High Anxiety

November 14, 2019

The Holidays are quickly approaching and that means people become more stressed than any other time of year. People put so much pressure on themselves to get everything done. Being around family can trigger certain behaviors that you would rather avoid.  It seems like everyone is so stressed out these days. Anxiety is the # 1 condition that children are now plagued with. The research is showing that here on Long Island NY, where I live that Xanax is the highest prescribed medication than anywhere else in the country! Why are people so stressed? And a bigger question is why are children becoming so stressed out?

There are three types of stress that people experience.

  • Physical Stress: Injuries to the body, such as broken bones, torn ligaments, wounds or any other trauma that can inflict the body.
  • Chemical Stress: Food poisoning, hang overs, chemical sensitivities, electro-magnetic interference from Wi fi, environmental toxins, viruses and other such reactions.
  • Emotional Stress: Single parenting, working two jobs, divorce, type A personality, work overload, traffic jams, deadlines, unexpected bills, caring for elderly parents and the list can go on and on….

All of these will affect the mind and body in a negative way.

When you are having a difficult time quieting your mind, your body will give you signs that your out of balance. IBS (Irritable bowl syndrome), headaches, rashes, aches and pains and a myriad of other symptoms can appear as well as disturbed sleep, depression and so on. 95% of all illnesses are stress related.

Taking Xanax and other such medication has become a crutch and an addiction. Anxiety can be treated in natural ways by developing a healthy lifestyle.

Here are Seven tools that can help ease the stress and anxiety.

1-Breath: Take a few deep guttural breaths in and out when you feel like your head is spinning and your thoughts are racing. It will calm the neuro-pathways in your brain and relax your body.

2-Movement: Take a walk, dance, yoga, qigong, swim or anything to change the energy in your body. Your body always keeps score. Emotions are energy in motion, so change the energy and change the emotion.

3-Diet: Unfortunately, our food change has become corrupted. The more live natural and organic foods you can eat, the better. Eliminate sugar, processed foods, wheat, meat and dairy as much as possible. It has a direct correlation to anxiety in stress. A healthy microbiome is #1 defense against illness and disease.

4-Meditate: Quieting the mind chatter and focusing on a mantra is a wonderful practice to stay in the present moment and eliminate distraction.

5-Nature: Connect with the outdoors. Take a walk in a wooded area or by the ocean. You are a part of nature and so many people have disconnected themselves from the natural world. Touch the soil with your feet and feel the energy from Mother Earth. It is healing.

6-Purpose: Discover what you love to do and do it every day. What are your gifts, abilities and talents? By focusing on your purpose, you will find that your mind will be absorbed in something greater than your worries.

7-Laugh: Laughter is good medicine. You can heal so many ills through laughter. It is good for the mind/body and soul.

Also reach out and talk to a professional, such as a coach, therapist, or specialist that can help and support you. Having someone who is compassionate and understanding to talk to is vital to heal the wounds, trauma and anxiety that you have bottled up inside yourself.

Let’s change the course of direction for our children and ourselves by utilizing these natural ways to alleviate stress and anxiety rather than numb and medicate.

Let’s become a more compassionate, grateful, loving, caring, understanding, creative and imaginative world. It all starts with YOU!


But I Meant Well.

October 24, 2019

The road to hell is paved with good intentions.

English proverb

How many times have you heard someone say, but I meant well. As a parent, you always want the best for your children and family right? If you own a business, you always want to make the best decisions for your employees, right? In government, the elected officials always want to do their best for the people, right? In corporations, they want to do and be their best for their stake holders and provide quality products and or service, right?

 

I could go on and on listing ways that we all start out with good intentions, however if you do not fully understand what the impact will be, your intentions will backfire and turn into something that is corrupt, hurtful, harmful, and even dangerous. Your intentions must be grounded in spiritual law and sound wisdom. Every intention must be a conscious choose for the greater good of all. The world is in a state of turmoil and upheaval because of intentions based on greed, and the believe that you and I are separate. Families try to protect themselves or make choices based on

 

ignorance. This can be very harmful, even though your intentions weren’t meant to be. Our intentions must be based in love. They must be for the greater good. Things are in chaos due to the lack of understanding, consciousness, compassion and believing that nature is outside of us.

True good intentions, are paved with a holistic approach. It is the golden rule. What we do to one, we do to all. Your intentions are powerful. Your impact is even more powerful. Find kindness, strength, love, compassion, beauty, and virtues of grace in your heart to open yourself to goodness.

 

Good intentions come from the heart, not from the head.

Being of service and keeping yourself humble will be sure fire way to guard against good intentions turning toward hell. Keep the journey onward and upward.

 

 


Change Is Coming

October 3, 2019

 

“Mother Earth is giving birth to a co-creative humanity. There’s not a majority anywhere, because old leadership does not have the authority to guide us.”

Barbara Marx Hubbard

I don’t believe anyone is not feeling some sort of struggle, pain, change, conflict or suffering in their lives or someone close to them. The world is going through a massive evolutionary time.

When you are against someone or thing there is no room for growth, collaboration, co-creation or advancement. You stay stuck in a mind set that is destructive rather than constructive. This pulls things apart rather than brings things together. There is a sense of separation, difference or competition. There can be no winners, everyone losses in this arena. This has been the model of health care, politics, business and relationships that has dominate our world for a millennium but is now collapsing. We can no longer sustain a world this is only concerned with oneself. This is an “I”-Centric focused way of being. The culture of a home, business, organization and world is literally dying because of this way of being.

When we become conscious of the fact that everything is connected and what we do to others, we do to ourselves, we can then begin to embrace a “WE”-Centric way of being.  I mean, even if you look at the word, WE it is full of I’s.

Being kinder, compassionate, understanding and creative is all about sharing and staying open to our differences. Diversity is essential for business growth and expansion. Different points of views and ways of looking at things is a must for the creative process.

Learning how to communicate in a way that unites is the key to creating a culture of cooperation. We are social being. We need each other to survive. Everything you say, think, do and feel effects everything else whether you can visibly see the impact or not. There is an evolution happening. You can choose to do this through revolution or through finding a peaceful solution. We can thrive if we choose to co-create together.

 

 


Respond-Ability

March 22, 2018

It is not only for what we do that we are held responsible, but also for what we do not do.                                                              Moliere

This is such a powerful quote that made me think of all the things I am responsible for. I love my work and feel a deep sense of responsibility to be a great coach. I invest a lot of time, money and energy to improve myself every day. However I feel that being responsible is also about  speaking my truth, standing in my truth and stepping into my power.

In the past, I was a people pleaser so I would compromise myself for the sake of others.

That wasn’t being responsible to myself. The first person I must be accountable to is me. To stand in my own power and truly be my best, I must understand my values take responsibility for them. This is being and giving your best. I coach many people who are learning this as well. Learning to say NO and speaking their truth and living their best life is the responsible way.

How about you? Are you ready to stand in your power? If you need help let’s talk.

Here is my Tedx talk to watch too.


Learn To Earn

August 3, 2017

3 Tips to Learning

1. Know why you are learning.

Your brain always needs a motive to learn something before it will actually do it. Learning actually has so many possible benefits that everyone should make it a top priority. You can learn how to be successful, you can learn from the mistakes of others, you can learn new useful skills, and you can learn how to live a healthier lifestyle. Don’t just take my word for it, many great men and women throughout history endorsed learning.

Albert Einstein said “Intellectual growth should commence at birth and cease only at death.”

Henry Ford said “Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young.”

Earl Nightingale said “The minute a man stops learning, our world will begin to pass him by. He will be left a lonely and disconsolate figure in its wake.”

Abraham Lincoln said “All I have learned, I learned from books.”

John Adams said “I read my eyes out and can’t read half enough…the more one reads the more one sees we have to read”.                                                                                                                                         Thomas Jefferson, Andrew Carnegie, Napoleon Hill, Winston Churchill, Bruce Lee, Mahatma Gandhi, Leonardo da Vinci, Confucius, Socrates, and more.  All of these people had something positive to say about learning. Learning is how you move up in life, and expand your awareness to new ideas.

  1. Form a habit of learning.

This is crucial. True life-long learners know they have a lot to learn, and that the more time spent learning the better. They cut down on distractions like television, radio, video games, and social media to free up more time for learning. They listen to audio books during commute. They read everyday. You don’t have to go to the extreme with this.

However imagine if you just made a habit of spending an hour a day reading. Over the course of a year that would add up to 365 hours spent reading! Don’t fall into the pessimistic trap of thinking you have to give up your life or spend hours every day reading for it to have any effect. Just make small changes, slightly adjust your habits in favor of learning, and watch how your life will start to change with all the new knowledge being poured into your brain.

As Mahatma Gandhi put it “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”

3. Surround yourself with like minded people who support you.

Meet up with people who are experts in your topic of study. Go to classes, seminars, courses, live events, and network with the people there. Keep friends around who understand and see the benefit of life-long learning. Tell your friends and family what you plan to learn and get them to run accountability checks on you.

Life-long learners learn from a multitude of sources, especially when they really want to master a subject. Books, audio books, courses, seminars, other people, and mentors. These are all fair game for self-education and a life-long learner. Expect success and be confident that you will learn whatever it is you are trying to learn as this will make it easier for you to learn it! All of this will motivate you to stay focused on your goals and learn. Learning truly is a lifestyle.

Learning should be fun! If you want to explore how I can teach you to be a better learner to be a better earner, let’s talk. Always a free consultation.

Enjoy this short video on 13 tips to become a better learner.


Your Power Within

October 6, 2015

your invisible powerWe all have a power within us when realized and activated can alter your reality. Your dreams and desires have been given to you to make manifest. A quote from Genevieve Behrend in her book, Your Invisible Power that was written in 1912 says; ” When your understanding grasps the power to visualize your heart’s desire and hold it with your will, it attracts to you all things requisite to the fulfillment of that picture by the harmonious vibrations of the law of attraction.” Let’s break this down so that you can understand it better. First, understanding comes from study. You must amerce yourself in studying the natural laws of the universe to become aware of the infinite potential in the quantum field. Then you imagine and visualize what it is that you would like to make real. Remember, every thing is created twice, once is your mind and then that energy transmutes into the physical. Your heart’s desire has to be felt through out your body in intense emotion ( energy in motion). In other words, your mind and body must become one and the image is so real in your mind’s eye that you are experiencing the image as already manifest. Keep your attention on that image and be thankful that it has already been created in one form. Now all you have to do is believe, take action toward your desire and it must come to you because you are radiating the frequency out, like a radio wave into the universe. Practice, and study. The power is within you.


Deep Emotions

July 15, 2015

I just got home from watching the movie, Inside, Out.If you haven’t seen it, you must. It was awesome! If you want to understand how your emotions control your life, this explains it in a very fun and simple way. It is jam packed with how we deal with the events in our life. There’s the emotions of happiness, sadness, anger, fear, and disgust. The movie dwells into the mind of a young girl who’s parents decide to move from their small town to a city. She was so happy in her small town with lots of great memories. But, now she is in a new home,school, and environment that stirs up all kinds of emotions. To find her way back to happiness, she must get in touch with her sadness first. The movie also touches on core memories, imagination, the subconscious mind, abstract thought, and dreaming. As an empowerment coach, I found this movie a refreshing beginning course for anyone interested in wanted to understand themselves more, and understanding oneself is one of the most important reasons we are here for. So,do yourself a great service, have some fun, and learn how your emotions shape your life!emotions


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