Let’s Get Real

June 19, 2019

Honesty doesn’t always pay but dishonesty always costs

What is it about not being honest with ourselves or with others that people think they can hid and get away with? I tried to lie as a kid when I thought I would get punished, but I always got caught. Some how I never was able to get away with lying.

 

 

But what I’m talking about is not being real with ourselves. Being brutally honest with what works or what’s not working in our lives and making a change. I can remember staying in a relationship longer than I wanted to because I did’t want to hurt the other person. I compromised by values and rationalized (which I refer to as rational lies) to myself. Gosh, it was such an awful feeling that effected my health. I had headaches all the time!

Honest is the best policy. At the end of the day, being truthful and getting something off your chest to reveal what is in your heart and mind is so liberating. As a coach, I see this pattern so often. You get stressed and feel anxiety because you don’t want to change, even if you’re unhappy. You would rather numb the pain, hide the pain, shove it under the rug, stuff it, avoid it, lie about it, minimize it, blame others or anything to not having to deal with it. There is always a price to pay.

Let’s face it, it can be uncomfortable to reveal what you’ve been trying to hide. We are as sick as our secrets. So let the truth set you free, and get real like Pinocchio.

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Do You Want to Know a Secret?

May 10, 2018

“Nature yields her most profound secrets to the person who is determined to uncover them.”         Napoleon Hill

I love older classic movies from the 1940-1950’s. I find the acting and stories so compelling. There were no special effects to entertain you, so the dialog had to be intriguing, intelligent and emotionally gripping. There was’t even any color to enhance the scenes so using shadows and playing with angles left much to your imagination.

One movie I watch last week was Bird Man of Alcatraz, a true story based on the life of  Robert Franklin Stroud. He was incarcerated for 54 years of his life with 43 of those years in solitary confinement. In that time he became a respected ornithologist (bird expert) and  educated himself in many subjects.

It made me think of what we are capable of when we join forces with this universal intelligence. We don’t have to go to solitary confinement to uncover our  talents and gifts, but we do need to sacrifice something of a lower nature for a higher one.

When we go into the solitude of our minds, nature will begin to reveal her secrets to you too!

Are you ready for a revaluation?

 

 


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