Going Down the Rabbit Hole

October 9, 2019

“If you don’t know where your going, you’ll wind up some where else.”

Yogi Berra

What is it that you really want? When I was a teenager, I didn’t have a purpose or direction in life. I didn’t have a focus that kept my attention. My father got sick when I was about 14 years old and passed over when I turned 17. He lived with cancer for a few years which was a very difficult time for my family. I completely rebelled and lost sight of anything and everything that I could have wanted for myself. I had no aspirations or goals. I was just drifting.

I was in  survival mode. As time passed and our family healed from our loss, I was able to begin looking at my future with new eyes. I started focusing on what I wanted in life and applied my gifts and talents to horticulture. I opened a plant business which I truly loved. My attention on learning everything I could about plants grew and grew (and so did my plants). As I evolved so did my passion to learn about nature, health, herbs and about people. This took me to the field I am in today, coaching. I love it!

 

 

You see, when you’re not sure where you want to go, any road will take you there. When you have clarity, you can navigate a path that will bring so much joy, satisfaction and happiness into your life. Having a purpose and sticking with it, is the answer to so many of your life’s questions. So, ask yourself, what do you really want? What are you willing to devote your life too? There is something inside of you that no one else can do just like you! If you want to go down the rabbit hole, make sure it is with a purpose, otherwise any road will take you to no where.

 

 


Don’t Leave Me Out!

May 22, 2019

 

Are your thoughts and words supporting you and creating a beautiful vision for your future or sabotaging you and keeping you a victim of your past? Words change worlds and make the invisible, visible.

As humans, our need to connect and feel like we belong is more important than anything else. When we don’t feel like we belong, we don’t feel safe, when we don’t feel safe, there is no trust, and when there is no trust, we protect ourselves and shut down.

When we shut down, there is no room for growth, the ability to learn or create. It feels like a pit in your stomach, like an unspoken entity that wants to be heard but you’re too afraid or don’t know how to talk about it.  Our emotions go into overdrive, fear sets in and our nervous system triggers the fight, flight or freeze responds. You’re in pure survival mode. Our amygdala gets hijacked and our brains are up-regulating stress hormones which compromises our immune system, causing dis-ease.

As opposed to when we feel safe, there is a feeling of openness and trust. The energy is completely different. There is a coherence between the heart and the brain which allows for cooperation, sharing, compassion and growth. We are able to navigate the uncertainties of life with faith and courage. When we feel safe and connected, we are building, expanding, developing, celebrating and creating possibilities that we didn’t see before. We fall in love with life!  The hormone oxytocin, the love hormone is oozing from our hearts.  Trust is generated by our pre-frontal cortex or the executive brain. The ladder is generated by our primitive brain, or the limbic brain. This is the shift we need to make so we can evolve from the survival mind-set to the creative mind-set.

Our words and the energy behind them can make someone feel included or excluded.

So, the question now is how do we transform a conversation so we can communicate on a higher level to open up the connections with ourselves and others.

It’s by making the invisible, visible. We must become aware of the feelings that are being triggered inside of us and the chemical cocktails we are either up regulating or down regulating within our bodies through the language of conversations.


Stressed to Blessed

February 19, 2019

One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was from a horse master. “Its not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.”

Stress, it is simply unavoidable, right? I mean it seems like every day there is something that can take you on a journey that disrupts your serenity. Just yesterday, I was working on a power point presentation for a client who needed to insert some videos into it. Now I don’t normally do this sort of thing, however, I thought I would help him out. Yikes, it took me on a road to oblivion, but, I did get it done. Then, I came home to find that my older daughter didn’t clean out the garage like she promised. At this point, I needed to take some deep breaths take a walk, and shake of the frustration of the day. Whew, some days are like this.

 

What takes you over the edge? I know when I get stressed, the best thing for me to do is to do something physical to release the tension in my body, because it becomes physiological. In other words, my bodies functions get compromised and it goes into survival mode, changing the way my organs & cells respond.  It does this so fast that if I don’t change my energy, over time, this can become a repetitive pattern causing all sorts of negative reaction to occur.

So, take a walk, go to a yoga class, dance or take a bike ride. Find something that brings joy to your day.Change the energy before it gets locked into your physiology. Go from stressed to blessed, it feels so much better!


Go Into The Unknown

August 23, 2018

If you would create something, you must be something.

Johann Wolfgang Goethe

In a world that seems to be moving faster and faster into automation, how are we going to survive? AI (Artificial Intelligence) is here. More and more people’s jobs are being replaced by a machine. Which is a good thing if you can see it that way. We really aren’t designed to do medial tasks. We are creators and meant to create. The only problem is most people are in survival mode and lost their abilities to stir up their creative juices. If we feel threatened we are only concerned with surviving. Everything we do will be centered around protecting our lives and  that leaves no room for creativity. Being creative is liberating. It is free expression and allowing yourself to go into the unknown with a feeling of wonder, joy and excitement. It is turning on your mind to possibilities. That is what we are here to do.

To build, or play music, dance, write, invent, discover or anything that releases your gifts. so if you’re one of the people who lost their job to AI, see if you can turn being upset into being grateful. Because there is where you will find your passion to create.  It is in you!

Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known.

Carl Sagan


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