I Lost My Passport!

November 6, 2019

Focus on the outcome not the obstacle.

Last week I was in Germany celebrating my Mom’s 90th Birthday. It was a great celebration and it was a total surprise to her. People came from all corners of the globe. However, it could have turned out to be a bummer for me since I lost my pocketbook with my passport, wallet, money, credit cards, license and all my identification. I left it on the platform train station seat in Frankfurt. I already boarded the train to Munich when I discovered it missing. Yikes!

How on earth I did that, I really couldn’t say. What I do know is that I had to stay focused and sharp if I wanted to get it back. So, I got off at the next station, took a local train back to Frankfurt and after several attempts to locate it, I went to the information booth and someone had found it and brought it there. OMG, I was so relieved. All my things were still in it!

Although I was stressed and anxious, I kept my mind on my bag and saw it in my minds eye back in my possession. Not for a second would I entertain the thought of not getting it back. Focus on the outcome, not the obstacle..

It is so important to keep your mind sharp and focused on the task ahead. When you’re under stress the best thing you can do is take deep breaths in and out, and keep your thoughts focused on the best possible outcome.

Also, the lesson I learned was I am going use a shoulder wrap to keep my passport and important things in, and stay focused and breath! There’s always a lesson to learn!


Too Much Stress!

August 7, 2019

This was a sad weekend. After hearing the horrific news about the shooting in El Paso, I also got a few calls from friends who were feeling anxiety as well as a client who is struggling from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

It seemed where ever I turned someone was experiencing some sort of distress. It is estimated that 1/3 of the children today suffer from some sort of anxiety disorder. That means that they have a hard time regulating their emotions. What is driving their behaviors?

I can remember when I was around 9 years old and in the 4th grade, I forgot my homework and the teacher made me go sit in the back of a 3rd grade class to teach me a lesson. Well needless to say I was humiliated, stressed and felt completely horrible. I balled my eyes out and was afraid to tell my parents about this, so I just kept it to myself. I became fearful of many things after that. These are some of the things that can cause anxiety in children.

Children will develop all sorts of disorders from events where they don’t feel safe and protected. Besides the children today are more disconnected from nature. The internet and social media can create social isolation from bullying. Lack of exercise and movement as well as the diets and environmental factors  are also causing psychological disturbances within children. Parents are stressed out too,having to juggle so many things on their plate.  And children as well as adults are being bombarded with way to much stimulation.

So what can you do? Go outside, connect with nature, play, communicate in a loving way. Shut off the TV or computer, put down your phones and move, dance or do some form of physical activity. Eat more fruits and vegetables and get rid of the proceeded foods. Engage in more social activities.

There are many natural approaches to anxiety rather than medication. I know I found them, and I know you can too.


Dream Yourself Into Being

July 24, 2019

As soon as you pursue a dream, your life wakes up and everything has meaning.

Barbara Sher

Lately, I’ve been honing my skills into really shaping the life I want. I’ve been on a quest to step into a totally different reality. To do this I have to do what the mystics called, shape shifting. That is dreaming yourself into a state of being. So, of course the first question you have to ask yourself is who do you want to be, what will you be doing and why?

This is an ancient belief in all cultures. It is what the movie The Transformers are all about. But, before you can do something, you have to become that someone. If you want a new personal reality, you have to shift your personality. The more I talk to people the more transformation they want to make in their lives but they feel stuck, confused, stressed, full of anxiety or depressed. You will not be able to shape shift if your emotional state is in turmoil.

 

You must release any tension in your mind/body/spirit to allow for the freedom to travel the realms of different dimensions. To let yourself go and explore what is possible. Imagine the life you want. Set yourself free and morph into whatever shape comes through you. Kids do this naturally when they feel safe enough to play. How about you? Are you ready to shape shift? Do you need guidance to release the tension for you to get started? I’m here to support you as you learn how to mold into a whole new YOU!


I’d Like to Get to Know You

February 27, 2019

“To get to the next level of greatness depends on the quality of the culture, which depends on the quality of relationships, which depends on the quality of conversations. Everything happens through conversations.”

 Judith E. Glaser

Why is it that negative conversations and comments stay with us so much longer than a positive one? If we are in a fight or argument with our co-worker, boss, spouse, friend, or relative, we tend to hold on to those emotions much longer than when we are getting along and cooperating.

Well it has to do with how we are wired. Our brains release hormones and neuro-peptides such as adrenaline and cortisol when we are stressed, angry or feeling bad. These chemicals last for 26 hours or more in our blood stream.

When we are happy and feeling good, we release the chemical oxytocin. This is the love hormone, or what is called the tend and befriend hormone.

Unfortunately, oxytocin does not stay in our bodies very long, so it must be replenished often. The good news is that when we become aware of this, we can change the way we communicate with others to down regulate the stress hormones and up regulate the feel-good ones.

One of the best ways to do this is by looking into the eyes of the person you are talking to.

Being mindful of how our behaviors affect others is key to building trust and transforming a conversation from negative and stress producing one to a positive and cooperative one.

The bottom line is this, a defining question for your company is: What is the quality of the emotional relationships here?

By learning a few tools, strategies, and techniques you can change the dynamics of the environment where everyone feels good. And when everyone feels the love, productivity goes way up too.

Understanding the Neuroscience of Conversations and applying this wisdom inside companies transforms individuals, teams, and organizations and opens new pathways for mutual success.

Are you ready to transform your company?

 


Stressed to Blessed

February 19, 2019

One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was from a horse master. “Its not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.”

Stress, it is simply unavoidable, right? I mean it seems like every day there is something that can take you on a journey that disrupts your serenity. Just yesterday, I was working on a power point presentation for a client who needed to insert some videos into it. Now I don’t normally do this sort of thing, however, I thought I would help him out. Yikes, it took me on a road to oblivion, but, I did get it done. Then, I came home to find that my older daughter didn’t clean out the garage like she promised. At this point, I needed to take some deep breaths take a walk, and shake of the frustration of the day. Whew, some days are like this.

 

What takes you over the edge? I know when I get stressed, the best thing for me to do is to do something physical to release the tension in my body, because it becomes physiological. In other words, my bodies functions get compromised and it goes into survival mode, changing the way my organs & cells respond.  It does this so fast that if I don’t change my energy, over time, this can become a repetitive pattern causing all sorts of negative reaction to occur.

So, take a walk, go to a yoga class, dance or take a bike ride. Find something that brings joy to your day.Change the energy before it gets locked into your physiology. Go from stressed to blessed, it feels so much better!


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