Practice the Pause

June 17, 2020

How hard is it to keep cool under pressure? For me it has been a practice. I would be okay with strangers and not react, but with people close to me, well that was much harder. That knee jerk reaction would just get the better of me. I would say things I later would regret. It also started to become a pattern. Every time my older daughter would do or say something that I thought wasn’t right, I would open my big mouth and put my two cents in. This would go on and on until I finally became aware of what about the dynamics of our relationship I was playing a part of.  I admit, I do not like the way she chooses to live her life but she is an adult and I must learn to pause. It ain’t easy!

Practicing this has made all the difference in myself and my relationship with her. Not that she has changed her habits or life style, but I have created a space for being present without judgement or resentment. She really is my greatest teacher. Teaching me patience, acceptance, non-judgement, love, compassion, peace and happiness. Who is your greatest teacher? Do you have  someone close to you that presses all those painful buttons in you? Once I looked deeper into our relationship I saw unhealed parts in me that she was reflecting back. Love can be messy. It can be painful. It can be raw and vulnerable. Practicing the pause, allows for healing to take place. It allows you to surrender to the moment and just sit in whatever is bubbling up in you without reacting. However uncomfortable it may feel in the moment, stay with the pause and it will eventually begin to dissolve into peace, and that peace will radiate out into others.

Listen deeply. breath deeply, and love deeply. It is here where you will release all those old patterns of hurt and suffering. The world is hurting right now. People are hurting. I have learned to pause, to be mindful of what I am doing and how I am being that either contributes to the suffering or contributes to happiness and peace. What are you contributing to?  Here’s a cute little video to bring some joy into your day!


The Winds of Change

June 3, 2020

We are certainly living in extraordinary times. You can even call them epoch times. There is a drama being played out in humanity that is changing so quickly that many people are getting caught in the strong currant of hate, fear, violence, anger, frustration and other negative emotions. Watching, listening and engaging in what the media is broadcasting can sweep you in that direction pretty easily. I choose not to do this. Oh yes, I can’t help getting the coverage of what’s going on and have watched the video of the horrible and disturbing act that killed George Floyd. I was deeply saddened by this act.

Just when the world was showing signs of hope and glimmers of healing from the pandemic an even more powerful and sinister virus has gripped us. The one of hate and prejudice. This virus can destroy not only your body but your soul. It will eat you up and destroy everything in its path. I can understand the pain and suffering that this unjust act has surfaced. I can understand the rage it has brought up. We all have darkness inside us. We all have a shadow. We just don’t like to become acquainted with our most deep and dark inner most fears. We will do anything to push them away.  But there is no more running, there is no more hiding and there is no more distracting ourselves. We must become intimate with our fears, insecurities and vulnerabilities.

It is here that you will find your light. It is going through the dark night of the soul you will emerge the hero of your own story. When you’re able to transmute your anger into compassion, you will know that you’re out of the woods. When this happens you will discover there is another story unfolding that you might miss if you get distracted from the winds of change. This story is much more fascinating, glorious and beautiful. It’s the story of now!  That’s right, the one right in front of you. There’s so much going on here. Can we keep our focus on this loving presence? Distracting is addictive behavior. It tempts you, it induces you, entices you, it coaxes you, it woos you, and convinces you to look away from the truth. Why not put your attention and energy on opening your hearts. Be the change you want to see in the world. No need to feed the fire, it’s been burning since the worlds been turning.

Peace out!


As the World Turns

April 16, 2020

 

As I ponder, wonder, contemplate and imagine what the future holds for humanity, my thoughts drift into a simpler way of life. A day and time when people weren’t so rushed. This pandemic has put a screeching halt to our routines, and shaken many to realize that life is so fragile. How could something invisible rattle us into a state of panic and fear and have this much control over the way we live and die?   If what we focus on expands, what are you focused on?  Life as we know it was spinning out of control. It had to crash. Many deep down inside really wanted to get off the worry-go-round but were caught up in the momentum. If we can see what’s good about this, we can begin to shape and mold our future into something wonderful.

What if this virus is giving us a chance to reset, readjust, reevaluate, rejuvenate and re establish a new way to live? People were just going through the motions, faster and faster! Rushing is fear. Taking the rush hour train to work and back, then going to happy hour, just to do the same thing day after day.  Happy hour was really numbing hour from the mundane routine of being trapped in the cog of the way society has brain washed us into believing how we need to behave. Consumerism and commercialism had us squeezed so tight, that it felt like we were in a straight jacket. Well, here is your chance to get free! To release yourself from the prison.

What will you do to imagine a new world? What do you want it to look like? How do you want it to feel? Together we can create a future that is bright, healthy, prosperous, compassionate and full of wonderful possibilities. Dream, play and envision this and collectively we can create it.

Let’s co-create, are you ready?

 


We Are All Connected

April 9, 2020

We are all connected, to each other, biologically. To the earth, chemically. To the rest of the universe anatomically… Not only are we in the universe, the universe is in us.

 

 

This realization is becoming more evident then ever before. Every day I wake up asking for guidance. I ask how may I be of service to humanity? The more time I have to reflect on this understanding the more liberated I feel.  We are social, emotional, energetic and spiritual beings. Knowing that we are connected is the most reassuring part of being human. We all want to be loved….

The more you know yourself the more you will know others. The more you know others the more compassion you will have. During these times of uncertainty ask yourself, what am I afraid of? What are the thoughts and feelings that are coming up for me at this time? I know a few friends who within the last week have transcended. There is sadness and empathy that I am experiencing. It’s a difficult time for so many.

 

How do we rise above and seek comfort during these times? By realizing that we are all connected. That there is a cosmic web that binds everything and everyone together. There is no separation. Every thought we think, to every act we take, is all affecting the whole. The more you can lift your vibration, the higher the frequency you will project  The higher the frequency you project the more connected you will feel.

The more connected you feel, the more love will radiate to and through you. The more love you exude, the more light will prevail. The more light that is emanating on the earth, the less darkness and fear can effect you.

 Breath this in! We are all in this together. 

Blessings & love,

Monica

 


Navigating Uncertainty With Faith and Courage

April 1, 2020

 

 

We are living in extraordinary times. The world we all thought we knew has been rearranged, turned upside down, right side out and shaken to the core. Although some would like things to just return to normal, we have to realize that there is no normal ever again. Things are forever changed.

Things weren’t working for a very long time and until this virus came along, we were busy distracting ourselves with things that took our attention away from what really mattered. Now we must come face to face with our fears, insecurities, habits, behaviors and lifestyles. There’s nowhere to hide and no where to go to avoid the feelings that will come up for you.

Trying to hold on to what was will only bring more suffering and pain. Embracing change and creating new systems that supports, encourages and empowers cooperation and compassion will emerge as we navigate through these times.

Now is the time to take extra good care of your health. To eat natural foods from the earth rather than processed foods. It is the time to pay attention to your thoughts and keep focused on what’s good. To be grateful for that we do have. Gratitude connects us to feelings that uplifting and supports our immune system. fear will weaken it.

Trust that you have the power to know that happiness is a choice, no matter what is going on. Trust that you will be calm and positive in spite of what the media is broadcasting to the public. Turn off the news and go within. This is the time to meditate, take a walk-in nature, journal, dance, paint, study or do what ever lifts your spirits. Discover you purpose and ignite it with passion.

These are the days of miracles and wonder. We’re all in this together. We are all connected.

God Bless,

Monica

 

 


The Answers Are Under Our Feet!

March 4, 2020

“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”

Buckminster Fuller

There is a crisis on earth today. We are living in what is called the 6th major mass extinction. It is estimated that between 0.01 and 0.1% of all species will become extinct each year. That means between 200 and 2,000 extinctions occur every year. That is an alarming rate! If we keep going the way we’re going, our quality of life will become unsustainable. Our entire system will collapse. People are becoming more despondent and feeling hopeless. Because of this, people feel disconnected and broken. So how can we begin to make a change and reconstruct a new foundation build on the values of cooperation, consciousness and compassion?

Maybe the answers are right under our noses or feet and we just must begin to look and notice! I have always loved and respected nature, so when I heard of the movie; Fantastic Fungi-How Mushrooms Can Heal, Shift Consciousness and Save the Planet, I went to see it.  I was completely transformed. You see mycelium is the vegetative part of the fungus or the mass branching threads that connect and communicate with all of nature. Fungi’s incredible ability to heal environments that have suffered from catastrophic change might be explained by the epigenetic qualities of their network-like design. It is a network, our brain is a network, and our computer information-sharing systems are networks. Networks are valuable because of their resilience to change, their ability to adapt to change, and their ability to experience change.

Somehow our networks have become separated. Our families, our communities, our cultures, our world have felt the tuck of competition rather than communion. Can we reconnect the synapses that have become separated between nature and consciousness? Can we learn from the mycelium that knows how to share, be generous, support, and communicate with each other that is right under our feet?  Learning how to communicate with one another in a compassionate way will reestablish our connection with nature by creating a network of intelligent solutions. The whole is greater than its parts. To heal ourselves and the earth, we must begin to realize who we are and where we came from. We are all one. Healthy conversations build strong networks, strong networks connect and support one another. All life began and will end with fungi. The quality of our lives will be determined by how well we are able to communicate with each other. Let’s build a new model designed after one that has been around from the beginning of time. Love, the ultimate connector. It is the mycelium network that holds everything together.

 


Mind Blowing Adventures!

February 26, 2020

“A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.”

Oliver Wendell Homes Jr.

Iv’e been travelling a lot in the past few months. Back in October, I went to Munich Germany for my moms 90th Birthday party. It was so much fun. She was born there but lives in New York now.  I’ve been to Germany countless times, however, each and every time I go is a new experience.

Then in November I was visiting my daughter in Palm Springs, California.

Wow, we hiked Joshua Tree National Park and Andreas Canyon. It was  incredible. I love to travel and have been since I was practically born. Lately I had an opportunity to take a few trips back to back and boy did I take advantage of it.  In January I went to Johannesburg South Africa to visit a friend and then off to Cape Town. It was a long flight, but well worth it. Such beautiful vistas, beaches and nature. Getting to emerge into the culture is absolutely fabulous. Having conversations with people and  finding out about who they are and their family stories and history is transforming.

Then a few weeks later, Cuba! I just couldn’t get enough! The culture, history, people, architecture, music, beaches, people, cigars and so much more. This was one of the most unique trips I ever took.  Truly a place that is etched in my heart and soul forever.

Traveling allows you to broaden your view and perspective of life. It opens up opportunities, creates ideas and new friendships. This world is so beautiful. I am blessed and grateful to be able to expand my mind, commune with others so that I can share the experience with you. If you get the opportunity to travel, take it. We are all time travelers on this blue Earth, so venture out and see what might be awaiting you.

 


Fake News

February 19, 2020

What’s the news of the day, good neighbor I pray. They say the balloon has gone up to the moon.

Nursery Rhyme

Fake news, it’s every where these days. You can tweet false information and it will spread like wild fire! Fad diets, the newest health craze, and so much propaganda to sell you something. Power, money and greed have become the mega-god.  Someone is trying to sell or convince you of something every day.  We have the ability to create images, manipulate pictures, distort documents, statements and so much more.

So how will you know if something is real or fake? You don’t unless you look deeper into the source from where it is coming from. You can no longer believe everything you see, read or hear at face value. You have to double click and research on your own, otherwise you will be a part of the problem in spreading this fake news. Think before you click and share. Let’s face it, we are all over loaded with too much information. The truth has to be highly guarded and valued since scams and corruption is all too prevalent. It seems like everything in the media has a spin on it. If you listen to one news station they tell you their view point. Then you listen to another and they have a completely different take on the same subject. Social media is a whole new way of spreading fake news.  Your head can spin around and do a few 360’s before you realize it’s all fake. Truth and trust is more important than ever these days. Do your do diligence and resource the source of where the information you are receiving is coming from. Double click and go deeper into the subject matter before this fake news becomes dangerously real. It not only hurts people, but relationships, cultures, society and humanity. Stay curious!


What Would You Do?

January 15, 2020

Speak up, because the day you don’t speak up for the things that matter to you is the day your freedom truly ends.

What would you do if you witnessed something that you knew was unethical, immoral, corrupt or unjust? It’s a big question. What would you do if you worked for a company that you knew was participating in shady affairs or was discriminating someone? Would you stay for the security of a pay check or would you speak up and risk being fired? My grandmother told me a story of when she was a young woman living in Munich during the war. She was catholic but against the Third Reich. The typical greeting was to extend and raise up your arm and say heil hitler. She didn’t do that, but spit on the ground instead. By the sheer grace of G-d she wasn’t killed. My great grandmother hid many people in her home who would have been taken off to a concentration camp too.

I often ask myself this question. I don’t thing I could live with myself if I didn’t speak up against injustice. If you keep silent  and turn away from speaking up about something you know isn’t moral, then we all suffer the consequences in the long run. It’s not a popular thing to do. It takes tremendous self confidence and conviction to speak up against a system that has been getting away with corruption.

Whether it’s something big, like going against a company like Monsanto that produces the carcinogenic product roundup or someone being harassed who doesn’t have the means to defend themselves in your place of employment, speaking up is the ethical thing to do.  If you want your children to live in a harmonious, honest and free culture, use your voice to speak up. It’s that important.


Are You a Good Student?

January 8, 2020

Discipline is being able to force yourself to do something in spite of how you feel over and over and over until it becomes a habit.

The word discipline comes from the Latin word discipulus meaning “student”. Or you can say to be a learner. In other words having self discipline in being a good student who wants to learn. It is a high level of awareness to give yourself a command and follow through with it. If you want to be a great musician, you have to practice playing your instrument every day for hours. If you want to be a great athlete you have to train your mind and body every day, in spite of how tired or achy you feel. This goes for anything you desire to master.

This year my word that I am giving my attention to is FOCUS. I will discipline myself to focus on the things I desire to manifest into my life in a relaxed state of mind. I say relaxed because if I try to force myself to do this in a tense way, I am just sabotaging my efforts. What is it that you really want to create in your life for 2020? With discipline, you can make it happen. Hire a coach, get an accountability partner and practice, practice practice!

Be a good learner, be disciplined!


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