August 9, 2018
If we open a quarrel between past and present, we shall find that we have lost our future.
The one person that is standing in your way of living your best life is YOU!
I can remember my self-sabotaging behaviors when I was younger. Boy if I only knew then what I know now. I was getting in my own way of success but didn’t see it. It’s not easy to see your blind spots. Until I started working with a coach I was continually shooting myself in the foot and blaming someone or something else for my setbacks.
Taking responsibility for my thoughts, feelings and actions requires disciple. To take an honest look at what I’ve been doing or not doing also takes courage.
What I’ve learned was to stop over analyzing. I must get in the zone and just be and do. I had to visualize myself as the person I wanted to be and then act the part. The minute the monkey mind started coming in my head, I was cooked.
The results are sneaky but can start to show up causing dis-ease, bad relationships, lack of money, loss of a job or any other place.
It takes continued focus and practice to learn how to stop the monkey mind from taking over. That is why a coach is essential in helping you.
So, if you’re having a quarrel between your past and present, you too have lost your future. And without a future you’re not going anywhere.
March 22, 2018
It is not only for what we do that we are held responsible, but also for what we do not do. Moliere
This is such a powerful quote that made me think of all the things I am responsible for. I love my work and feel a deep sense of responsibility to be a great coach. I invest a lot of time, money and energy to improve myself every day. However I feel that being responsible is also about speaking my truth, standing in my truth and stepping into my power.
In the past, I was a people pleaser so I would compromise myself for the sake of others.
That wasn’t being responsible to myself. The first person I must be accountable to is me. To stand in my own power and truly be my best, I must understand my values take responsibility for them. This is being and giving your best. I coach many people who are learning this as well. Learning to say NO and speaking their truth and living their best life is the responsible way.
How about you? Are you ready to stand in your power? If you need help let’s talk.
Here is my Tedx talk to watch too.
November 2, 2017
And my God shall supply every need of yours according to His riches in glory…
There were times in my life where I couldn’t believe in myself. I thought I was the one controlling my life. I would try and force things to happen in a certain way and when they didn’t go my way, I felt like a victim to the circumstance. It was only when I finally allowed myself to let go of controlling the outcome and trust in a higher power that everything I needed would be supplied.
Once you tap into this greater source of infinite supply and appreciate what you already have available to you now, will life’s gifts open and reveal themselves to you.
Releasing fear, negative thinking, limiting beliefs, and scarcity minded thoughts is the key to connecting with source energy. Have faith that your needs will be met and you are living in an abundant universe. Take responsibility for your self-care and show up to let the universe know you are trusting in the process. Things may appear like they’re not going as you would like them to, however with faith and hope as the muscle behind the scene, you release the greater good to collaborate with your strong intentions.
If these limiting beliefs, fear and negative thinking are still keeping you stuck, let’s talk. There are tools, techniques and strategies to shift that ity, bity, shity committee in your head!
September 14, 2017
We all know the story of the Empires new clothes, right? Were he paraded down his village with no clothes on and no one wanted to confront him and tell him that he was stark naked. It took the innocence of a young boy to yell this out, that broke the trance. How do you handle confrontation? For most people this can be very difficult. If there is a problem that needs to be addressed, avoiding it will only make the matter worse. So what is the best way to handle it? Having a clear sense of how to do this will create a win-win situation or a win-loss outcome. Confrontation is not about I’m right and you’re wrong. It is about being direct, clear, honest and sincere. When you align your tone of voice, words and intention to communication what you feel in a healthy way, the message gets received in a non-aggressive manner.
It is important to confront the behavior or an action that is unfavorable. If not, nothing changes and it will get worse. Healthy confrontation takes emotional stability and responsibility. In order for our world to change in a positive direction we need people to speak up and confront the issues that are allowing so much destructive behavior to go on.
So the next time you want to lash out or ignore the situation, find the courage within yourself to be the one who confronts the problem in a healthy way so it can get resolved.
Need help in learning a healthy dialog to communicate, let’s talk!
Here are 10 Guidelines for Positive Confrontation!
February 1, 2017
“You have to count on living every single day in a way you believe will make you feel good about your life…”
How many times to we compromise our happiness for someone else? We give our energy away to make other people happy or do things that zaps our precious life. Then at the end of the day we are feeling exhausted, angry or depressed.
That was my modus operandi for many years until I became aware that I was responsible for my own happiness and joy. I was actually teaching people how to treat me. I was a people pleaser.
We all have so much energy, and if you are giving it away to easily, like money you will be broke. You will become down and out and wonder why your feeling so awful.
True happiness and joy come from honoring your values and what makes you feel good. Be good to yourself. If you give yourself away to easily not only do you feel bad but your no good for anyone else either!
Take a few minutes every day and connect with yourself. Breathe! Do something everyday that makes you feel good! Take a walk, listen to something inspirational or what ever that thing is that lifts you up and feels good.
Think of how much more valuable you will be when your bank account is full of happiness !
Need help to reclaim your energy and happiness bank account? Call Monica today 516-297-0672
June 21, 2016
You can measure a man’s character by the choices he makes under pressure. Winston Churchill
When everything is going smoothly in my life it is beautiful thing! I love when my day feels like a warm soft breeze on a summer day. However when the weather changes, some days can feel like a hurricane with 90 miles per hour winds. It can seem like I have a million important things to do in one day. The pressure can feel overbearing!! When I am able to stay calm under pressure, I know I have really become the captain of my ship. But I still have moments when the seas get really rough that I forget how to navigate back to my serenity. However the time lapse is less and less. How about you? How do you react under pressure? Your true character is revealed under pressure. It can either make you or break you! Through experience, tools and techniques, I now know how to take responsibility for my actions rather than react hastily under turbulence conditions. So, although the conditions might change my temperament will remain the same.
It is time to take back your Power and become the master of your life!
Do you want to know how? Call me today and learn how to navigate your life through the storms!!!
June 7, 2016
What is the difference between highly successful people who really accomplish so much in life and others that don’t? It is accountability! People who take action on the things they desire take daily, progressive action. I know in my own life that there are times when I just don’t feel like doing something however when I am accountable and know that that action will result in positive results, it is much more likely to get done. Accountability is the missing link between desire and mastery. It takes discipline to commit to something you say you are going.
If you have a coach to inspire and motivate you to take that action, you will accomplish your goals. It is that simple! The difference between a successful day and a day of failure is accountability. You must take responsibility and be persistent on doing the things you say you want to have, be or do.
So, start today, don’t delay!
Call Monica, to find out how!