing! You are loving and you are loved!

Share your beautiful self with others. Remember if you didn’t have a shadow, there would be no light.


You’re A Brainiac!

July 19, 2018

We are living in very uncertain times. Things are speeding up so rapidly that if we do not have the knowledge, tools, strategies and techniques to keep up with the pace of these changes we will be left behind groveling in a sea of mediocrity which will never get us to where we truly desire to be. So, the question is, how do we acquire the knowledge and mindset to take us further than we ever thought possible?

This is where coaching comes in. We must begin to do some introspective work to see who you really are. What are your habits, behaviors, beliefs and image about yourself? What is the conversation you are having with yourself? What are the conversation you are having with other people?

It takes .10th of a second for people to determine if they like you and want to engage in doing business with you and .07 seconds to sense they don’t trust you. That’s how fast and important it is for you to really be authentic and know yourself. If you are uncertain in anyway within yourself, people will pick up on this feeling before you even utter hello.

Not only must our intentions be clear, we must be aware of the impact we are having on others. If we only focus on our intention, we can often have a negative impact on others, triggering their fight, flight, freeze or appease impulse which is controlled by the Amygdala in the brain or the lower brain. We immediately will turn people off.

Being aware of your intentions and the impact you want to convey will communicate positive reactions in others, which will lead them to trust and like you. This triggers the Prefontal Cortex, known as the executive or decision making part of the brain.

We actually have seven brains.

1-The Primitive Brain or (reptilian brain- sensors threats)

2-Heart Brain- Our heart is much more than just a pump. (We either sync or not with others)

3-Limbic Brain (Stores memory and history of emotions)

4- Neocortex (Hardwired for language, storing information, basic thinking, reasoning and cognitive skills)

5- Prefrontal Cortex (The youngest part of the brain & often called the executive brain)

6- Gut-Brain – We truly are what we eat. (The gut brain is revolutionizing medicine’s understanding of the links between, mood, health and even the way we think. Scientists call this little brain the ecteric nervous system.)

7-Interstidium- A layer of skin under the epidermis. It communicates and gathers information.

Until we understand how we can link or body, mind and spirit into alignment, we will never truly be successful and live our best life. This knowledge is vital to your success, happiness, and health in these ever -changing times.

Coaching will revolutionize the way you see yourself and propel you to new heights in all areas of your life.

 


Your Possibilities, Drift or Design?

February 22, 2018

If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.    Jim Rohn

I was having a conversation with a dear friend of mine the other day and we were discussing what matters most to us. We were asking each other questions that were really creating us to open ourselves up to look at what were the things that we really care about. What does it mean to live an excellent life? What is a good life? What do you value?What do you still want to accomplish? …

We are never to young or old to design our lives. If we don’t design our lives we will drift, and most likely your going to wind up shipwrecked. So why not take the time to ask yourself some questions. Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.

It’s about disrupting yourself and looking for ways to improve and master a skill, talent or gift. If you are having difficulty knowing what you want to design, then hire a coach. They can uncover parts of yourself that you can’t see.

Rising above will help you get a better and broader view of the bigger picture, and there you can begin to design from a whole new perspective. So design or drift? It is your choose. Which will you chose?


I’m Right And You’re Wrong

July 20, 2017

How many times have you been a conversation were someone was insisting on being right? It seemed like they weren’t even listening to what you had to say. They were just addicted to wanting to be RIGHT! They just wanted to prove their point, position or claim. Every time that we get in this mind-set we actually release dopamine into our body and get a good high from it. We want to prove a point, get the right answers and look smart.

Now being smart is great, however if there is no emotional intelligence behind the smarts we are really not growing, learning and communicating well. We actually remain stuck, and actually are damaging our relationships in business and in our personal life. If you are a boss or in a leadership position, this is vital for the health of your company.

It is wanting to be in a position of power and control rather than cooperation. When we learn how to listen and just be open to another point of view, it will allow so much trust and open dialog. We shift to create the freedom to explore possibilities and look for solutions to problems rather than slam the door shut on any other view point.

So the next time you feel the urge to be RIGHT, rather than react, take a moment to respond in a different way.

Here are three suggestions to keep an open mind and respond rather than that knee jerk reaction:

1-Ask- How do you feel?

2- Ask- What do you think?

3-Ask-How can we work together to find an answer?

Would your rather be RIGHT or do the RIGHT thing?

Here is a short video explaining how our ego gets in the way of our success.

If you would like to find a healthier way to communicate let’s talk! Call me.

Monica

 


Your Program is Not Working For You!

July 5, 2016

“Programming creates belief, beliefs create attitudes; attitudes create feelings; feelings determine actions; actions create results.” Erasing and rewriting your own program with specific commands is thus the most permanent, logical, and precise way to change your life. I know there are many modalities that can change the programming that we have been downloaded with through our childhood, however I have found the most effective and lasting is self talk. This is more than just positive affirmations. Self talk is a technique that will literally reprogram your mind, Hearing yourself talk out loud, internally or play back from a recording you make with your own voice is a simple yet powerful method that will increase your self-esteem to new heights!

The answers we seek are all inside of ourselves and when we tap into the conversations we are having with ourselves we begin to open the door way to understand the dialog that is going on between our ears. We all talk to ourselves whether we think we do or don’t. The difference is, if you are communicating in the language that is most effective for your subconscious mind to understand.

Isn’t it time to for You to cancel and clear the old programs with New empowering ones? I have a tried and true system that shows you how!

Call me today and find out how you can achieve goal after goal!

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God, Can You Hear Me?

May 24, 2016

creationI am in complete awe when I observe pictures from the Hubble telescope.  The images are so fantastic that I can’t help wonder about the energy that it took to create such magnificence.This substance is alive and conscious. This is the same substance  that creates the things in our personal lives as well. We live in a cosmic matrix were we can manifest anything. When we begin to tap into the mind of this energy we become in harmony with the quantum realm of creation to become the alchemists in our lives. We do this by thinking according to the principles of divine intelligence. It is practice and focus to keep your mind on the things that you desire in spite of what the appearance may look like on the outside. If you want to understand how to communicate with this infinite intelligence you must learn to speak the same language as this source energy. We do this through our thoughts. When you align your thoughts with the great and powerful God, you will be able to dwell into the Master Mind. Form images in your mind of what you desire and hold those thoughts with belief, conviction, and passion. Then, listen to your intuition and follow the course of action that directs you to your creation. God is working to and through you. Never forget this truth!

Do you desire to tap into the creative process and form beautiful images in your mind?

Call Monica today! Don’t wait, create!!