October 9, 2019
“If you don’t know where your going, you’ll wind up some where else.”
What is it that you really want? When I was a teenager, I didn’t have a purpose or direction in life. I didn’t have a focus that kept my attention. My father got sick when I was about 14 years old and passed over when I turned 17. He lived with cancer for a few years which was a very difficult time for my family. I completely rebelled and lost sight of anything and everything that I could have wanted for myself. I had no aspirations or goals. I was just drifting.
I was in survival mode. As time passed and our family healed from our loss, I was able to begin looking at my future with new eyes. I started focusing on what I wanted in life and applied my gifts and talents to horticulture. I opened a plant business which I truly loved. My attention on learning everything I could about plants grew and grew (and so did my plants). As I evolved so did my passion to learn about nature, health, herbs and about people. This took me to the field I am in today, coaching. I love it!
You see, when you’re not sure where you want to go, any road will take you there. When you have clarity, you can navigate a path that will bring so much joy, satisfaction and happiness into your life. Having a purpose and sticking with it, is the answer to so many of your life’s questions. So, ask yourself, what do you really want? What are you willing to devote your life too? There is something inside of you that no one else can do just like you! If you want to go down the rabbit hole, make sure it is with a purpose, otherwise any road will take you to no where.
November 22, 2018
During the Holidays, it might be challenging for many to feel happy or peaceful when you get together with family members due to past or present hurts and emotional pain. Emotions may come up that cause you shut down, get angry, or feel betrayed. Old wounds surface if someone says or does something that triggers you. It isn’t easy dealing with the people closest to us at times. They are the ones that can press your buttons and know what buttons to press to get a reaction out of you.
Your feelings are your best guidance system. They are there to let you know exactly what you need to heal inside of you. When they surface, pay attention to them. Don’t dismiss them by drowning them with to much alcohol, numbing yourself with drugs or stuffing yourself with to much food. Instead, read an inspirational passage in a book, watch an uplifting movie, volunteer for a few hours to those less fortunate, take a walk or whatever brings joy into your heart. If you need to dismiss yourself from the gathering to protect yourself, that too is OK.
Thanksgiving is about giving thanks, being grateful and appreciating what you do have and feeling good will connect you with those emotions.
May your Thanksgiving be filled with peace, love and joy!
February 15, 2018
I am taking a course right now on Emotional Intelligence. I have taken this course before however I want to see how I can improve in the areas that still trigger my emotions. I still have plenty of room to grow! My emotional triggers are usually small things like my cell phone not working properly or my computer acting up. Then again I have some family members that can press certain buttons that try to stir things up.
What I find is missing when I work only with my EQ is my SQ or my spiritual intelligence. Without considering how this effects my EQ is leaving out a huge part of the equation. We are body, mind and soul. Therefore IQ (intelligence) EQ (emotional) and SQ (spiritual). When I coach people, I have discovered that most of their struggles are between the emotional and spiritual realms.
When I help people become aware of this missing link we open up the possibilities for healing their emotions, as well as tapping into intelligence’s that they never even were conscious of before. They increase their energy levels, productivity, health and happiness.
Here are 3 easy things to do to become aware and integrate your EQ and SQ.
1- When you are noticing your feelings, ask for guidance. Just see if you can quite your mind and listen.
2- Get comfortable in silence. Allow yourself the pleasure of just being. Feel the energy of the life force course through your body and mind without any judgement.
3- When something or someone presses your buttons, before you react, put your hand over your heart and breath.
These practices and more take time. Need some guidance? Let’s have a conversation. Call me for a FREE consultation.
September 7, 2017
Let There Be Light! Everything that thrives is fed by light. If you lift up a rock, and there was a seed under it, you will see that it sprouted but it is a colorless and a stunted seedling searching for the light. Within a few hours of warmth and filtered light, you will see that it straightened itself and color began coursing through its veins.
We too need to have the weight of a burden lifted from our shoulders in order to thrive. We need to be in an environment that is encouraging and supportive to restore health and happiness.
With all that is going on the world today, you can be a beacon of light? How can you be of service?
February 1, 2017
“You have to count on living every single day in a way you believe will make you feel good about your life…”
How many times to we compromise our happiness for someone else? We give our energy away to make other people happy or do things that zaps our precious life. Then at the end of the day we are feeling exhausted, angry or depressed.
That was my modus operandi for many years until I became aware that I was responsible for my own happiness and joy. I was actually teaching people how to treat me. I was a people pleaser.
We all have so much energy, and if you are giving it away to easily, like money you will be broke. You will become down and out and wonder why your feeling so awful.
True happiness and joy come from honoring your values and what makes you feel good. Be good to yourself. If you give yourself away to easily not only do you feel bad but your no good for anyone else either!
Take a few minutes every day and connect with yourself. Breathe! Do something everyday that makes you feel good! Take a walk, listen to something inspirational or what ever that thing is that lifts you up and feels good.
Think of how much more valuable you will be when your bank account is full of happiness !
Need help to reclaim your energy and happiness bank account? Call Monica today 516-297-0672
April 8, 2014
All the great thinkers, theologians, scientists and philosophers, have disagreed on many subjects. However, there is one thought that they all agreed on. That is, that we become what we think about. Here is how Brian Tracy articulates it:
Aristotle said that we live in a universe governed by law and order. He said that everything that happens, happens for a specific reason, whether or not we know what that reason is.
The law of cause and effect says that, for every effect in your life, there is a specific cause. Nothing happens by accident. Success has specific causes. Happiness has specific causes. Prosperity and wealth have specific causes. Everything you do, or fail to do, has an effect or a result, positive or negative, somewhere in your life. Your job is to find out the cause-effect relationships and apply them to your own advantage.
The most important application of the law of cause and effect is this. “Thoughts are causes, and conditions are effects.”
In the Old Testament it says, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
In the New Testament it says, “According to your faith, it is done unto you.”
If you want to change or improve any of the conditions in your life, you must change or improve your thinking. And when you change your thinking, you change your life and everything that happens to you. And there is no other way!