Fill In the Blanks

May 14, 2019

Texting has become a great way of communicating. However if there is a gap between the exchange it can also leave you feeling insecure. When this happens, you might fill in the blanks with made up stories. We have gotten so used to instant responses in everything we do. If it takes a second too long we are scrolling, deleting or on to something else.

We can google anything and get the answer immediately. So, when it comes to texting as a way of communicating there might be some blanks that keep you guessing. What does this actually mean? What is she trying to say? Or, if you don’t get an answer back right away, your brain might start to make up a story that their mad at you, and the last text she send sounded cold or any number of things that your emotional brain can stir up.

Relationships are all about having open and honest communication. If your filling in the gaps, than it is best to talk in person to clarify the misunderstanding. Texting is a great way to feel connected but it can also be a double edge sword.

Communication is the key to any great relationship. Make sure your words are texting that!

 

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Another Fine Mess

March 6, 2019

Don’t be ashamed of your story it will inspire others.

I can’t even count how many messes I got myself into through the course of my life. Actually I wrote a book about them all. How May I Serve. I have a pen name Karen Mathews. You can go to http://www.howmayiserve.net or http://www.monicabennett.net to find out about all the messy details. And girl is it juicy!!!!

Boy, I was a hot mess. But you know what I did? I turned my mess into a message! That’s rights, I turned it around, upside down, inside out, side ways and twisted it so much, that’s you won’t recognize me from who I am now. How about you? Are their some messes you want to clean up? Before you do, be honest with yourself, become aware of them and forgive yourself. Then find the support you need to turn your mess into a message. You just might inspire someone else to find the strength and confidence to know their not a f*ck up. When you know better you do better. At the time I knew nothing!!! I knew jack sh*t!  I was an insecure, lost, frightened young girl. But I needed to smell the coffee or (I like to smell roses more) really quickly because I was cruising for a bruising.

So if you’re reading this and you’ve gotten yourself in some messes, this might be the sign you were looking for to get out of shame, blame and all those emotions that keep you in the dark. It’s okay. The more you bring light to your wounds the more you can heal.

Ask for help! Reach out! You’re not alone.


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