Practice the Pause

June 17, 2020

How hard is it to keep cool under pressure? For me it has been a practice. I would be okay with strangers and not react, but with people close to me, well that was much harder. That knee jerk reaction would just get the better of me. I would say things I later would regret. It also started to become a pattern. Every time my older daughter would do or say something that I thought wasn’t right, I would open my big mouth and put my two cents in. This would go on and on until I finally became aware of what about the dynamics of our relationship I was playing a part of.  I admit, I do not like the way she chooses to live her life but she is an adult and I must learn to pause. It ain’t easy!

Practicing this has made all the difference in myself and my relationship with her. Not that she has changed her habits or life style, but I have created a space for being present without judgement or resentment. She really is my greatest teacher. Teaching me patience, acceptance, non-judgement, love, compassion, peace and happiness. Who is your greatest teacher? Do you have  someone close to you that presses all those painful buttons in you? Once I looked deeper into our relationship I saw unhealed parts in me that she was reflecting back. Love can be messy. It can be painful. It can be raw and vulnerable. Practicing the pause, allows for healing to take place. It allows you to surrender to the moment and just sit in whatever is bubbling up in you without reacting. However uncomfortable it may feel in the moment, stay with the pause and it will eventually begin to dissolve into peace, and that peace will radiate out into others.

Listen deeply. breath deeply, and love deeply. It is here where you will release all those old patterns of hurt and suffering. The world is hurting right now. People are hurting. I have learned to pause, to be mindful of what I am doing and how I am being that either contributes to the suffering or contributes to happiness and peace. What are you contributing to?  Here’s a cute little video to bring some joy into your day!


Keep the Pause

May 28, 2020

I have never felt so connected to the earth than I have at this time. I have always been a tree hugger hippie that loves to walk barefoot in the grass. I have always had a deep connection with nature and can spend hours in quiet solitude just being in the midst of her beauty. I knew that the environment was crying out for help sending SOS signals for a very long time.

 

Something had to give. Our world has been in a state of crisis for a long time. Everything was out of balance. Now finally, there is a pause. Now we are awakening to what we knew had to stop. We can not go on the way we have and think that everything is going back to normal. We, as a collective whole have to change or we shall perish. This earth is both fragile and resilient, as people, but there comes a point of no return.

We must learn to reconnect with nature, to find a balance that is symbiotic and interdependent. A way that will benefit our needs and give back to the endless supply of her bounty that wants to provide and give. We can not continue to take and take without giving back. We reap what we sow, and if we aren’t sowing healthy seeds we will leave the soil barren and destitute. The seeds of thought, the seeds of crops, the seeds of love are all connected. It all starts with healthy and right minded thinking. To nurture and care for our bodies, our minds, our thoughts, our emotions, our words, our actions, our spirit, each other, our communities and our world.

This is a pause. A time to reflect, to slow down and feel. To find compassion for all living beings. To observe nature and rediscover the magnificence of life.  Look deep into the eyes of another and you will see the reflection of yourself. Look deeper and you will see the universe in yourself. Look even deeper and you will see the connection and see the oneness. Now is the time like no other. It is time to reconnect and find balance to heal the earth and ourselves.