September 14, 2017
We all know the story of the Empires new clothes, right? Were he paraded down his village with no clothes on and no one wanted to confront him and tell him that he was stark naked. It took the innocence of a young boy to yell this out, that broke the trance. How do you handle confrontation? For most people this can be very difficult. If there is a problem that needs to be addressed, avoiding it will only make the matter worse. So what is the best way to handle it? Having a clear sense of how to do this will create a win-win situation or a win-loss outcome. Confrontation is not about I’m right and you’re wrong. It is about being direct, clear, honest and sincere. When you align your tone of voice, words and intention to communication what you feel in a healthy way, the message gets received in a non-aggressive manner.
It is important to confront the behavior or an action that is unfavorable. If not, nothing changes and it will get worse. Healthy confrontation takes emotional stability and responsibility. In order for our world to change in a positive direction we need people to speak up and confront the issues that are allowing so much destructive behavior to go on.
So the next time you want to lash out or ignore the situation, find the courage within yourself to be the one who confronts the problem in a healthy way so it can get resolved.
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February 1, 2017
“You have to count on living every single day in a way you believe will make you feel good about your life…”
How many times to we compromise our happiness for someone else? We give our energy away to make other people happy or do things that zaps our precious life. Then at the end of the day we are feeling exhausted, angry or depressed.
That was my modus operandi for many years until I became aware that I was responsible for my own happiness and joy. I was actually teaching people how to treat me. I was a people pleaser.
We all have so much energy, and if you are giving it away to easily, like money you will be broke. You will become down and out and wonder why your feeling so awful.
True happiness and joy come from honoring your values and what makes you feel good. Be good to yourself. If you give yourself away to easily not only do you feel bad but your no good for anyone else either!
Take a few minutes every day and connect with yourself. Breathe! Do something everyday that makes you feel good! Take a walk, listen to something inspirational or what ever that thing is that lifts you up and feels good.
Think of how much more valuable you will be when your bank account is full of happiness !
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June 21, 2016
You can measure a man’s character by the choices he makes under pressure. Winston Churchill
When everything is going smoothly in my life it is beautiful thing! I love when my day feels like a warm soft breeze on a summer day. However when the weather changes, some days can feel like a hurricane with 90 miles per hour winds. It can seem like I have a million important things to do in one day. The pressure can feel overbearing!! When I am able to stay calm under pressure, I know I have really become the captain of my ship. But I still have moments when the seas get really rough that I forget how to navigate back to my serenity. However the time lapse is less and less. How about you? How do you react under pressure? Your true character is revealed under pressure. It can either make you or break you! Through experience, tools and techniques, I now know how to take responsibility for my actions rather than react hastily under turbulence conditions. So, although the conditions might change my temperament will remain the same.
It is time to take back your Power and become the master of your life!
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June 7, 2016
What is the difference between highly successful people who really accomplish so much in life and others that don’t? It is accountability! People who take action on the things they desire take daily, progressive action. I know in my own life that there are times when I just don’t feel like doing something however when I am accountable and know that that action will result in positive results, it is much more likely to get done. Accountability is the missing link between desire and mastery. It takes discipline to commit to something you say you are going.
If you have a coach to inspire and motivate you to take that action, you will accomplish your goals. It is that simple! The difference between a successful day and a day of failure is accountability. You must take responsibility and be persistent on doing the things you say you want to have, be or do.
So, start today, don’t delay!
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