I’d Like to Get to Know You

February 27, 2019

“To get to the next level of greatness depends on the quality of the culture, which depends on the quality of relationships, which depends on the quality of conversations. Everything happens through conversations.”

 Judith E. Glaser

Why is it that negative conversations and comments stay with us so much longer than a positive one? If we are in a fight or argument with our co-worker, boss, spouse, friend, or relative, we tend to hold on to those emotions much longer than when we are getting along and cooperating.

Well it has to do with how we are wired. Our brains release hormones and neuro-peptides such as adrenaline and cortisol when we are stressed, angry or feeling bad. These chemicals last for 26 hours or more in our blood stream.

When we are happy and feeling good, we release the chemical oxytocin. This is the love hormone, or what is called the tend and befriend hormone.

Unfortunately, oxytocin does not stay in our bodies very long, so it must be replenished often. The good news is that when we become aware of this, we can change the way we communicate with others to down regulate the stress hormones and up regulate the feel-good ones.

One of the best ways to do this is by looking into the eyes of the person you are talking to.

Being mindful of how our behaviors affect others is key to building trust and transforming a conversation from negative and stress producing one to a positive and cooperative one.

The bottom line is this, a defining question for your company is: What is the quality of the emotional relationships here?

By learning a few tools, strategies, and techniques you can change the dynamics of the environment where everyone feels good. And when everyone feels the love, productivity goes way up too.

Understanding the Neuroscience of Conversations and applying this wisdom inside companies transforms individuals, teams, and organizations and opens new pathways for mutual success.

Are you ready to transform your company?

 

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Shed It and Forget It

January 23, 2019

 

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

My most peaceful time of the day are early mornings. I like to get up before dawn. There is a silent magic in the air and I feel closer to source energy when things are quiet and still. I meditate, journal, pray and stretch my body to release any stiffness from sleep. Once the day gets going, boy it is full throttle. Clients, appointments, calls, setting up programs, talks, meetings, shows and on and on…..

I have learned over the years that the more I cling to the things I want to happen, in my time, I am in for a rude awakening. It only causes me to feel horrible. So my mantra for the New Year is Shed It and Forget It. Surrender, let go, release, shake it off and give it up. The more I do this the lighter I feel. The pressure is off. I take full responsibility to do what I set out to do with love, and my highest intention and leave the rest up to Source.

If you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, confused, angry, guilty, shameful, jealous, resentful, stressed, anxiety, depressed, hurt or any negative emotion, you can begin to let go. There is support for you to do this. Please reach out. Choose to be happy, joyful, abundant, playful, compassionate, hopeful, creative, grateful and all the good emotions that will expand your life in a positive way. One day we will have to let go of it all. We can’t take it with us, so why not shed it now?


What Are You Feeling?

November 29, 2018

 

 

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. …

We have the ability to connect with anybody, anywhere at any time, however we seem to be losing the ability to communicate.  People are feeling more isolated then ever before. Loneliness is a feeling of despair, powerlessness, abandonment, shame, depression and many other emotions that keep you locked into believing your not enough.

 

To compensate these feelings of loneliness, you might entertain yourself by getting hooked and absorbed into your cell phone.   Everyone seems to be doing it. We can keep our heads down and get sucked into the vacuum of a screen that projects what ever fantasy, illusion or fictitious image that draws us into its void.

Don’t get me wrong, it is a fabulous way to connect if we use it wisely. Communication is about coming together, to commune. To look into someone eyes and connect on a visceral level. To talk and share your words and feelings so you can share experiences, information, discoveries and explore, create, expand, learn and grow. We can not do this alone. We do this by communication. We must begin to bridge the gap and come together rather than pull away.

If you are ready to begin living your best life for 2019, please sign up and awaken to YOUR GREATEST possibilities!

 

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Use It or Loss It!

June 29, 2017

Success is the result of behavior, which is determined by attitudes, which are formed by conditioning, which takes place through spaced repetition.

Actually, it all starts with the thoughts we think, which will lead to the same choices. The same choices always create the same behaviors, and the same behaviors will always create the same experiences and the same experiences will always create the same emotions and those emotions will drive the same thoughts. Whew! So how do we change?

Through spaced repetition. 

Repetitive learning is the only vehicle to modify conditioning, which alters the attitude that controls behavior, which produces results we want.

Years ago when I wanted to change my negative thinking and behaviors, I would listen to audio tapes in my car when I was driving, watch motivational videos, read inspirational books, keep a gratitude journal, say affirmations, go to seminars, associate with positive people to change and most importantly, hire a coach! You know what? I still do the same things years later.

You must continue to change every day because if you don’t use it, you lose it.

Need help in changing Your behaviors? Let’s talk.


Oh No! Not Again!

November 2, 2016

negative-thoughtsOne negative thought can send your mind on a downward spiral which will create all kinds of consequences to happen. They might be little at first but if you allow those negative thoughts to continue they build into something much larger and harder to get rid of. They like to latch on like a virus and attach and attack your thoughts so that it takes a tremendous amount of strength to combat those beasts.

Any time a negative thought creeps into my mind, I say cancel/clear and replace it with a positive thought. If it is a fearful thought that is gripping your emotions, allow it surface and invite it in to your mind. Ask yourself what is it about this fear that is keeping you locked into a negative vibration.

There are so many people that are dealing with some real life crisis. Illnesses, financial woes, loss of loved ones or anything that can bring negativity to the surface, can disrupt your peace of mind.

There are times that we are challenged to stay positive. Through pray, meditation and constructive thinking, we can overcome any obstacle. We may feel sad, hurt and pain at times, however we will prevail if we remember that this to shall pass.

There is a spiritual answer if we seek the highest good. Stay connected to the good!

If your going through a life crisis, challenge or just feeling negative, I can help! Call me, let’s talk!

 

 

 


Life is Like A HeartBeat

February 10, 2016

life is like a heart beatLife is like a heartbeat. We have our ups and downs, our good times and not so good times, our highs and our lows. It is also like the tide, with high tides and low tides. Or it can be likened to the moon with all its fazes as well. There is a rhythm to its beat, and an ebb and flow. When we are balanced and calm we can flow through all the changes of life with ease, but when we allow our emotions to get the better of us, the rhythm becomes more extreme and erratic. These disturbances lead our bodies to get out of sync with the natural rhythm of life itself.   When this occurs, all other systems in your body get effected.

We need the contrast of life to know the difference between each other. We wouldn’t know the light if there was no darkness. What we need to understand is the balance between the two and stay in the dance of the opposites. This is the heartbeat of life.  If we didn’t have this heartbeat we would flat lined ________________________________.

So enjoy all of life’s ups and downs, it is all a part of the rhythm.

 

 

 


Shift Your Energy

February 3, 2016

shift your energyAll is consciousness and bliss and that is all there is. Do you believe this statement? And if not, why not? The intensity of energy is power. This energy is the one substance of the universe. It is coursing through your being, it is all around you, at all times. It is only a shifting of your energy. When we connect with this energy it provides us with all the power we need to live a conscious and blissful life. Unfortunately, most people don’t believe this and recharge through battery power, (limited supply) and then run out of juice, only having to replace their batteries. We look for the next high through food, substances, people or any other temporary fix to give us the illusion of feeling this bliss. However if you learn how to connect to the infinite supply of energy, you never have to worry about running low because it is always available. Tapping into the infinite, unlimited power is not a new way of life, it is only awakening to the essence of your authentic self. It is shifting your energy to a higher vibration. When your able to play with this energy, through understanding your emotions, (energy in motion) you begin to access the enormous power that is surging through your veins. Do you want to learn how to do this? Make the call!


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