Practice the Pause

June 17, 2020

How hard is it to keep cool under pressure? For me it has been a practice. I would be okay with strangers and not react, but with people close to me, well that was much harder. That knee jerk reaction would just get the better of me. I would say things I later would regret. It also started to become a pattern. Every time my older daughter would do or say something that I thought wasn’t right, I would open my big mouth and put my two cents in. This would go on and on until I finally became aware of what about the dynamics of our relationship I was playing a part of.  I admit, I do not like the way she chooses to live her life but she is an adult and I must learn to pause. It ain’t easy!

Practicing this has made all the difference in myself and my relationship with her. Not that she has changed her habits or life style, but I have created a space for being present without judgement or resentment. She really is my greatest teacher. Teaching me patience, acceptance, non-judgement, love, compassion, peace and happiness. Who is your greatest teacher? Do you have  someone close to you that presses all those painful buttons in you? Once I looked deeper into our relationship I saw unhealed parts in me that she was reflecting back. Love can be messy. It can be painful. It can be raw and vulnerable. Practicing the pause, allows for healing to take place. It allows you to surrender to the moment and just sit in whatever is bubbling up in you without reacting. However uncomfortable it may feel in the moment, stay with the pause and it will eventually begin to dissolve into peace, and that peace will radiate out into others.

Listen deeply. breath deeply, and love deeply. It is here where you will release all those old patterns of hurt and suffering. The world is hurting right now. People are hurting. I have learned to pause, to be mindful of what I am doing and how I am being that either contributes to the suffering or contributes to happiness and peace. What are you contributing to?  Here’s a cute little video to bring some joy into your day!


Between Worlds

April 29, 2020

  “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the  last of the human freedoms- to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

Viktor Frankl

I feel like I am living between worlds.  I still have one foot in the old world, a world that is quickly vanishing and my other foot in a brave new world. When will I allow myself to totally embrace the new and let go of the old? Maybe it is being courageous enough to just walk right into it. Maybe all I have to do is leave behind all the baggage of  limiting thoughts, beliefs, habits, behaviors and fears that have created all the upheaval in the world. Could it be that easy? Does it take a crisis to recognize this truth?

 

So many questions. There are many people who are hurting more than ever. The massive changes in the world has caused havoc in peoples  lives. Alcoholism, child abuse, domestic violence are at an all time high. In Naturopathic terms, this is called a healing crisis. Everything is coming to the surface to be healed. All our fears, worries, insecurities, and darkness that we want to hide is all being revealed. The corruption, deceit, and cover-ups are bubbling up to the surface. Everything is being exposed.

Staying calm in the midst of the upheaval takes faith in knowing that everything is for the greater good. The divine operation is always for expansion and greater expression. This means something beyond what has gone before. Something entirely new. However, this understanding comes from deep contemplation and practice. Practicing being mindful and to observe my emotions, is where the answers to these questions reveal themselves. To listen and feel my feelings without judgement. To be compassionate with myself and love myself deeply. When I do this, I am ready to step into the brave new world. I then am ready to let go of the old world of limitation and put both feet fully committed into the unknown. A world that is full of miracles and wonder. If you are feeling like you’re between worlds. Let’s take that leap of faith together. Are you ready?