June 19, 2019
Honesty doesn’t always pay but dishonesty always costs
What is it about not being honest with ourselves or with others that people think they can hid and get away with? I tried to lie as a kid when I thought I would get punished, but I always got caught. Some how I never was able to get away with lying.
But what I’m talking about is not being real with ourselves. Being brutally honest with what works or what’s not working in our lives and making a change. I can remember staying in a relationship longer than I wanted to because I did’t want to hurt the other person. I compromised by values and rationalized (which I refer to as rational lies) to myself. Gosh, it was such an awful feeling that effected my health. I had headaches all the time!
Honest is the best policy. At the end of the day, being truthful and getting something off your chest to reveal what is in your heart and mind is so liberating. As a coach, I see this pattern so often. You get stressed and feel anxiety because you don’t want to change, even if you’re unhappy. You would rather numb the pain, hide the pain, shove it under the rug, stuff it, avoid it, lie about it, minimize it, blame others or anything to not having to deal with it. There is always a price to pay.
Let’s face it, it can be uncomfortable to reveal what you’ve been trying to hide. We are as sick as our secrets. So let the truth set you free, and get real like Pinocchio.
November 1, 2018
You are only as sick as your secrets. I want to be a part of a conversation that breaks down shame. Life happens. It’s about what you do with it. That’s were the grace lies.
Sean Corn Yogi & Humanitarian
I was brought up in a time where you kept things within the family. You know, those family secrets. My parents were first generation American, they were both Holocaust survivors. When they came here after the war, they worked really hard to make a living and raise a family. I can’t even image all the things they went through and witnessed. They had many secrets. They didn’t want to talk about all the horrible things they experienced and I can understand why. However, by them keeping secrets about their life, caused me to continue this cycle which resulted in a lot of shame and guilt that kept me emotionally captive. This is where addiction can hide its ugly self. Until I became aware that the secrets were not protecting me but keeping me a prisoner in my own life did I decide to liberate myself from them.
If you are caught up with the mind-set of what will the neighbors think, or if your afraid to shine, be different, stand out, be real, be authentic, be original, be vulnerable, Just be YOU! There is goodness in you. You are worthy! You matter! You are amazing! You are loving and you are loved!
Share your beautiful self with others. Remember if you didn’t have a shadow, there would be no light.