High Anxiety

November 14, 2019

The Holidays are quickly approaching and that means people become more stressed than any other time of year. People put so much pressure on themselves to get everything done. Being around family can trigger certain behaviors that you would rather avoid.  It seems like everyone is so stressed out these days. Anxiety is the # 1 condition that children are now plagued with. The research is showing that here on Long Island NY, where I live that Xanax is the highest prescribed medication than anywhere else in the country! Why are people so stressed? And a bigger question is why are children becoming so stressed out?

There are three types of stress that people experience.

  • Physical Stress: Injuries to the body, such as broken bones, torn ligaments, wounds or any other trauma that can inflict the body.
  • Chemical Stress: Food poisoning, hang overs, chemical sensitivities, electro-magnetic interference from Wi fi, environmental toxins, viruses and other such reactions.
  • Emotional Stress: Single parenting, working two jobs, divorce, type A personality, work overload, traffic jams, deadlines, unexpected bills, caring for elderly parents and the list can go on and on….

All of these will affect the mind and body in a negative way.

When you are having a difficult time quieting your mind, your body will give you signs that your out of balance. IBS (Irritable bowl syndrome), headaches, rashes, aches and pains and a myriad of other symptoms can appear as well as disturbed sleep, depression and so on. 95% of all illnesses are stress related.

Taking Xanax and other such medication has become a crutch and an addiction. Anxiety can be treated in natural ways by developing a healthy lifestyle.

Here are Seven tools that can help ease the stress and anxiety.

1-Breath: Take a few deep guttural breaths in and out when you feel like your head is spinning and your thoughts are racing. It will calm the neuro-pathways in your brain and relax your body.

2-Movement: Take a walk, dance, yoga, qigong, swim or anything to change the energy in your body. Your body always keeps score. Emotions are energy in motion, so change the energy and change the emotion.

3-Diet: Unfortunately, our food change has become corrupted. The more live natural and organic foods you can eat, the better. Eliminate sugar, processed foods, wheat, meat and dairy as much as possible. It has a direct correlation to anxiety in stress. A healthy microbiome is #1 defense against illness and disease.

4-Meditate: Quieting the mind chatter and focusing on a mantra is a wonderful practice to stay in the present moment and eliminate distraction.

5-Nature: Connect with the outdoors. Take a walk in a wooded area or by the ocean. You are a part of nature and so many people have disconnected themselves from the natural world. Touch the soil with your feet and feel the energy from Mother Earth. It is healing.

6-Purpose: Discover what you love to do and do it every day. What are your gifts, abilities and talents? By focusing on your purpose, you will find that your mind will be absorbed in something greater than your worries.

7-Laugh: Laughter is good medicine. You can heal so many ills through laughter. It is good for the mind/body and soul.

Also reach out and talk to a professional, such as a coach, therapist, or specialist that can help and support you. Having someone who is compassionate and understanding to talk to is vital to heal the wounds, trauma and anxiety that you have bottled up inside yourself.

Let’s change the course of direction for our children and ourselves by utilizing these natural ways to alleviate stress and anxiety rather than numb and medicate.

Let’s become a more compassionate, grateful, loving, caring, understanding, creative and imaginative world. It all starts with YOU!


Shed It and Forget It

January 23, 2019

 

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

My most peaceful time of the day are early mornings. I like to get up before dawn. There is a silent magic in the air and I feel closer to source energy when things are quiet and still. I meditate, journal, pray and stretch my body to release any stiffness from sleep. Once the day gets going, boy it is full throttle. Clients, appointments, calls, setting up programs, talks, meetings, shows and on and on…..

I have learned over the years that the more I cling to the things I want to happen, in my time, I am in for a rude awakening. It only causes me to feel horrible. So my mantra for the New Year is Shed It and Forget It. Surrender, let go, release, shake it off and give it up. The more I do this the lighter I feel. The pressure is off. I take full responsibility to do what I set out to do with love, and my highest intention and leave the rest up to Source.

If you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, confused, angry, guilty, shameful, jealous, resentful, stressed, anxiety, depressed, hurt or any negative emotion, you can begin to let go. There is support for you to do this. Please reach out. Choose to be happy, joyful, abundant, playful, compassionate, hopeful, creative, grateful and all the good emotions that will expand your life in a positive way. One day we will have to let go of it all. We can’t take it with us, so why not shed it now?


Cry Baby Cry

October 25, 2018

 

When you hold back your tears, you only amplify the emotions your body is trying to release through crying.

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I just recently came back home from visiting my daughter out in Seattle Washington. What a beautiful part of the country! We went camping in her tiny RV home Big Foot.

We explored Olympic National Park and the coastal region. It was pure bliss to be engulfed by nature. After we settled back to our vacation home overlooking Mount Rainier. The view was absolutely spectacular.

Every morning I woke up to the howling of wolves that were at a wildlife preserve near by and this majestic mountain. I witnessed an eagle soar down to catch a fish and an otter who graced us with her presence now and again. It was truly magical. I had tears of joy being present to all natures bounty.

However, I also had tears of sorrow, hurt and emotional pain over an encounter my daughter and I had. Some old feelings and wounds were brought up that really felt awful. We both felt the separation and disconnect from our different interpretation of an event.  My eyes filled with tears over this.  Crying is a healthy release of emotions. It releases stress and actually makes you feel better afterwards.  My baby girl is so strong, independent and and a beautiful free spirit. After expressing my hurt to her and letting her know what I was feeling, both our hearts expanded. The love poured open and tears of joy now gushed out.

You see, when you are open and honest with your feelings and able to communicate how you feel in a healthy way, you will uplift the pain and emotional bondage that keeps you blocked from the love you have to give and the love that is there for you to receive.

So if you feel like crying, let it out!

 


Do You Feel Alive?

July 20, 2016

I love life! I am so grateful to be having the experience of being alive! Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my fair share of heart-ache, sadness, tragedy and failures, however, I know that if I continue to work through all those challenges, that I will triumph and get stronger, wiser and more appreciative of this very precious gift called life!!

To really feel alive you have to embrace the essence of life and give it all you’ve got! I see so many people afraid to live. Their afraid of being alive, and so they are slowly dying.  Their afraid of failing, afraid of trying, afraid of giving themselves over to the pure rapture of living.

I don’t think that people are afraid of death as they are of living.

Why not allow yourself the freedom to let lose and give life your best shot! After all if you want the best, you have to give your best!!!

The best way to really feel alive is to look around you, and become aware of everything. There is consciousness in everything. Everything is alive whether it appears to be inanimate or not. Then focus on your amazing body! Wow, how precious it truly is!!! You have been giving this amazing gift of life! So go ahead and fully feel alive!!!

Need help in understanding how to live full out and feel alive?

Call Monica today and begin to live with passion and purpose!!! feeling Alive


Are You Living in a Prison?

February 23, 2016

solitary confindmentYesterday as I was driving to an empowerment dance class I teach,  I listened to an interview with Albert Woodfox. He just was released from living in solitary confinement for over 40 YEARS. Yes, I wrote that correctly over 40 YEARS! The question that was asked of him that resonated with me was; how did you maintain your sanity all that time? Now the question I have for you is what prison are you living in? If you are able to move about freely, drive, walk, fly, take a bus, train  or any other means of travel without restrains and thinking your trapped in a cell, your right. You are in the prison cell of  your mind. I can not imagine how someone could spend over four decades in solitary confinement without going totally crazy, but Albert Woodfox’s spirit was not broken. He is a testament to all of us to stay grateful for the freedom that we already have even if we feel trapped in our own minds.  The cruelty and torture he endured was inhuman. The cruelty and torture we inflict on ourselves are the doings of thoughts that do not serve our spirit. Set yourself free. As Albert walked out a free man after all these years, you too can set yourself free.  Albert Woodfox is a heroic man who was unjustly sentenced to endure his life in solitary confinement but showed us all that our spirit is free even in the isolated chambers of a prison. God bless…

Albert Foxwood


What’s On Your Mind

February 3, 2015

Well it’s February 3rd, and the temperatures are in the single digits outside. Ice and snow are covering just about everything here on Long Island. It’s difficult to walk and to do any outside activity except shovel, and it doesn’t look like it’s going to warm up anytime soon. Most of all activities that took place yesterday evening were cancelled due to the weather. Brrrrrrr!!!!

Indoors, it’s warm and cozy. I have heated floors, a beautiful new kitchen, and all the comforts of a modern home. However, I have three little dogs, three cats, and a bird. Yes, I love animals. What I don’t love, is cleaning up after them! Since its been so frigid outside, the cats don’ t want to go out and the dogs can’t walk because it hurts their paws. So I have wee wee pads all over and litter boxes that need to be cleaned a few times a day. They are also having accidents in different places. I am a neat freak, and this is freaking me out! I get completely unhinged when I think about it. Then, I remembered Victor Frankls’ book, Mans Search for Meaning. What a powerful story he shares with humanity. The main message in the book is “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms, to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Wow, that put things for me, in perspective real fast. Yes, I’m not over joyed about cleaning up after my animals, but, I can choose to see it in a different way. I can choose to appreciate my pets, be grateful for my home, be thankful that I am able to care for them, and  focus on what is good rather than whats not. So, what’s on your mind? What are you focusing on? If it’s not to your liking, change your thoughts. It’s freedom that noone can ever take away from you!victor Frankl


Love for Life

November 25, 2014

The more I live, the more I love life. I am so happy and grateful to experience all the mysteries, joys, wonders, abundance and turbulance life offers. I love to dance. I love nature. I love science. I love music. I love to give and recieve. I love animals, art, books,and the list goes on and on and on. I am thankful that my heart is full of joy! Deep down inside of me I wish everyone can feel this love for life. Life is precious and fragile. Lets help each other to remember this and awaken to love. It will open your heart and your life will be full of love!


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