June 26, 2019
Intimacy is a word that people think of when it comes to sex and getting physically close with someone. However, intimacy has more to do with connecting on a level where you are able to trust, share, be open to exposing your feelings on a very deep level. It is about being vulnerable and feeling secure enough to communicate your truth. You even become intimate with yourself! To love yourself enough that your thoughts and feelings are okay, what ever they are.
If you weren’t able to express your feelings as a child, most likely you learned to hide them, avoid them, suppress them, dumb them and find other ways to not let people see your true self. You don’t even want to see your true self. If you’ve been hurt physically or mentally it changes who you think you are. You develop an armor shield to protect yourself.
But you will always have that insecurity and shame around you. It will follow you and keep you a prisoner in your own body. You might think you’re protected but you’re exposed. Who you really are speaks louder than your words. This is were help is so important. We can’t see our blind spots. You can get naked in bed but until you take off your armor you’re not connecting . Getting intimate is one of the most liberating feelings. So, isn’t it time you come out to play and in to me see?
October 12, 2017
Ego, we all have one. Our egos are the attachment to our self-image. When we are aware of our ego, we will have a healthy balance of self-esteem and self worth. If we believe we are superior to others we will act in ways that will express this identity through gaining power and authority over others. If we believe we are inferior or unworthy we will have an ego that shows us that this is true too.
Either way, these are false images. Being aware of our ego and not attaching to the self-image of who we think we are is how we can go beyond self limiting beliefs about ourselves.
I know that when I was a teenager, I never felt confident in myself. I felt I wasn’t good enough. It was a trying time for me. My father got sick when I was 15 years old and then passed away 2 years later. During these years it was very difficult for me to see past my ego that identified with not being loved and feelings of unworthiness.
It was a heavy burden to carry. After seeking help and counseling, I became aware that this wasn’t the truth. I was able to see beyond my ego and transform these limiting beliefs that keep me a prisoner of my own thinking.
When you feel your ego trying to edge in and get the better of you, stop and talk to yourself. Take a deep breath and become aware of what is going on. Maybe you need to speak up or maybe you need to meditate on something to gain clarity. Turn off the noise outside of you and inside of you. Listen to the quite voice within. The ego is loud and boastful, your authentic spirit is gentle, loving and kind.
Need more help? Reach out and listen to your inner voice that is always guiding you.